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I guess it's an etiquette question. Is it normal to talk to more than one match at a time?

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- January 1st, 2008, 08:38 pm
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I do it all the time. In fact, I had one time when I was flush with living breathing matches (responding!) and had short intro dates scheduled every day of the week. This has only happend once in two years! Actually it is good not to put your eggs in one basket. I think some folks, I susupect particularly women, will only trade communication with one match at a time. I think that builds up frustration and is in no ones best interests. Finding someone for a serious relationship is a numbers game. At the internet and even up to any number of casual dates stage, they are just a match or a date and not a full blown relationship. So, IMHO, have fun getting to know as many people as possible. Only when things get mutually serious is it time get exclusive.
- January 2nd, 2008, 04:56 pm
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Thanks my friend.
- January 2nd, 2008, 08:16 pm
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Yes! It is completely normal to talk to more than one "match" at a time! Goodness, there are so many! Just don't talk to your matches about your other matches. And before you meet your match in person, look over your previous communications to make sure you have your facts straight. That may sound bad. But until you get to know the person, all you have is a bunch of unconnected information that can be hard to keep straight. Once you meet in person and start to really get to know each other, the anonymity is gone and the "match" becomes "real". But you're still very much in the aquaintance stage. Go slow and have some fun!
- January 3rd, 2008, 01:43 am
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I agree with my twocents..:-)...Enjoy the time that you are on E-harmony, rather than treat it like a chore...
- January 3rd, 2008, 05:44 pm
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If ONLY more than one at a time would talk to me . . . I feel lucky to be in communication with one person every few weeks!
- January 3rd, 2008, 07:03 pm
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Sure I try to communicate with as many matches as will talk to me. Since to vast majority of matches will never amount to anything why waste you taime talking to only one guy at a time you may miss out on a great guy. Just entering into open communications is not like you are engaged or anything you hardly even know anything about each other when you have only shared a few vague emails.
- January 3rd, 2008, 09:26 pm
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Sure, why not? How else will you get to know someone and decide if you want to meet? Reading the profiles isn't enough. I recently started talking to a couple of matches and found that one match & I have really opposing views on many things. Some of them are, for me, deal breakers. Still talking to the other one, though! Have fun talking to your matches!
- January 3rd, 2008, 10:02 pm
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I do it all the time, too. Right now I have 7 in open communication, 3 at level 3 and who knows how many others at the lower stages. I'm 46 and looking for a long term relationship. I don't see the point of wasting time waiting for one person at a time to communicate with me.
- January 4th, 2008, 09:09 pm
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A match from eharmony is neither a committment nor an engagement nor a marriage! It's merely an OPPORTUNITY to explore the possibility of a relationship. Chances are that being in communication while still in eharmony means that you have not as yet progressed to the stage where you both want to go further, so it's not like you're cheating. However if you've reached the stage of actually dating...well that's clearly a different story.
- January 5th, 2008, 07:01 pm
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