sexyme13 is offline sexyme13 Post #1  May 11,2010, 10:28am
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Ok, here's the deal...I received some matches over the weekend from eharmony and one of the matches was a guy that I have crossed paths with from another dating site some months ago...I was very interested in this guy, so I made the first contact email. He responded right away, he was nice and funny...we exchanged 2 more short basic emails that day...but it didn't go any further than that...he didn't pursue me...so I figured he wasn't interested and that he was just being a nice guy. So now here it is months later and we have been matched up on eharmony...I want to know if I should just closed the match, since he didn't move forward when I showed interest before. I won't make a move this time, I approached him once already, and felt sorta rejected back then when he didn't show interest, not doing it again...so what should I do?
 
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Send a wink. If he ignores you, then say after 2 weeks, close him out and forget all about it.
If he just winks back leaving the ball in your court again, send him your first questions. If he answers then you know there is some interest. If he doesn't answer, then close him out and forget him.

There are so many people out there and a lot more than just that guy will be well suited to be your special guy. Give the other guys a chance and you just might learn this for yourself.
 
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Don't assume things about why he didn't pursue you before. Could be any number of reasons, many of which have nothing to do with you.

If you like him, you could go ahead and initiate with him. Or wait a couple days and then do it if he doesn't. For all you know, he's interested but feels funny because he didn't pursue you before.

There's always the risk of getting turned down ... but feeling a little rejected (especially by someone you've never met and who knows very little about you) is survivable, right?

Perhaps the Universe is trying to tell you something ...
 
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Thank you guys...both of your responses were helpful...I guess dating can be a little strange so...I just was wondering what to do...because I have been here before with him...
 
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sexyme13 is offline sexyme13 Post #5  May 11,2010, 11:19am
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And Sassafras54 you're right I will survive...just don't wanna go threw the same thing as last time..lol! Online dating....ha!
 
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