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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #1  May 7,2010, 4:38pm
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The best dates/relationships that formed are the ones that put forth the most effort into their profiles.

Has that statement rung true for you guys. It definitely has for me. I have found that the ones who have not put much effort into their profiles (even if they still wanted to meet) often did not put much effort into the date either. And the ones who were difficult to talk with in the O.C. were often difficult to talk with once meeting them in person .

Has anyone had a scenario where they had someone who didn't put much effort into their profile and was difficult to communicate with in the OC surprisingly was quite enjoyable to be around in real life once you met?
 
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I usually don't talk with those matches that don't put much effort into their profiles. If I request more info and they fill it in, with real stuff (Which is extremely rare), then communication seems to go OK.

I do find that the people who fill out their profiles to begin with seem to be more into actually talking and meeting, overall.
 
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I really have not thought about this but you may be correct that if they don't have much in their profile that they are not going to communicate very well on the date.

On the other hand I have had matches that were very good at communicating both in e-mail and in person and the date still did not go well.
 
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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #4  May 7,2010, 8:41pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I really have not thought about this but you may be correct that if they don't have much in their profile that they are not going to communicate very well on the date.

On the other hand I have had matches that were very good at communicating both in e-mail and in person and the date still did not go well.
I've had that as well where the OC was enjoyable with the person but then when we met in real life they were not nearly as outgoing. I think that is mainly because some folks just communicate better online then in person.

However in all my experience with the site I have never come across a person who was a poor communicator or seemed to put very little effort into their profile or the OC but then seemed pleasant when we were around one another in real life. If they seem reclusive/introverted or unwilling to put forth much effort during the communication process I think that often is just simply the way they are in real life as well.

Even if the interest for future dates is lacking if the two people both have good communication skills they often will still make a pleasant evening out of it.
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