Profile review for a nonreligious geek

...I just want to run this by you guys to get some feedback and make sure I didn't phrase anything in a way that would make (the right) women run away...

if you are honest, the right woman will not run away.

The one thing Chris is most passionate about: Enjoying life with friends and loved ones, movies, technology, food (both cooking and eating out), photography, and occasionally politics.
everyone is passionate about enjoying life, so I would try to pick something a little more unique here. I like to think of this section as just kind of the first thing you'd say to interest someone in hearing more about you.

The most important thing Chris is looking for in a person is: I am looking for somebody with a kind heart and a positive mind who wants not only to be loved, but to also return that love in equal measure. Somebody whose intellectual curiosity leads her to want to understand others and the world around her rather than make harsh and irrational judgments. A woman whose warm smile and caring hug could melt all the problems in the world away.


I would just keep the last line and lose the rest. Less is sometimes more.

Basic Information



Occupation: Network Administrator Age: 28 Height: 5' 6" Wants Kids: Yes Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic Religion: Neither religious nor spiritual Drinks: About once a week Smokes: Never

In my own words

The most influential person in Chris's life has been:

I have a small yet close group of friends who were very influential on me during a tough point in my life. They all helped me in their own way and it would be unfair to single one of them out. They reminded me of the fact that I am a great, kind, and caring person whose heart is in the right place. They also showed me that I'm valued because of my sometimes geeky quirks, not in spite of them, and that I should never shy away from being myself.

The point of this question is to reveal something good about you and relationships. I always think it's kind of a copout when guys refuse to answer the question with one person.
The three things which Chris is most thankful for:

• My good friends.
• My great family.
• My overall good fortune and place in life.

there are certainly no deal breakers here but there's nothing memorable or catchy either.

Three of Chris's best life-skills are:

• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
• Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis

ditto
The one thing Chris wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

I can be a little shy at first so my lighthearted side comes out initially, but underneath that lies a side of me that can be serious if I need to be. I have a very thoughtful, understanding, and compassionate nature that comes naturally to me. Especially when others need somebody to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. I'm also very low drama kind of person and would rather play the role of diplomatic mediator than get involved in a screaming match.
Too me ... this is TMI and the things you say no one notices ... just kinda makes me think you aren't really as thoughtful etc as you think you are or people would notice. Don't mention anything about screaming matches. No one likes them, and the fact you mention them here just suggests to me you are one of those ppl who finds yourself in one more often than not — and probably for some good reason that you yourself just don't get. Instead pick some colorful thing about you that is memorable and inviting and that would make a chick want to talk to you. For myself, I put that there is a science geek lurking underneath my curly head of hair and silly grin.

The things Chris can't live without are:

• Close friends
• Laughter
• Good Food
• Fun tech (computer, iPhone, home theatre, etc)
• The intimate companionship of a significant other

*yawn* OK I am sorry. But your list could be more interesting and colorful.

The first thing people notice about Chris is:

People notice my happy and comedic attitude. I'm a very pleasant person to be around and have a knack for making others around me smile and laugh.
I think if you have a comedic attitude it ought to shine forth in the profile more.

Some additional information Chris wanted you to know is:

I feel I should mention two things upfront that are potential deal breakers for some people. First, my partner would need to be cool with the fact that I don't believe in God, supernatural deities, angels, the afterlife, etc, and have no desire to go to church unless somebody's getting married or buried. You don't have to agree 100% of course. That said, I still celebrate Christmas. It's one of my favorite times of the year. Second, I'm one of the "formerly married". I'd be happy to go into details later, but the short story is that we weren't compatible, there are no kids or financial obligations, I'm past it, and am eager to start anew.

No. This is too much attitude. These are things that can be handled best in an interactive dialogue of some sort if and when you get to OC with a match. The fact you are not spiritual and not religious is already noted in the profile, and obviously we all have our relationship past. These things just don't need to be said. To me the point of this particular box is to tell them good things that don't fit anywhere else. Little waving green flags for go ahead and contact me.

My interests
Chris typically spends his leisure time:

Hanging out with friends, staying in with a TV show or a movie, spending time on the computer, listening to music, or playing a video game.

no deal breakers again, but nothing original or memorable really either. You could do better. Be more specific maybe? And if you like to cook, I might put that here as well. Big plus in my book if a guy will admit he likes to cook.
The last book Chris read and enjoyed:

Apart from some books about food and cooking, the last books I read were the Harry Potter series. Yeah, I know, I'm a geek. A good friend of mine got me into it a few years ago and I have to say I was surprised how serious and mature the themes get as the series progressed on. It starts out lighthearted enough with a heavy focus on setting up the fantasy element, but shifts to a dramatic and character development focused story arc. I have the same taste when it comes to movies. You can throw in all the special effects and explosions you want but if it has no plot then I could care less most of the time.
Don't put your taste down. It's far more attractive to be enthusiastic about your likes.

According to my friends:
Chris's friends describe him as:

• Affectionate
• Funny
• Kind
• Thoughtful

Make sure you look natural, and that you are enjoying life in your photographs. No frowny intimidating shots.

Hey guys,

I'm relatively new to the online dating scene so I just want to run this by you guys to get some feedback and make sure I didn't phrase anything in a way that would make (the right) women run away. Let me know, and thanks! First Name:ChrisLast NamePrivate)Street AddressPrivate)City, State: Farmingdale, NJZipPrivate)Age: 28Date of BirthPrivate)



The one thing Chris is most passionate about: Enjoying life with friends and loved ones, (horror, comedy?) movies, technology (more specific), food (both cooking and eating out) (too generic...if cooking say cooking fresh pasta or something more specific, photography, and occasionally politics (not sure if I'd go here yet)


The most important thing Chris is looking for in a person is: I am looking for somebody with a kind heart and a positive mind who wants not only to be loved, but to also return that love in equal measure. Somebody whose intellectual curiosity leads her to want to understand others and the world around her rather than make harsh and irrational judgments. A woman whose warm smile and caring hug could melt all the problems in the world away. (I think this is good)
Basic Information

Occupation: Network Administrator Age: 28 Height: 5' 6" (this could be your major problem if matches don't respond. Many women care about height unfortunately so it may not be your profile)
Wants Kids: Yes Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic Religion: Neither religious nor spiritual Drinks: About once a week Smokes: Never

In my own words

The most influential person in Chris's life has been:

I have a small yet close group of friends who were very influential on me during a tough point in my life. They all helped me in their own way and it would be unfair to single one of them out. They reminded me of the fact that I am a great, kind, and caring person whose heart is in the right place. They also showed me that I'm valued because of my sometimes geeky quirks, not in spite of them, and that I should never shy away from being myself. (sounds good to me)


The three things which Chris is most thankful for:

• My good friends. (cliche)
• My great family. (cliche)
• My overall good fortune and place in life. (cliche)

Three of Chris's best life-skills are:

• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
• Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis

The one thing Chris wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

I can be a little shy at first so my lighthearted side comes out initially, but underneath that lies a side of me that can be serious if I need to be. I have a very thoughtful, understanding, and compassionate nature that comes naturally to me. Especially when others need somebody to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. I'm also very low drama kind of person and would rather play the role of diplomatic mediator than get involved in a screaming match. (not bad, but look at the others' suggestions)


The things Chris can't live without are:

• Close friends (cliche)
• Laughter (cliche)
• Good Food (cliche)
• Fun tech (computer, iPhone, home theatre, etc)
• The intimate companionship of a significant other (isn't this why you are here)

The first thing people notice about Chris is:

People notice my happy and comedic attitude. I'm a very pleasant person to be around (change this to Others have told me that I am a very pleasant person.....rather than to just stating that you are so as not to sound conceited) and have a knack for making others around me smile and laugh.


Some additional information Chris wanted you to know is:

I feel I should mention two things upfront that are potential deal breakers for some people. First, my partner would need to be cool with the fact that I don't believe in God, supernatural deities, angels, the afterlife, etc, and have no desire to go to church unless somebody's getting married or buried. You don't have to agree 100% of course. That said, I still celebrate Christmas. It's one of my favorite times of the year. Second, I'm one of the "formerly married". I'd be happy to go into details later, but the short story is that we weren't compatible, there are no kids or financial obligations, I'm past it, and am eager to start anew. (Change "past" to "passed" because girls that care about grammar will not like you mixing up the two words. I think you being upfront is a GREAT thing personally)


My interests

Chris typically spends his leisure time:

Hanging out with friends, staying in with a TV show or a movie, spending time on the computer, listening to music, or playing a video game. (kind of makes you sound boring...spice it up maybe? More specifics)

The last book Chris read and enjoyed:

Apart from some books about food and cooking, the last books I read were the Harry Potter series. Yeah, I know, I'm a geek. A good friend of mine got me into it a few years ago and I have to say I was surprised how serious and mature the themes get as the series progressed on. It starts out lighthearted enough with a heavy focus on setting up the fantasy element, but shifts to a dramatic and character development focused story arc. I have the same taste when it comes to movies. You can throw in all the special effects and explosions you want but if it has no plot then I could care less most of the time.

According to my friends:

Chris's friends describe him as:

• Affectionate
• Funny
• Kind
• Thoughtful