I think he just led me on... maybe... I don't know.


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ineedalittlepatience is offline ineedalittlepatience Post #1  May 4,2010, 4:33pm
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I think you're awfully invested in a guy you haven't even met yet.

It sounds like he's been responsive...perhaps he's just shy or, as you said, busy. When he asked what you were doing on the weekend did you respond with a long list of things you had planned? If you did, he might have read that as you're not interested in making time for him. Did you think to ask him if he wanted to make plans?

Taking over an hour to respond is not a red flag. You sitting and waiting and (it seems, from your OP) judging him negatively about it is a bit.

People have jobs and lives and possibly other people they're communicating with or even seeing. He may have lost interest or he may not have felt that you were interested enough to continue. Only way you'll know is to ask him. He might anwer and he might not and whatever he tells you might or might not be the truth.

At this point, if it was me, I'd send him a note or call and suggest a meeting. That's the only way you're going to know for sure if he wants to meet you.

In any case the idea that you were "led on" is a bit harsh. You weren't dating. You haven't even met. He made no promises that he broke nor was (or is) he in any way obligated to you.
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Did you think to ask him if he wanted to make plans?

I actually did mention that... he just never answered, lol! I didn't mean to sound so negative. I guess I'm just a little discouraged. This whole experience hasn't been very positive for me, so I think I just got a little more excited than I normally would have.

What would I say if I were asking him about being interested?
 
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ineedalittlepatience wrote :
I actually did mention that... he just never answered, lol! I didn't mean to sound so negative. I guess I'm just a little discouraged. This whole experience hasn't been very positive for me, so I think I just got a little more excited than I normally would have.

What would I say if I were asking him about being interested?
how about asking him out on a date?...you're allowed to do that, ya know...
 
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TheThinker wrote :
how about asking him out on a date?...you're allowed to do that, ya know...
This.

Guys have to do it all the time and deal with rejection. It only hurts for a minute if they say no, but it will give you the answer you're looking for without putting the responsibility all on him.

(And yes, it's easy to get excited when you run across someone who seems to be a person you can relate to...just keep it real - he isn't someone who's in your life until he's...in your life in more than just a phone/text/email way.)
 
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TheThinker wrote :
how about asking him out on a date?...you're allowed to do that, ya know...
I guess I forgot to mention that he lives 12 hours away...

Otherwise we probably already would've met.

I think I'm just gonna have to let it go.
 
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Geez, how much attention do you expect from someone you've never met?

Don't you have other matches you could be communicating with?
 
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ineedalittlepatience wrote :
I guess I forgot to mention that he lives 12 hours away...

Otherwise we probably already would've met.

I think I'm just gonna have to let it go.
LOL...yeah, that is a pretty big exception.

LDRs aren't for the faint of heart. It sounds like you'd like someone who's closer and can spend more time with you.
 
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