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jackc83 is offline jackc83 Post #1  May 24,2010, 8:51pm
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #2  May 25,2010, 6:23pm
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Is this the same profile you used the last time you were on EH?
The only things that stand out to me is you are very religious.
The book you are reading. Does it have a bad reputation in the church at this time?
 
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This is the same profile I currently use... yes

The book is NOT really all that "controversial"... it has pretty good reviews and is quite popular.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #4  May 25,2010, 7:22pm
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jackc83 wrote :
This is the same profile I currently use... yes

The book is NOT really all that "controversial"... it has pretty good reviews and is quite popular.
Your profile gives the impression of a very religious man.
This will narrow your matches. Not Eh's fault. Your going to have to be patient to find the match that is right for you. Thats all.
O, and make sure you dont have any funky pics either.
 
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As livenlearn said, you seem very religious. This isn't a bad thing, but you mention it in your profile four or five times. This can be a turn off for even those who are religious themselves.

You might consider taking some of the references to religion out. Mentioning it once or twice should be enough.

You can use the space for your Five LWOs a little more. You say you have a dog. What is it's name? You just need to add a little spice to your profile.
 
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it's a really good profile! the only two things i can think of are: i want a close up of your smiling face, cuz i can't see it behind those sunglasses... and the other thing is, i would be really afraid of you being "passionate" about "your religion"... you speak about it so much that i wonder if you are tolerant to women who are not as passionate about it, or perhaps believe sojmething different from you. i would worry that you would be preaching to me all the time.

have you excluded other religions/beliefs from your options on eharmony? that might be cutting back on your matches...

you seem like a fabulous guy though...! i'm sure someone is out there just right for you. and probably someone who shares your passion about your religion!
i'd hang in there, and at the least, put up a good photo or two of you smiling!!
 
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The phrase "I am practically never mean to anyone" makes me think that there are times when you are mean.

Then I wonder "how mean is he?" "Does he have a temper" "Who is he mean to?"

Then I get scared and would probably close you.

You could just say that you are nice to just about everyone!
 
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Lookingandlooking wrote :
The phrase "I am practically never mean to anyone" makes me think that there are times when you are mean.

Then I wonder "how mean is he?" "Does he have a temper" "Who is he mean to?"

Then I get scared and would probably close you.

You could just say that you are nice to just about everyone!
A perfect example of how to turn a negative into a positive! Thank you, Lookingandlooking.
 
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livenlearn wrote :
Your profile gives the impression of a very religious man.
This will narrow your matches. Not Eh's fault. Your going to have to be patient to find the match that is right for you. Thats all.
O, and make sure you dont have any funky pics either.
I usually only message other girls who also mention having a strong faith as well.

Also the only pic I have posted up right now is the one I have on here. the one of me w/ my shades and my dog in my arm

I was told by a female friend that it's a great photo. It's taken outside, making me look "healthy" and "active", I have a great smile, and I'm holding a super cute dog! Her name's Sandy, btw... I love her to bits.
 
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That last part about your dogs name and love her to bits, perfect add to your profile.

The shades, while understandable while outdoors, is a major no no if it is your only photo on your profile. You need to have one that shows you, and you alone (no dog), eyes, ears, nose and everything else showing as it really is.
 
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