Do you "acknowledge" closes from strong matches?


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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #1  May 4,2010, 6:43pm
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Recap (approximate): 1) We can no longer send final messages. 2) They suggested we contact EH Customer Service if needed to send one. 3) If we "acknowledge" a close from a match, it moves from "communicating" into "closed" and cannot be re-opened by either party.
Note: I'm only asking only about really good matches that don't happen too often. I used to send re-open requests to them (or they to me), often successfully.
A Question: So what's your current strategy here:
1) Acknowledge the close since resistance to the new system is futile
2) Call EH and ask to send a final message, while they tell you to double your distance instead
3) Keep them hanging hoping for this issue to be fixed so that we can send final messages again?
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #2  May 4,2010, 6:59pm
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Nope.

With the new changes, I do not acknowledge the Close anymore.

I will let it remain in "Archived" forever.

It is the only way to let her have 2nd thoughts of Reopening the Match, (no matter how slim of chance this really is).

It sucks that I can't send her a Reopen Request just to let her know that if she does ever have 2nd thoughts about the Close, that I would be thrilled if she Reopened the Match.

And like you mention, I personally do not believe this new system will remain like it is right now.
Thus, I want to keep the Match half-open, in case we ever get the Request Reopen option back.
 
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Seriously, when are they going to clean up this mess they made? I keep waiting for changes to make the new system less ridiculous but nothing so far.
 
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Exactly. This is one of the many problems with the recent changes. We no longer have a service that used to be present in the eH system. We're paying the same subscription fee for less of a service. It's ridiculous.
 
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Nabaati wrote :
Seriously, when are they going to clean up this mess they made? I keep waiting for changes to make the new system less ridiculous but nothing so far.
I have been on for nearly 2 1/2 years and this is the first procedural change that they made so I would suspect that you will have either found your "the one" or have given up before any more real changes are made.
 
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cal_dude wrote :
Recap (approximate): 1) We can no longer send final messages. 2) They suggested we contact EH Customer Service if needed to send one. 3) If we "acknowledge" a close from a match, it moves from "communicating" into "closed" and cannot be re-opened by either party.
Note: I'm only asking only about really good matches that don't happen too often. I used to send re-open requests to them (or they to me), often successfully.
A Question: So what's your current strategy here:
1) Acknowledge the close since resistance to the new system is futile
2) Call EH and ask to send a final message, while they tell you to double your distance instead
3) Keep them hanging hoping for this issue to be fixed so that we can send final messages again?
When I log on I go to my Archive folder to see if anyone has closed me. If they have then I click the Closed button as that is the only thing that I can do.

I see no reason to just leave them in the Archive folder. I disagree with your premise that they will have any second thoughts and re-open. I would say that they would be more inclined to believe that you are just a non-paying non-active match.

When I had the opportunity in days past to send a re-open request I would do so for certain matches that I felt strongly about being a good match. I never had anyone ever re-open. And I only had one match ever request that I re-open after I had closed, and that never went anywhere.

I almost always did send a Final Message of Good Luck ... to all the matches that closed me.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I see no reason to just leave them in the Archive folder. I disagree with your premise that they will have any second thoughts and re-open. I would say that they would be more inclined to believe that you are just a non-paying non-active match.
We are assuming that you initiated contact with the Match, because she was a "strong" Match....
So she of course knows you are a paying match.

Whether or not she would have 2nd thoughts about Closing?
Who knows, probably not.

But that was the point about the Send Final Message" stuff, is to let the ball go back into her court in case she does have 2nd thoughts about it.
 
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Is there a new "acknowledge" feature? Otherwise I don't know what you're talking about.
 
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I would like to see a new feature

"I acknowledge, but I disapprove you closing me" LOL
 
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mrflyer wrote :
Is there a new "acknowledge" feature? Otherwise I don't know what you're talking about.
I mean "acknowledge" when your match closes you, and you also hit "close" as an implied acknowledgment. But it makes it impossible to re-open by either side.
 
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