Men: What do you do why you see a woman has looked at your profile?


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Edenshire is offline Edenshire Post #1  May 4,2010, 7:47am
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When I see a man has looked at my profile and not made any communication, I assume he is not interested and disregard him unless I find him irresistible. I don't mind contacting men first, but if they viewed me before I viewed them and made no contact, I take it as a "no, thank you."
When men see women have looked at their profile and made no contact, do they assume she's not interested? Does it make her more appealing that she has looked at you? Are you more or less likely to communicate with her, or does it not matter?
 
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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #2  May 4,2010, 8:03am
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I don't even look at the Who's viewed me tab.

When I receive my daily matches three things can happen:
1. You get my first set of questions
2. You get closed
3. You get archived, when a profile is incomplete or photo less, which I'll then send one of two ice-breakers.
You’re profile caught my attention, Would love to see a photo.
You seem interesting, Why don’t you finish your about me Q's

That is how I do it. I don't sit on matches. however I do have a limit on the amount of matches I can actual communicate with at one time. When it's reached I'll turn off matching.
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Hmm. I look but don't draw any conclusions right away. If I'm interested, I'll send my 1st set of questions. After a few months, I think I'm getting women who aren't around anymore, so if they've viewed me, I at least know they are alive. Also, if I send questions and see that she has viewed me and get no response pretty quickly, I'll close the match. Why clutter up the page when one side is not interested?
 
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margaret18 is offline margaret18 Post #4  May 4,2010, 8:26am
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I think the men who post on this site (god bless them i say) may be much more likely to initiate immediately upon receiving a match, than the average man on EH.

I say this because I did a little experiment for awhile and stopped closing matches. Some men contacted me after 1-2 weeks had gone by... some after checking my profile soon after receiving me as a match, some not. They could be busy with other matches, or shy, getting their act together... whatever. Some people are not immediate decisionmakers. Or had me as a Plan B. As i said, i was just experimenting.

I've also met matches who told me they NEVER initiate. Go figure.

If someone interests you i would initiate. thats what i do.

I know you said you wanted to hear from men, but thought this might help you since it speaks to what some men may be doing.
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If I send FQs and someone looks at me but doesn't respond, but also doesn't close, I assume they'll respond later and I give them a little extra time before closing.

Over 50% of the time, these matches do end up responding to me a day or three later.
 
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Honestly, if you are paying for the dag-gone service, then you should send questions to the person if you are interested whether they have viewed you or not. Man or woman. That's my take. Like others, I immediately close matches or send them questions. It takes all of 10 minutes. I don't look at who's viewed me. If they haven't responded in a week or two, they get closed. If they have no pics, they get closed. I don't archive.

It's worked well for me. I've had women beat me to the punch and send questions. I haven't liked any of those women yet physically, but I admire them for initiating. I usually close them within a day. That way they can move on to someone else and be kept in limbo. Thank God, I don't have to give a "reason" for closing anymore!
 
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Edenshire wrote :
When I see a man has looked at my profile and not made any communication, I assume he is not interested and disregard him unless I find him irresistible. I don't mind contacting men first, but if they viewed me before I viewed them and made no contact, I take it as a "no, thank you."
When men see women have looked at their profile and made no contact, do they assume she's not interested? Does it make her more appealing that she has looked at you? Are you more or less likely to communicate with her, or does it not matter?
It could be possible that they are a non paying member and can't communicate with you.
 
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mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #8  May 4,2010, 9:46am
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
I don't even look at the Who's viewed me tab.
Me neither. It's useless info.

I don't care who looks at my profile- I care who communicates with me. If someone doesn't respond to me, who cares if she looks at my profile 500 times?
 
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Edenshire wrote :
I don't mind contacting men first, but if they viewed me before I viewed them and made no contact, I take it as a "no, thank you."
I'd be inclined to look at it the same way.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
I don't even look at the Who's viewed me tab.
mrflyer wrote :
Me neither. It's useless info.

I don't care who looks at my profile- I care who communicates with me. If someone doesn't respond to me, who cares if she looks at my profile 500 times?
Exactly. The only meaningful data is communication. As far as I'm concerned, the Who's Viewed Me tab doesn't even exist.

There's also no indecisiveness on my part. I either initiate communication or a close a match right away. There's no in between waiting around.
 
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