Ravenlock99 is offline Ravenlock99 Post #1  May 14,2010, 7:40pm
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Have you ever wondered if you are in a picture on someone elses eHarmony account and don't even know it?

I really find it amazing how many women will post all of their pictures containing a bunch of friends both guys and girls. I just wonder if these friends even know or care they are in all these pictures that people post on the site. Some of the photos of their friends can be quit unflattering too.

I don't know if they are trying to show they have a lot of friends or what, but it actually turns me off to them when I see all their photo's are group shots.
 
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Yes, it's annoying. Hey, look...I have friends. Worse yet, are the ones with guys as if to say, "This is what I can get. If you aren't this hot, don't bother."

But seriously, ladies, do NOT post a group photo of you with a bunch of girls unless you are the most attractive in the group. Otherwise, my eyes go to the other girl in the photo thinking....WHO IS THAT?!?!? And you suddenly become less appealing standing next to "hot" girl. Sorry, just some advice.
 
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Yes, it's annoying. Hey, look...I have friends. Worse yet, are the ones with guys as if to say, "This is what I can get. If you aren't this hot, don't bother."

But seriously, ladies, do NOT post a group photo of you with a bunch of girls unless you are the most attractive in the group. Otherwise, my eyes go to the other girl in the photo thinking....WHO IS THAT?!?!? And you suddenly become less appealing standing next to "hot" girl. Sorry, just some advice.
I have to agree with this. If a match of mine was in a group picture, and she wasn't the one I was hoping she would be, I would close her out.
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
I have to agree with this. If a match of mine was in a group picture, and she wasn't the one I was hoping she would be, I would close her out.
I asked a girl friend of mine about this one time. She had an online profile on match and had a bunch of group pics. I told her to crop them or remove them. She asked why. I told her, the guy may not know which one is you. That is frustrating. You expect him to figure it out? WE HATE THAT. At least eH allows for captions so you can say "2nd from the left, white top" or something.

STILL, I also told her not to include one with her hot friends....and NEVER with dudes! Again, she asked why. I told her that the guys will want to date THE HOT FRIENDS, not you. She thought that by showing she had pretty friends, that it made her more desirable. I was like....what? Um, yeah, more desirable to be in the "friend zone" in order to get to your friends maybe.

Same rule applies for guys showing pics of them with "hot" girls thinking women will say....oh, hot girls like him, so I should too. Yeah, right. They see insecurity in those pics big time and close right away.

Just show pics of yourself. If you must not crop, then add a caption telling which one is you (and crop your hot friend out haha). If you must have a dude in your pic, then the caption should say "brother, cousin, etc." and not scream "my ex" or "my friend...who I have hooked up with in the past or have wanted to." haha
 
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I would feel very uncomfortable posting pictures that contained people who hadn't consented to being posted online.

I have a hard enough time in my photography hobby getting past the idea that photographing other people (not portraits) is invasive. Even though I've done it a few times...it always makes me feel a little like I ought to apologize.
 
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I said this in another thread, but every single time i saw a profile with pics that included guy friends, i always thought the friends were more attractive.
 
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I don't see this sort of thing too much on eHarmony but I see it in most of my matches on Match. They will have 20 photos and everyone will be a group shot and no indication of which one they are.

At least on eHarmony you can put captions on your photos, though people rarely do.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I would feel very uncomfortable posting pictures that contained people who hadn't consented to being posted online.

I have a hard enough time in my photography hobby getting past the idea that photographing other people (not portraits) is invasive. Even though I've done it a few times...it always makes me feel a little like I ought to apologize.
Unless you are taking photos of individual strangers that they have not asked you to take I would not think that you need feel that you have been invasive.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Unless you are taking photos of individual strangers that they have not asked you to take I would not think that you need feel that you have been invasive.
Well, that's just it, isn't it? Sometimes when I'm shooting I see someone in a crowd who looks like they'll make an interesting composition. Photographers do it all the time...I'm just having a hard time getting used to it.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
At least on eHarmony you can put captions on your photos, though people rarely do.
I do wish people would take better advantage of using captions. "Out with friends!" is entirely unhelpful. So is "I'm in the black top" when multiple people are wearing black tops.

I don't like group pictures. Usually the detail is not very good and it isn't unusual not to be able to get a good look at someone. That's beside the fact that I hate playing "Where's Waldo" and trying to figure out who I need to be looking for.
 
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