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wblack86 is offline wblack86 Post #1  May 10,2010, 5:19pm
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I was matched with a girl that really sparked my interest, so I decided "what the hell?" and set up a full paid account. Put up 7 pictures. When I saw her picture, I was blown away! Yes!! She had 12 pictures up too...

So, It's only been a few days already and she's yet to respond or look at my profile. Hmm...how do I tell if she's a paying customer or not? I mean, it says she has RelyID so that means she has to be paying, right?

I'm just anxious and would have thought by now she'd at least given it a look. I am a handsome fellow.

Just wanting to know what people's wait times are usually like, and how can you tell if they are no longer paying customers?
 
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RelyID lasts for one year. So, she could have paid up to one year ago. I would just wait a bit more. Send a nudge after a week if she hasn't responded. You can leave it open as long as you like, too.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #3  May 10,2010, 8:07pm
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There are others out there. Dont focus on the one. You might find someone else while you wait.
 
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livenlearn wrote :
There are others out there. Dont focus on the one. You might find someone else while you wait.
How often do new matches come in?

I dont know, I was really instantly pulled in with this one.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #5  May 10,2010, 8:25pm
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wblack86 wrote :
How often do new matches come in?

I dont know, I was really instantly pulled in with this one.
Depends on how long you have been on EH paying or not. The longer your here the less youll get. Unless others sign up.
You could do some changes in your matching and get new ones. Like changing distance, age, things like that. There is also a link in one of the front pages to get new matches.
Start sending out questions to others you are remotely interested in and learn how the sight works. And have fun too.
 
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wblack86 wrote :
I was really instantly pulled in with this one.
Probably the most common mistake that we all make. Don't get attached to a picture or a profile. The odds that the person has an active paid subscription at the same time that you do is quite low. (Estimates here by many experienced users, put the odds at only about 10 to 30%.) If you get past that hurdle, there are lots of snags and obstacles in the eH process that can derail a match.

Adjust your expectations. Don't get attached to a match until you've actually met.
 
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Leave it open and see what happens. Maybe she's on vacation for three weeks in Turkey and will check in when she gets back...a couple of days isn't long when people are busy.
 
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melman wrote :
Probably the most common mistake that we all make. Don't get attached to a picture or a profile. The odds that the person has an active paid subscription at the same time that you do is quite low. (Estimates here by many experienced users, put the odds at only about 10 to 30%.) If you get past that hurdle, there are lots of snags and obstacles in the eH process that can derail a match.

Adjust your expectations. Don't get attached to a match until you've actually met.
Yeah you're right. I am usually not so easily attached, and I need to hear stuff like what you said to come back down to earth.
 
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Hi OP,

Forget about the match, either she is not interested or is not paying. Sorry to be so bruitally honest. My last relationship was two months ago, and ever since then I have got back on eH. I almost made it to open communications with one, but the woman was a nutcase.

When it comes to dating women, you honestly have to harden your heart. They will put you on an emotional roller coaster to no end at all. That is until the right one comes along. You will know it then.

My attitude right now is, if a woman is interested, she will respond. If not, the h!@# with her. I just move on. Until I am dating somebody, i try not feel any emotion. It's just not worth it.

Remember, the cardinal rule: Women are a luxury, not a necessity. Sounds cold I know, but it is the truth and reality of life.
 
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dogwood is offline dogwood Post #10  May 11,2010, 4:39pm
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i have kinda gotten playful about the matching process. one batch i send everyone an icebreaker, the next batch.....i don't send anything to anyone. i have gotten responses from both groups. no way to tell so i have made it somewhat fun for me.
 
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