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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #1  May 9,2010, 5:49am
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What is one thing that you look at on a profile other than if they have a photo or how complete their profile is. One thing I look at is what they wrote down for 'what they wish more people would know about them'.

I think this is a good way to spot any red flags by what they put down for this answer. Many times I have seen girls write down that they wish people would know that they really are a nice person and fun to be around. That tells me that they probably really aren't that nice and fun to be around.

Or one other thing I see a lot is that they wish people would see that they are an outgoing individual.

I think seeing what they write down for that answer is a good way to spot people who you might want to stay away from.
 
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I try not to read too much into profiles but try to get a general idea of who he is. Most of what is on profiles is how you see yourself not how others see you, right? When I have the urge to close a match I'm increasingly telling myself to just stop and think. Am I reading too much into what was written?

Do his hobbies work with mine? We can both like being outdoors but are we in the same ballpark for how we enjoy it? My profile suggests closing the match if it's important I like certain preferences that I won't be interested in.
Cultural interests- if his idea of culture is remotely close to mine.
If his location is more than two hours from me and his profile doesn't strike me as interesting I will close it.
Since I like to laugh does the profile show a sense of humor that I can appreciate?
The kids/no kids question doesn't matter (I'm past the reasonable child bearing age and have none). Not sure how I would handle being in a relationship if he was raising kids but I'm open to find out.
And I have open matches with men that are shorter than me so I ignore this too. And I pretty much ignore the occupation too although I'm amazed at how matches are divorced engineers with kids.

Maybe if I actually start meeting some matches I'll be more decisive but at the same time I don't want to get to the point of being close minded/presumptive. If someone is a real player they probably have learned how to generate the most interest with their profile and I won't be able to spot it anyways.
 
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Since I send First Questions to almost all my matches about the only things that would get a quick close is distance and if they are really tall.
 
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sony12 wrote :
What is one thing that you look at on a profile other than if they have a photo or how complete their profile is. One thing I look at is what they wrote down for 'what they wish more people would know about them'.

I think this is a good way to spot any red flags by what they put down for this answer. Many times I have seen girls write down that they wish people would know that they really are a nice person and fun to be around. That tells me that they probably really aren't that nice and fun to be around.

Or one other thing I see a lot is that they wish people would see that they are an outgoing individual.

I think seeing what they write down for that answer is a good way to spot people who you might want to stay away from.
I disagree with your premise.

It may be that your match is predominantly seen in a work environment where they have a position of authority or leadership. This does not preclude that them from being both nice and fun but it may mean that most people they meet do not get to see that side of them.
 
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To name just one thing for an entire profile ...

I try to discern how much effort they put forth to present themselves, which helps me gauge how serious they may be in this endeavor.
 
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I like to see how many words they used that are high scorers in Scrabble.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I disagree with your premise.

It may be that your match is predominantly seen in a work environment where they have a position of authority or leadership. This does not preclude that them from being both nice and fun but it may mean that most people they meet do not get to see that side of them.


They should not be basing their profile off of their work environment.
 
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vax72 is offline vax72 Post #8  May 12,2010, 2:10pm
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For me, it would be the drinking part. Several times a week and I'm unlikely to continue with that particular match.

A lot of the profiles have the same thing said slightly differently. "I like to go out, meet friends, go shopping, go out for a meal" etc so you see the same things over and over. So I can usually speed read over the rest.

I do like it when it's clear someone has taken a bit of time and written proper answers rather than just one word/sentence.
 
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Buck wrote :
To name just one thing for an entire profile ...

I try to discern how much effort they put forth to present themselves, which helps me gauge how serious they may be in this endeavor.
This is a great point. If it's just a laundry list of their traits and hobbies followed by another laundry list of their wants in a man I usually stop reading cause I already read it all in the last 200 matches.

I confess that I like when my matches swing for the fences in their profiles by trying something outside the box. Even if it doesn't really work. My favourite was one woman who had jokey/stupid trivia questions in her "other stuff i want you to know about" section that you had to score yourself on before you could contact her. Another had a random stream of consciousness rant about hippos. I love that stuff cause it stands out and actually makes me think, hey, this person might be fun to meet.
 
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I try to understand what motivates and drives my match. So instead of looking for red flags, I just try to see what parts aren't described, and need to be asked later. I'm not shy and ask any hard questions I feel can complete my understanding of this person. I do most of my closing after 2nd questions.
 
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