Have I completely exhausted the matches in my area?


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
stylebook is offline stylebook Post #1  May 18,2010, 4:33am
stylebook's Avatar

is with Coco

Quick Study

Joined: Feb 2010

Posts: 72

See profile

I've been on eHarmony since about February and looking at the numbers, I've been matched with more than 700 women. At this stage, the vast majority of them - roughly 93 percent - are either closed or archived (closing someone is a real headache these days, but that's a different story).

I could generally always count on at least one or two matches per day who I thought were attractive and interesting enough to start communication, but over the last two weeks or so it seems like the pickings have been slim (sorry if that makes it sound like a meat market).

So, the question is - have I been matched with all the women in my city who meet my "criteria?" I know the real answer to this is "no" and that there are always people joining for one reason or another, but it just seems odd that there has been no one over the last few weeks.

Also, I live in a major city, so the amount of eligible singles in the area shouldn't be an issue.

Anyone else run into this problem?
 
  Reply With Quote
Sassafras54 is offline Sassafras54Advice Official Moderator Post #2  May 18,2010, 6:41am
Sassafras54's Avatar

Your Community Coordinator

Moderator

Joined: Oct 2009

San Pedro, CA

Posts: 9,085

See profile

Yes, and I also live in a big city.

One thing you can do is reconsider all your preference settings ... can you move them one more notch? Distance especially makes a big difference. Remember if you have it set to 30, you won't get someone who lives 31 miles away. You can set it to 60 and close out people for distance.

Age? Changing it from say 35-40 to 34-42 adds people.

Etc.!

Another thing you can do is edit your profile. Can you add/delete various keywords in your interests, activities etc.?

Beyond that, pay attention to when the free communication weekends happen ... you might see the ads for them, or usually somebody posts here when they see an ad for an upcoming FCW. Those give an opportunity to communicate with matches who are unpaid.
 
  Reply With Quote
livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #3  May 18,2010, 8:36am
livenlearn's Avatar

Yay! spring has sprung.

Virtuoso

Joined: Dec 2009

cosmos

Posts: 3,439

See profile

Sounds like it.
You went longer then I did so you must have more on EH in your area then I did.
You will still get a match here and there over the week though. Flexible matches probably.
 
  Reply With Quote
eH_Advice_Host_Kate is offline eH_Advice_Host_KateAdvice Official Moderator Post #4  May 18,2010, 11:59am

Moderator

Joined: Sep 2008

Pasadena, California

Posts: 1,814

See profile

Hi Stylebook,

Since you limited the distance, it is common for the matching to slow down, because there’s going to be a finite number of compatible matches signing up in your area. As you said, it’s likely that more will sign up, but it’s common that they’ll come in less frequently if you’ve limited your distance radius.

Sassafras54 has some good ideas regarding looking into other creative ways to open your settings. There may be even other ways that aren’t as well-known (and may or may not apply) such as whether or not you are open to having/adopting children (if you put “Maybe” but lean toward “No” you will still only be matched with matches who have “Maybe” and “Yes”. If you said “No”, but would be open given the opportunity, would be open to having or adopting children with the right person.

Some of Renee’s articles offer some excellent things to try and consider in opening match settings:

eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Distance
eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Personal Preferences
Using eHarmony: Exploring the 'No Way' Setting

Good luck. I hope more come pouring in!

~Kate
eHarmony Advice Host
 
  Reply With Quote
LastCookieInTheJar is offline LastCookieInTheJar Post #5  May 18,2010, 9:16pm
LastCookieInT…'s Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Feb 2010

LosAngeles

Posts: 34

See profile

stylebook wrote :
I've been on eHarmony since about February and looking at the numbers, I've been matched with more than 700 women. At this stage, the vast majority of them - roughly 93 percent - are either closed or archived (closing someone is a real headache these days, but that's a different story).

I could generally always count on at least one or two matches per day who I thought were attractive and interesting enough to start communication, but over the last two weeks or so it seems like the pickings have been slim (sorry if that makes it sound like a meat market).

So, the question is - have I been matched with all the women in my city who meet my "criteria?" I know the real answer to this is "no" and that there are always people joining for one reason or another, but it just seems odd that there has been no one over the last few weeks.

Also, I live in a major city, so the amount of eligible singles in the area shouldn't be an issue.

Anyone else run into this problem?
I wish I had 700 matches.
I've also been a member since February and have only gotten 126 matches. Of those, about 1/3 don't have a photos, so they are an instant close. I have also gotten more than a dozen matches from other states hundreds of miles away even though I have my distance set at 60 miles. What the heck is up with that? I live in Los Angeles, so you would think there would be lots of matches for me.
In the last three weeks, I'm lucky if I get two matches a week.
I'm disappointed.
 
  Reply With Quote
Sassafras54 is offline Sassafras54Advice Official Moderator Post #6  May 19,2010, 8:44am
Sassafras54's Avatar

Your Community Coordinator

Moderator

Joined: Oct 2009

San Pedro, CA

Posts: 9,085

See profile

Hi Last Cookie in the Jar! That is a fabulous username! lol.

If you set your distance preference to "Very Important" you shouldn't be getting matches outside your area. If that's how it's set, and this is happening, there may be something wrong with your account ... you could call customer care.

I also live in LA and found that 60 miles worked a lot better than 30 miles, because for me it brought in OC, Ventura, San Gabriel, and the Valley. You can always keep the ones that are say 40 miles away and close the 2-hour-drive ones.

Take a look at Kate's links ... can you reconsider some of your preference settings?
 
  Reply With Quote
mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #7  May 19,2010, 11:50am
mrflyer's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Dec 2009

my computer

Posts: 2,948

See profile

Could it be a seasonal thing? Maybe this is the month where everyone in your city sorts their sock collection instead of dating.
 
  Reply With Quote
Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #8  May 20,2010, 7:34am
Gr8Guyn2008's Avatar

I'm crippled by the fear That I've fallen too far to love

Sage

Joined: Jan 2008

Orlando, FL

Posts: 19,670

See profile

mrflyer wrote :
Could it be a seasonal thing? Maybe this is the month where everyone in your city sorts their sock collection instead of dating.
There is certainly a seasonal component to online dating (or any dating). In my experience it follows this time line.

At the end of the summer people will begin looking for their "holiday" date, someone to go to all the Christmas and New Year parties with. They will have found someone to fill this role by about early October. Opportunities will dry up from sometime in October till about Valentines day. New matches / dating opportunities will then start to appear for a couple of months as people hunt for their summer / vacation dating partner. By May people will have found someone to date through the summer. Then things will pick back up around August after vacations are over for the summer. The time frame may be slightly different depending on your location but this is what I have found over the years for my area of Florida.
 
  Reply With Quote
Mr79percent is offline Mr79percent Post #9  May 20,2010, 7:52am
Mr79percent's Avatar

So long, farewell.

Pacesetter

Joined: Mar 2010

Posts: 451

See profile

Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
There is certainly a seasonal component to online dating (or any dating). In my experience it follows this time line.

At the end of the summer people will begin looking for their "holiday" date, someone to go to all the Christmas and New Year parties with. They will have found someone to fill this role by about early October. Opportunities will dry up from sometime in October till about Valentines day. New matches / dating opportunities will then start to appear for a couple of months as people hunt for their summer / vacation dating partner. By May people will have found someone to date through the summer. Then things will pick back up around August after vacations are over for the summer. The time frame may be slightly different depending on your location but this is what I have found over the years for my area of Florida.
Pretty close to what I have experienced as well. Early fall always seems to result in the most responses. Summer is a dead zone. Holidays are a dead zone.

It's been about 3 weeks since anyone has answered 5 questions. I've turned matching off as a result. I'll give it a week, turn it on, and see if anything interesting pops up. The matches I'm currently getting are clearly not active and I'm not communicating with anyone. One woman sent an icebreaker after I sent 5 questions, so I assume she is non-paying. I'll keep it open until the next FCW but after that if I don't hear back I'll close her.

Pay-dating sites are being hurt by the free sites IMO. I don't think eH is getting many new signups anymore.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Matches dried up dreamingartist Using eHarmony 30 October 17,2010 5:41pm
No Matches PieFace Using eHarmony 7 December 10,2009 5:55pm
# of African American Matches? finance30 Love in Color 8 December 8,2009 12:22pm
Are my matches really matches? JongJungBu Using eHarmony 23 September 29,2009 7:51pm
NEW Premium Flex Settings Idea (for Paid Subscribers Only!!!) Mr. Nice Guy Using eHarmony 20 September 21,2009 9:41pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Thanks! dmi said it best when he said the variation between races are too wide to exclude any race.” –  sun73

Join the “How much does race play in your dating someone?” discussion

“ If you know, then, that you've already friend-zoned him, I don't see much point in meeting. I misread your op and thought you were just trying to decide how you felt about him. If you know you ... ” –  singinggirl

Join the “Yellow flags...To Proceed or not to proceed, that is the question?” discussion

“ We also have the same friends. Yesterday there was an outing and I decided to go regardless if he was going to be there or not. Every time he saw me he went somewhere else. One of his friends ... ” –  lynntlb78

Join the “Can I wait and move on at the same time?” discussion

“You will have the option to close a match at any time, but if it is ONLY giving you the option to close, that means the other person has already closed it.” –  eH_Advice_Host_Eve

Join the “Question, archive, close...” discussion

“ Very true, this is a high percentage of the members who use free comm weekends.” –  eH_Advice_Host_Eve

Join the “dreaded free weekend” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 6:16pm.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0