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ben2010 is offline ben2010 Post #1  May 12,2010, 11:11am
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My 6 month subscription expires in 5 days and I'm not sure I want to renew. On the plus side..... I met (in person that is) one girl, though she did not work out she was the type of person I'd like to meet. Again on the plus side 6 months of tweaking my profile , reading on the forum etc has heighten my awareness of what i'm looking for in a relationship and how to present my best self . Lastly on the plus side knowing that the super computers at EH are busy finding me dates had a sort of placebo effect, I was/am more confident and asking more girls out in the "real" world.
On the negative side... 140 hard earned Dollars !!. In addition Ive already done the personal reflection as well as gained the placebo effect.
Why did you renew OR tell me what a sucker I am to give EH more $$$
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My 6 month subscription expires in 5 days and I'm not sure I want to renew. On the plus side..... I met (in person that is) one girl, though she did not work out she was the type of person I'd like to meet. Again on the plus side 6 months of tweaking my profile , reading on the forum etc has heighten my awareness of what i'm looking for in a relationship and how to present my best self . Lastly on the plus side knowing that the super computers at EH are busy finding me dates had a sort of placebo effect, I was/am more confident and asking more girls out in the "real" world.
On the negative side... 140 hard earned Dollars !!. In addition Ive already done the personal reflection as well as gained the placebo effect.
Why did you renew OR tell me what a sucker I am to give EH more $$$
Thanks
Ben
I say give it a rest, at least for a while. See how you feel after a month or so of not looking at eH every morning, hoping that one of the pumpkins plopped in your mailbox will magically turn into a carriage.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #3  May 12,2010, 11:33am
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Well, I have a friend who was on EH and off for 2 years and is now happy with a match she met here. Looks like it may turn into a LTR.
You dont have to deleat your account if you let your subscription run out. You can turn off your matching until you decide to come back. The time away may bring you a new set of matches that are not flexible also.
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #4  May 12,2010, 11:50am
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No, because spending $140 to meet a one single person in 6 months is pretty crazy in terms of a cost benefit analysis..... because if you paid an actual real life match making service you would be guaranteed more dates that would cost less per date than this...and you would actually get the dates.....because you can take what you've learned and use another site with better results.....

......because it is starting to fascinate me how people are getting used to the idea of paying for a matchmaking service that produces virtually zero results and keeps telling people to be patient and keep paying and paying because maybe....some day.....you just might meet someone......the same way that maybe....some day...you might win the lottery....... This is worse than a gambling addiction.......
 
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JohnK67 is offline JohnK67 Post #5  May 12,2010, 12:00pm
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I say "no". Walk away for 6 - 12 months.

I join for three months at a time...

Month One: 5 to 10 matches a day with photos.
End of Month One into Month Two: 5 to 10 matches a day without photos
End of Month Two: Around 7 Flexible Matches a day
Coming into Month Three: Less matches overall skipping days entirely.

There is no point for me to continue... the matches always seem to run out before my three month subscription.
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eH_Advice_Host_Renee is offline eH_Advice_Host_Renee Post #6  May 12,2010, 2:04pm

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Hi Ben,

Even though you haven't met your special match yet and are, therefore, thinking about not renewing your subscription, I am glad you can share some positives about your eHarmony experience.

How we wish that we could guarantee each members' success and that it would happen a.s.a.p. But there is a reason why we offer 12-month subscriptions. And there are many successful members who, like livenlearn's friend, had to dedicate even more time to their search before finding their special match.

I wouldn't doubt that, like you, many of these member's also wondered if they should cut their losses and invest no more of their time or hard-earned money in their eHarmony search.

I would love to be able to unequivicably recommend that you renew your account. But I really think it's important to approach your search with a generally positive and hopeful attitude, and, feeling that you may be a sucker if you renew probably isn't the best way to continue your search.

If you do decide to let your subscription expire, your eHarmony account will remain open, and you will be able to continue receiving and reviewing matches. However, if you don't want to receive new matches, you can turn the matching service off from your profile or close your account completely.

I know that many members are recommending that you take a break and that may be the right thing for you at this time. But to provide another perspective, you may also want to check out the stories of members who also considered leaving eHarmony, but they decided to continue their search and found their special match!

http://www.eharmony.com/success/stories/nearly-gave-up.

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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #7  May 12,2010, 2:30pm
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Don't wait until the day of, they will automatically renew your subscription within 24hrs of your current paid in full date. Cancel now, so you don't get charged.

If you then decide to renew on or after the end of this subscription. Google for promotion codes to get better price.
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JohnK67 is offline JohnK67 Post #8  May 12,2010, 3:35pm
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If the poll attached to this thread is an accurate sampling, I think eH should focus a bit more on customer retention...
 
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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #9  May 12,2010, 3:36pm
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I've been a fan of EH until the recent "upgrade." Since then, there's more confusion and less quality communication. Two of my friend have decided to postpone their renewals until this "upgrade" is fixed.
 
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loves2write is offline loves2write Post #10  May 12,2010, 6:25pm
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I've been a member for less than a month with a three months subscription, and already I don't know if I will renew. Other than most of my matches having a similar educational background, I'm not finding a whole lot of compatibility. I've completed 100 percent of my profile, but I still have been matched with people who gamble, write about things their match "must do" in terms of expressing opinions, and smoke like a burnt pot roast.

A lot of my matches have fewer than 25 words in their entire profiles, have no photos, or have photos showing how much they own, and very few appear to have looked at my profile. At least half of the matches have been listed as flexible, but that doesn't matter because some of those seem to have more in common with me than the ones who are supposed to be good matches.

I'm amazed at how unfriendly matches can be. What's the harm in responding to an icebreaker? A "just wanted to say Hi" is not a commitment, and if my understanding is correct, even nonpaying members can send icebreakers.

I'm happy for those who are successful at this process. I have had one date with a very nice man, and neither of us has closed the match, but I still don't think this process will work for me. I'll just have to see what happens over the next two months.
 
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