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turtle7 is offline turtle7 Post #1  May 26,2010, 4:47pm
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I first joined eharmony in my late twenties - belonged for about two months, but couldn't really afford it. Here I am a couple of years later, in my mid-thirties and I have rejoined. BUT between late twenties to mid-thirties is a HUGE growth in intellect, life experience, and a priority shift. I have seen a few quality guys, but most of my matches either ignore my interest - not the kind of guy that I would be compatible with AT ALL - even if he isn't interested (the kind of men I like have the courage to say no thank you.) or are really a stretch for a match. The ones who have closed me - and they were mostly absolutely right we weren't compatible - I was really happy about, because at least they had guts.

I have to reset everything in order to retake the test - I don't want to lose track of the few quality guys that I do get but after five months and 160 matches I have talked to three! One of the three thought marriage was a product of the ignorant masses. This doesn't even fall into the ballpark of my values. How is my personality profile matching me with these men? My only guess is that I was a different person when I took that test and I need to retake it (although I always respected marriage so who knows on that one). Thoughts or comments? Has anyone done this?
 
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If you aren't getting the matches you want and you've had a great deal of personal growth like you said, I would suggest retaking the test.
 
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Since it has been a few years since you took the Personality Profile Questionnaire you should definitely take it again. There have been changes in the Questionnaire along with changes in you.

I would recommend that you plan on spending at least one hour for the Questionnaire, maybe two.
 
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I was told by customer care that retaking the test does not remove any matches you have already received.
 
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turtle7 wrote :
One of the three thought marriage was a product of the ignorant masses.
Sounds like a normal guy to me. That's not a bad way to describe it.

I don't think the quiz is supposed to result in matches that agree with you on everything, just people who are compatible.
 
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Hi Turle7,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice and welcome back to eHarmony!

I agree that if it’s been 2 years, it’s definitely a good idea to retake it! You’ve grown, and the Relationship Questionnaire has been updated.

Just contact our Customer Care team through the FAQs page: eHarmony Support Home Page.

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Do retake the test. I have been on and off eHarmony for the last 5 years depending on my relationship status. I was encouraged by customer service to retake the test and I'm glad I did. The first time around I focused on arts/culture and creativity as opposed to how active and outdoorsy I am. As a result I met a lot of cerebral, sedentary types - great conversationalists but entirely wrong for me. This time it's been a pretty, healthy, in-shape group, educated enough to know that healthy minds leads to healthy bodies. Take the test again you'll find that your needs and wants change over time.
 
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zoey1118 is offline zoey1118 Post #8  June 27,2010, 9:15am
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Katie,

The link does not provide an option for retaking the test. Can you be more specific please?

eH_Advice_Host_Kate wrote :
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Just contact our Customer Care team through the FAQs page: eHarmony Support Home Page.

Enjoy!

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Zoey I looked and it's on the "popular help topics" page ... but all it says is to contact customer care. Here's their number: 800-951-2023

They usually won't do it if it's been less than 6 months since you took it. But more than 6 months, they recommend you retake it.
 
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