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Currently in OC with 2 women who both seem very interesting. My question deals with etiquette, if I want to try dating one at a time, what would be the best way to phrase it? Should I mention anything at all? What did you think when someone put you on hold to date someone else? Anyone wanna share their experiences on this subject?
 
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I have been put on hold due to "I'm pursuing another relationship." None of those women ever returned.

I might let them start again from the beginning, if they did, though.

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My view is you should meet both these women, before making any decision.

If your experience is anything like mine, it is unlikely you'd want either as a partner, so it's best not to summarily dismiss someone.
 
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Sparkenwolf wrote :
Currently in OC with 2 women who both seem very interesting. My question deals with etiquette, if I want to try dating one at a time, what would be the best way to phrase it? Should I mention anything at all? What did you think when someone put you on hold to date someone else? Anyone wanna share their experiences on this subject?
Do NOT tell one that you're putting her "on hold" to try dating the other unless you want her to be gone.

Do what I do when I'm confronted with the situation. Make a date with each close together (like one on Friday, one on Saturday). After you've met them both and gone out with both at least once or twice, then pick the one you like better.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I have been put on hold due to "I'm pursuing another relationship." None of those women ever returned.

I might let them start again from the beginning, if they did, though.

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My view is you should meet both these women, before making any decision.

If your experience is anything like mine, it is unlikely you'd want either as a partner, so it's best not to summarily dismiss someone.
What he said....
In my opinion, there is no exclusive relationship until you both determine there is an exclusive relationship. Until then, all bets are off.
 
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I would go ahead and meet them both. It's not like either of you knows enough to be exclusive at this point and a coffee meet is not a marriage proposal.
 
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all good advice here... I'd meet them both too, (and I'd be just fine if I found that out later about the guy I was dating as well).

You have to be able to make a decision... and you really can't do that in the real world without meeting them both.
Good luck!
 
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I would definitely make a date with both.

The odds that things will work out great with both of them are probably low.
 
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