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skins1016 is offline skins1016 Post #1  May 5,2010, 9:07pm
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I created a profile about 2 months ago but never subscribed as I didn't want to dish out the money, but I just signed up when the latest deal came which was about a week ago. Well I sent messages to some girls and no one has replied (Which I heard could take a while) but then no one has even viewed my profile. Am I doing something wrong, or am I not doing something right?
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  May 5,2010, 9:33pm
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You're probably getting matched with dead matches which is what yours was until you paid up. Dead matches are usually inactive profiles or profiles belonging to people who discontinued their subscriptions and didn't turn off matching.

Try clicking the 'Find New Matches' button and see if anything new comes up.
 
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You might want to check your anonymous view counter at the bottom of the "who's viewed me" tab. It will give you a count from the past 2 weeks.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
You're probably getting matched with dead matches which is what yours was until you paid up. Dead matches are usually inactive profiles or profiles belonging to people who discontinued their subscriptions and didn't turn off matching.

Try clicking the 'Find New Matches' button and see if anything new comes up.
Thanks that makes sense, however I wasn't able to receive any new matches... yet.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
You might want to check your anonymous view counter at the bottom of the "who's viewed me" tab. It will give you a count from the past 2 weeks.
I didn't see it on there.
 
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skins1016 wrote :
I didn't see it on there.
It's at the very bottom of the page. It will say "You have XX anonymous views in the past 2 weeks."Or something similar.

One sure way to get people to look at you is to look at their profile. You will pop up on their tab. Be sure you have the right setting for this. If you checked the "show my views as anonymous views" button, you won't show up on anyone's radar.
 
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Hi Skins1016 –

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

Andieisme has a good idea, here with checking the Who’s Viewed Me anonymous counter, so I hope that helps, first of all. You said that you haven’t been able to receive matches yet, so I wanted to check in about that. When was the last time you received matches?

If the lack of matches continues, you may want to contact our Customer Care team through the Help/FAQs section: eHarmony Support Home Page. There may be various ways in which you can open your settings to get more matches. The more matches you get, the better your chances of getting views, communications, dates, and beyond.

I know that your main concern was that matches weren’t viewing your profile, but if you feel comfortable, feel free to create a topic here in the Using eHarmony section where you post your profile for feedback from the community. A lot of people have gotten great ideas from doing this. The community members are seasoned profile writers and have insightful tips. Also, if you want in-depth feedback for each section of your profile, you can post each of your answers to the threads in our Profile Workshops: Dating advice message board

Also, if you haven’t done so, your matches will appreciate a good variety of photos and captions. Those things combined tend to spark a great deal more interest.

We hope you'll join us for more discussions.

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mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #8  May 6,2010, 9:22am
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Forget about who looks or doesn't look at your profile. It's meaningless info.

Focus on communicating with matches. That's what really counts.

How many matches have you had so far, and how many have you sent questions to? I would send them to all matches unless you see something really bad in the profile.
 
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As tweet37 mentioned most (about 90%) of your matches are going to be non-paying members. Most non-paying members are also non-active meaning they will not view or close you.

As mentioned you need to note matches that view you anonymously as well as those that show their name when they view you. That will help give you an idea of activity.

While the suggestions about your profile and settings may be helpful if you are getting matches and no one is viewing your profile it really does not matter what is in your profile.

I noted that you said you had sent First Questions to "some" matches. You should send First Questions to any match that does not have a big red flag in their profile. Dating really is a numbers game, you are not going to marry the first match that responds you are just going to get to know someone new and hopefully have at least one fun date.

To give you a bit of perspective I was on for 7 1/2 months before I got the first response, and there was no Who's View Me back then.
 
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mrflyer wrote :
Forget about who looks or doesn't look at your profile. It's meaningless info.

Focus on communicating with matches. That's what really counts.

How many matches have you had so far, and how many have you sent questions to? I would send them to all matches unless you see something really bad in the profile.
I would not consider the view information to be meaningless at all. It is a clear indication of profile activity. If you have matches and zero views after a bit of time then that certainly does not bode well for any of those matches being active, even during a FCW.
 
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