Match Spams from eHarmony?

How is it a false claim?

The questionnaire is a large part on how you are matched.

eHarmony matching occurs in stages
1st: by: compatibility criteria.. (the questionnaire/29 dimenensions)
2nd by: Match settings criteria. (age, geography, etc)

You have some control on who eH sends you, by setting the level of importance (slide ruler) you select in your match setting criteria.
If you do not wish to receive flexible matches, then you can set all the levels of importance to the very (#7) on the slide ruler

Flexible matches.(noted on profiles) This occurs when eH doesn't have any exact matches for you. Flexible matches are compatible on the 29 dimensions, but are just outside your match settings criteria.

However, eHarmony does scan your profile looking for certain key words and adjusts your matching to prefer people with similar words in their profile. Not positive, but the new something to talk about may be a factor too.

eHarmony's commercial was on TV again last night , repeatedly claiming that they offer a unique service by matching people with their compatibilities.

Meanwhile, I started receiving so-called daily "flexible" matches from a couple of days ago. Except for one, all the others (almost 10-15 per day) have completely different family, education and career background. Neither do they share any hobbies that I have. Some of the guys are even over 5 inches shorter than me.

I don't know whether this can be defined as eH match spams. In my industry, one has to pay legal penalty for false claims on the products. I wonder what consequences eH is taking for making false claims of their service on TV.

How is it a false claim?

The questionnaire is a large part on how you are matched.

eHarmony matching occurs in stages
1st: by: compatibility criteria.. (the questionnaire/29 dimenensions)
2nd by: Match settings criteria. (age, geography, etc)

You have some control on who eH sends you, by setting the level of importance (slide ruler) you select in your match setting criteria.
If you do not wish to receive flexible matches, then you can set all the levels of importance to the very (#7) on the slide ruler

Flexible matches.(noted on profiles) This occurs when eH doesn't have any exact matches for you. Flexible matches are compatible on the 29 dimensions, but are just outside your match settings criteria.

However, eHarmony does scan your profile looking for certain key words and adjusts your matching to prefer people with similar words in their profile. Not postive, but the new something to talk about may be a factor too.

You have a lot of time on your hands, don't you?

Let me ask you this: would you rather have an empty mailbox, or a mailbox where they first match you on the compatibility matching, but then find you've limited them from sending these matches because you won't accept someone who drinks more than once a week (maybe they have a glass of wine with dinner every night), or who has children (maybe they're all over 18 and live outside of the house, but they do have children). You'd normally be a great match with this person, but due to YOUR OWN LIMITATIONS you've eliminated them. This is a flexible match.

It's not a false claim, nor is it false advertising. It's giving you an opportunity to open your mind and meet someone you've shut out due to circumstances that you may have not otherwise considered.

So rather than just jumping to the negative, litigation happy pursuits of our country, how about taking a moment to think about how this could possibly be a GOOD thing for you.

It makes you seem more attractive to your matches, too!

Best wishes.

Dude, do you work for eH?

You missed some part in my OP where I said this "flexible" match stuff started a couple of days ago. I haven't changed my profile since last year! I did not mention the details of those match coz I did not leave messages for steorotyping. For you, I guess I have to put everything on table to help you understand it better?

Based on my profile, I used to receive matches from a similar industry where I am working for, close education level, or at least one or two compatible hobbies.

Now from last week, eH added this new feature to my profile, which generated a dozen more matches every day. This was what brought my attention to check out what has been going on because, except for one, none of those matches is compatible to my profile to any extent. To give you a better idea, they sent profiles of cable guys, motorcycle roadriders (look all like wrestlers in their photos), construction contractors, etc. No offense, but people do have different life styles and do look for partners with whom they can share their hobbies with.

If I look at this in a positive way, I hope it was just a computer problem.

If you feel that eHarmony's service is not providing you with suitable matches then you always have the opportunity to discontinue using the service.

However, once again.

All of your matches will meet the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility. Your 29 Dimensions are determined by how you answered the Personality Profile Questionnaire. If you thought the Questionnaire was a joke then that is what you will get. You matches will then be filtered by your settings and the settings are also adjusted by what importance you have set for them.

The two things that you have mentioned that you find unacceptable in your matches are not measured by the Questionnaire and are not considered to be core values for what makes compatible relationship partners. Height is a setting and you can set your Importance to the most Very Important setting and that should keep you from getting matched to guys who are shorter than you are. However there is no setting for having shared hobbies. I would suggest that if you are looking for someone to share your hobbies with that you would be better served on MeetUp.com.

Thanks for putting it all out on the table, I have a better understanding now, that you have no clue how the matching system works.

Good luck..