PrincessStephanie is offline PrincessStephanie Post #1  May 21,2010, 4:50am
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I met a nice guy on eHarmony in the past but it didn't work out (he went back to his ex)... I'd like to meet another. I've been back online for 2 months, had heaps of men come up as compatible, I initiate contact (using the prompts) and never hear from them again. It is getting frustrating! I wonder what I am doing wrong. Not that I want all of them to respond at once! ... but they aren't even closing the match if they think I am unsuitable for them...
Can anyone help?
 
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howardtheduck is offline howardtheduck Post #2  May 21,2010, 4:55am
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Try a couple speeding straight to Open Communication. See if the results are any better. If not, examine your profile and how it is written or ask for a literate friend's input. Good Luck
 
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Most (about 90%) of your matches are going to be non-paying members who can't respond.

Are your matches viewing your profile? If they are viewing your profile then they are at least active and your best course of action is to wait, at least until the next FCW (I note you are in Australia so don't know when that would be).
 
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Welcome to the boards, PrincessStephanie! Have a look around and feel free to participate in any discussion you like.

I'll encourage you to keep trying. It can take a while for your One to pop up in your matches.

I too get men initiating contact or returning my requests then they kinda disappear. Ok, not kinda, they do. Sometimes they do come back. I tend to leave my matches open for a long time.
 
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Thanks for your help everyone.

AndeilsMe, I keep the match open for ages... just in case... too!!

Gr8Guyn2008, they are looking at my profile... and just not coming back.

howardtheduck, I will do the Open Communication line but please know that I am literate and my profile does read well.

I think part of the issue is that I live in the country - some men discount me straight away but I am able to travel with my job...

I think you have to be a paying member on eHarmony to get matches here in Australia.

Thanks again.
 
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Hi Princess! Did you ever get your profile reviewed here? That can help identify anything in it that seems fine to you but that triggers other people in some negative way.

Also you can post photos for review, or talk about your preference settings, etc. It's possible there's something that's putting people off.

However. It's possible you're doing everything right, and it just takes patience!
 
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