Men: What do you do why you see a woman has looked at your profile?


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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #11  May 4,2010, 4:43pm
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I'm not sure if this info is completely meaningless. If a match has viewed me a couple of times over a couple of weeks, while updating her profile and photos (only members can post more than 1 photo, right?), doesn't it mean that she is just not into the entire closing business?
 
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FairOne wrote :
I'd be inclined to look at it the same way.

You should give it more time IMO. It may be that they are on the fence with you. They may still find you attactive enough, but might have reservations about something you said in your profile, or your distance from them, or something else. It may be they have too many open communications going on (it honestly comes in spurts. I can go weeks without a response then one day I'll get three). Most communications (at least for me) fizzle before OC anyway, so I'm not going to close an interesting match just because I'm waiting for MH/CS with 3 women.

In my experience...I used to interpret a woman that looked at my profile and didn't close as a positive sign when I first started. Experience has taught me it's really no indication whether a woman is receptive or not. If I see a woman has viewed my profile after 5Q and did not answer, 90% of the time it's a negative indication. She may come back to answer the questions, but in my experience these are communications that fizzle before even reaching OC.
 
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cal_dude wrote :
I'm not sure if this info is completely meaningless. If a match has viewed me a couple of times over a couple of weeks, while updating her profile and photos (only members can post more than 1 photo, right?), doesn't it mean that she is just not into the entire closing business?

there are people who don't make immediate decisions. anyone taken myers briggs? there are people who come to closure quickly and others who keep things open. evenly split between women and men.

she could be debating about whether she wants to initiate. From what i have read here, many women are uncomfortable with initiating, and if they visit this site they see the posts where other women say it is not a good strategy (no need to convince me- i initiate all the time).

I am one of the types that keeps things open (a perceiver) so it does not bother me at all to hear from matches after a long time has passed. They are probably like me, after all. Wouldn't surprise me if the EH dimensions pick up on this trait which is a big part of a person's approach to the world.
 
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margaret18 wrote :
there are people who don't make immediate decisions. anyone taken myers briggs? there are people who come to closure quickly and others who keep things open. evenly split between women and men.
What's there to decide? It doesn't take much time to answer 5 easy questions in 2-3 weeks, while looking at my profile and updating her profile/ photos. I actually put such people a notch below poofers (at least those tried to respond or close). Although, with archiving it takes and extra step to close, which could be a turn-off for many, so I give you that.
 
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cal_dude wrote :
What's there to decide? It doesn't take much time to answer 5 easy questions in 2-3 weeks, while looking at my profile and updating her profile/ photos. I actually put such people a notch below poofers (at least those tried to respond or close). Although, with archiving it takes and extra step to close, which could be a turn-off for many, so I give you that.
sorry, i guess i wasn't clear. I was talking about initiating first contact ... in my experience, not all people are making immediate decisions about that, the minute they get a match.

I do respond immediately when someone initiates with me! Because i know what it feels like to initiate and not get a response. I think we all owe that to each other, to respond when we get a communication. On that i agree with you, no excuse for being slow.
 
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mrflyer wrote :
Me neither. It's useless info.

I don't care who looks at my profile- I care who communicates with me. If someone doesn't respond to me, who cares if she looks at my profile 500 times?
500 times? Maybe you should look so you can close the cyber-stalkers!
 
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