wildlifeguy is offline wildlifeguy Post #1  May 12,2010, 7:48pm
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So I've been using eHarmony for quite awhile now (over 2 years) and have gone through over 1,000 matches with little success. I've only made it to OC maybe a dozen times. Now I'll admit that I'm not the most attractive guy, but I feel my personality more than makes up for it. Anymore, I just use the Free Comm. Weekends because I can't justify paying for a full subscription anymore for no communication. I'm not really sure whether to just give up on it or what to do at this point. Also I have a pic on my profile which I will admit is a horrible pic (I absolutely hate having my pic taken) and I've completed all the profile info. I have also messed with the settings, which has given me tons of matches, but little communication. Any advice is appreciated.
 
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wildlifeguy wrote :
So I've been using eHarmony for quite awhile now (over 2 years) and have gone through over 1,000 matches with little success. I've only made it to OC maybe a dozen times. Now I'll admit that I'm not the most attractive guy, but I feel my personality more than makes up for it. Anymore, I just use the Free Comm. Weekends because I can't justify paying for a full subscription anymore for no communication. I'm not really sure whether to just give up on it or what to do at this point. Also I have a pic on my profile which I will admit is a horrible pic (I absolutely hate having my pic taken) and I've completed all the profile info. I have also messed with the settings, which has given me tons of matches, but little communication. Any advice is appreciated.
One big problem is that photos matter so much. You can't help the way you look...to a certain extent. That "extent" is what is important. You need to get some good pics of yourself. Have a friend shoot a ton of digitals (they cost nothing) and find 12...yes 12 to put on there. Which 12?

Your pictures tell a story about you in addition to your profile. Take pictures of you doing things that you love to do...and then add a caption to each picture using a little humor. You may get a friend to help you with this. But think about how those pictures amplify the rest of your text. Everyone has a "good side" and more flattering outfits etc. Use all of those tools.

As for your profile, you should post it on here if you want an honest (and sometimes BRUTAL) critique for free. It can't hurt.

Good luck!
 
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while I am new to eh, I thought I'd give my 2 cents, since looking at profiles is still pretty fresh for me... if I were you I'd be pretty frustrated-

however in agreement with t.a.c. - you've really, really got to get a few good photos.
YOU know you have a rockstar personality, but all that doesn't come through when I'm reading it. Yes, I might think you're hilarious but that won't get me to answer your first questions. It may sound harsh, but in the online dating world, IME pictures make or break you.

also- you need some fresh eyes on that profile. post it, get some feedback. I can tell you I did that, and it helped immensely.
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fireflynaps wrote :
while I am new to eh, I thought I'd give my 2 cents, since looking at profiles is still pretty fresh for me... if I were you I'd be pretty frustrated-

however in agreement with t.a.c. - you've really, really got to get a few good photos.
YOU know you have a rockstar personality, but all that doesn't come through when I'm reading it. Yes, I might think you're hilarious but that won't get me to answer your first questions. It may sound harsh, but in the online dating world, IME pictures make or break you.

also- you need some fresh eyes on that profile. post it, get some feedback. I can tell you I did that, and it helped immensely.
good luck~
I'm surprised that you need to be on here, since you resemble Sophia Loren when she was younger-what do you think guys?

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wildlifeguy wrote :
So I've been using eHarmony for quite awhile now (over 2 years) and have gone through over 1,000 matches with little success. I've only made it to OC maybe a dozen times. Now I'll admit that I'm not the most attractive guy, but I feel my personality more than makes up for it. Anymore, I just use the Free Comm. Weekends because I can't justify paying for a full subscription anymore for no communication. I'm not really sure whether to just give up on it or what to do at this point. Also I have a pic on my profile which I will admit is a horrible pic (I absolutely hate having my pic taken) and I've completed all the profile info. I have also messed with the settings, which has given me tons of matches, but little communication. Any advice is appreciated.
I agree with the others and would also like to add that if you only participate in Free Comm Weekends and is not a paying member with a bad profile pic then other non-payers cannot see the bad pic and you can't see their pics. This can lead to very disappointing future meetings experiences not to mention scammers .
 
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My message board profile is nearly identical to my actual profile. Although not all the categories are on here. I'm an intensely private individual and I don't open up to most people until OC. I have actually had a bit of success using yahoo in conjunction with eharmony.
 
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Hi WildLifeGuy,
Do you mean your EHA profile is like your EH profile? ?? I just looked at your EHA profile and there's not a whole lot there.

What is "horrible" about your profile pic? You do not have to be the most beautiful man who ever lived, but you do need to have a photo that makes eye contact with the viewer, looks friendly, etc.

I don't know, if you're intensely private and don't want to open up online, it might be that online dating isn't a good investment for you, of money or energy/time, and thinking of ways to expand meeting women in real life would work better?
 
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Sorry...yeah my EHA profile is like my EH profile...it helps if you remember to click save before exiting......it's updated now.
 
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I'm really shy........it's even worse when I try to talk with women......that's why I went the online route.......I tend to reveal much more when it's more anonymous.
 
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While I understand not wanting to reveal your entire life online, your profile is sorely lacking in anything that would attract, well... anyone.

That is, if your profile on here is really how your profile on eH is.

I agree with the others who say using eH only on FCWs and having a "horrible" photo as well as a less than fully filled out profile is not going to garner any positive results.

You might want to consider starting a thread with your profile posted for review.
 
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