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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #11  May 12,2010, 9:19am
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Hi OP,

Forget about the match, either she is not interested or is not paying. Sorry to be so brutally honest. My last relationship was two months ago, and ever since then I have got back on eH. I almost made it to open communications with one, but the woman was a nutcase.

When it comes to dating women, you honestly have to harden your heart. They will put you on an emotional roller coaster to no end at all. That is until the right one comes along. You will know it then.

My attitude right now is, if a woman is interested, she will respond. If not, the h!@# with her. I just move on. Until I am dating somebody, i try not feel any emotion. It's just not worth it.

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wblack86 wrote :
I was matched with a girl that really sparked my interest, so I decided "what the hell?" and set up a full paid account. Put up 7 pictures. When I saw her picture, I was blown away! Yes!! She had 12 pictures up too...

So, It's only been a few days already and she's yet to respond or look at my profile. Hmm...how do I tell if she's a paying customer or not? I mean, it says she has RelyID so that means she has to be paying, right?

I'm just anxious and would have thought by now she'd at least given it a look. I am a handsome fellow.

Just wanting to know what people's wait times are usually like, and how can you tell if they are no longer paying customers?
To answer all your questions in one place.

Most (about 90%) of your matches are going to be non-paying members and can't communicate. Most non-paying members are also non-active so they will never view or close you. There is no way to tell who is a paying member and who is not. If someone views you then they are at least active but still may not be a paying member.

As mentioned RelyID is a separate cost item but you get it for a year while the subscription to eHarmony can be as little as one month. RelyID only say that at one point they were a paying member.

How quickly someone replies depends on the person and what they have going on in their life. You should just be patient and leave this match open while pursuing your other matches.

You asked when you get new matches (and maybe how many you get at a time). eHarmony runs the search in the middle of the night and usually delivers new matches to you very early in the morning. How many you will get at a time and how frequently will depend on your settings and where you live. If you live in a large city then the odds are that you will get more matches and get some everyday than if you live in a rural area.

It does not cost you anything to leave a match open for a very long time. The suggestion was made to send a Nudge after 7 days. I would suggest that you wait to send any nudges until there is a FCW coming up. Then send nudges to all non-responding matches the day before the FCW starts and after the FCW is over close any matches that never responded.
 
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Wow reading everyones' input I dont feel very encouraged about this,I am new to Eharmony as well,I joined because I was tired of the headgames people played on other sites,and You always hear such positive things about "EH".
 
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SweetSwerenity, Gr8's statistics are his own. And frankly, I get tired of them sometimes (sorry Gr8, but I do). They aren't true for everyone on eH.

Your percentage of non paying member matches will differ depending on a number of factors. Age, location, settings, gender, etc. I'm fairly certain my number of active paying matches is a much higher number than what Gr8 receives just because of these things.

I believe in eH and how they match people as well as the GC process. Much better than sexually explicit e-mails from whatever guy can see my profile on some other sites.
 
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SweetSwerenity, Gr8's statistics are his own. And frankly, I get tired of them sometimes (sorry Gr8, but I do). They aren't true for everyone on eH. I get tired of saying the same thing over and over again. But someone will ask the same question again tomorrow.

Your percentage of non paying member matches will differ depending on a number of factors. Age, location, settings, gender, etc. I'm fairly certain my number of active paying matches is a much higher number than what Gr8 receives just because of these things. Of course I don't guess, I look at the actual numbers.

I believe in eH and how they match people as well as the GC process. Much better than sexually explicit e-mails from whatever guy can see my profile on some other sites.
There have been a couple of people who have reported communication from 50% of their matches but the vast majority of the people that have discussed their number of responding matches report similar low numbers.

Currently I have in my Communicating folder 94 matches. The number of them that have responded in any way is 8 so that is not quite 10%. Some of them have been sitting there since mid January, so I am certainly giving them plenty of opportunity to respond. Oh, and only one got as far as OC though it took her 3 weeks to respond to the my first OC e-mail and we exchanged two sets of e-mails and I have not heard from her a few days again and would be surprised if she does respond back again.
 
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SweetSwerenity137 wrote :
Wow reading everyone's' input I don't feel very encouraged about this,I am new to eHarmony as well,I joined because I was tired of the head-games people played on other sites,and You always hear such positive things about "EH".
I get plenty of matches and while the percentage that are paying members and will respond is somewhat low I do get more dates through eHarmony than I have ever gotten through any other method, including real life. And while I do get a few matches that are obviously incompatible with me right from their profile I would say that I have never had a bad date with an eHarmony match. And I did date two that I would say were a very good fit, problem with this is that they also have to feel the same way.
 
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I sort of look at it this way - eharmony is just ONE way to meet people. Think about it - if they are responsible for 2% of all marriages in the US- then there are 98% OTHER things you should also be doing!

Have fun with EH - just like one of the previous posters said. Send questions to anyone that seems remotely interesting.

There's no reason to close matches unless you really aren't interested.

Before you know it, you'll be asking us how to deal with communicating with multiple matches!

And, go out and do fun things "in real life" to take your mind off of this!

I've been on eharmony almost a year - I have met 5 guys - it does work! And while there are times when it seems like you will never meet anyone, there are other times when you aren't sure who's who!

Have fun and good luck!
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
SweetSwerenity, Gr8's statistics are his own. And frankly, I get tired of them sometimes (sorry Gr8, but I do). They aren't true for everyone on eH.

Your percentage of non paying member matches will differ depending on a number of factors. Age, location, settings, gender, etc. I'm fairly certain my number of active paying matches is a much higher number than what Gr8 receives just because of these things.
My numbers are similar to Gr8's numbers. What I find most frustrating is that eHarmony outright refuses to tell what the real number is. I don't think it is out of the question to think that they know they have X number of profiles and Y number of paying customers. Should be pretty easy to come up with a percentage.

My perception is eHarmony doesn't want to reveal that number not because it would compromise user privacy, but because it would compromise getting new customers because they'd see that a very high number of profiles are simply zombies.
 
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To the OP I am somewhat in the same boat as you. I am young and from New York, for me the matches aren't really flowing in; don't know if its an age thing or my options but I have had only a few matches that actually sparked an interest. I am unsure if its possible for non-paying members to read a mail but if they are able I might suggest including your email (maybe make one for online dating specifically).
 
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