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magict is offline magict Post #1  May 4,2010, 6:44am
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Hello everyone,
I'm new to the site and just wanted to say "hi" and share my brief experience so far. I have been a member for a month and even being in Boston, haven't had much luck in matches. So many look inactive (this is an absolutely ridiculous issue), are not interested in me, or I am not interested in them. I started to wonder if it was me.
Well, I joined one of those free sites and what a response! I can be matched, search, IM (for free with members), and it has been fun.
Not to beat a dead horse, but I wish I looked into this before I paid. I think they have the right idea but pretty much fail in execution and improving the site. Thanks for letting me vent. I joined another site 24 hours ago, have been asked on 4 dates and multiple emails. And no, it isn't about "hooking up"
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magict wrote :
So many........are not interested in me, or I am not interested in them.
So how is this not a reflection of you? I think this sentence is all about you and men not liking you and you not liking some of them.

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magict wrote :
Hello everyone,
I'm new to the site and just wanted to say "hi" and share my brief experience so far. I have been a member for a month and even being in Boston, haven't had much luck in matches. So many look inactive (this is an absolutely ridiculous issue), are not interested in me, or I am not interested in them. I started to wonder if it was me.
Well, I joined one of those free sites and what a response! I can be matched, search, IM (for free with members), and it has been fun.
Not to beat a dead horse, but I wish I looked into this before I paid. I think they have the right idea but pretty much fail in execution and improving the site. Thanks for letting me vent. I joined another site 24 hours ago, have been asked on 4 dates and multiple emails. And no, it isn't about "hooking up"
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How coincidental that an eH competitor's blog recently featured a post making a lot of these same arguments.

Incidentally, I don't believe in coincidences.
 
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magict wrote :
Thanks for letting me vent. I joined another site 24 hours ago, have been asked on 4 dates and multiple emails. And no, it isn't about "hooking up"
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Hey, I am also all about trying to meet up with someone reasonably fast, and seeing if we click...

But seriously, you don't think that joining a free site, (presumably POF), and in less than 24 hours, being asked out on 4 dates isn't all about "hooking up"?
 
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magict wrote :
Hello everyone,
I'm new to the site and just wanted to say "hi" and share my brief experience so far. I have been a member for a month and even being in Boston, haven't had much luck in matches. So many look inactive (this is an absolutely ridiculous issue), are not interested in me, or I am not interested in them. I started to wonder if it was me.
Well, I joined one of those free sites and what a response! I can be matched, search, IM (for free with members), and it has been fun.
Not to beat a dead horse, but I wish I looked into this before I paid. I think they have the right idea but pretty much fail in execution and improving the site. Thanks for letting me vent. I joined another site 24 hours ago, have been asked on 4 dates and multiple emails. And no, it isn't about "hooking up"
Peace
the reason i paid the membership fee is that i believe in the process. i am learning what i like and don't like in viewing my potential matchs' information. closing matches that are really incompatable is empowering because i can safely make that choice and move on to the next match to see if they are a better fit. i have a six month membership and plan to extend it by another 6 months if i haven't met "the guy" by the time my membership expires. i am really grateful that i can take my time and don't feel any pressure whatsoever to jump at the first even mildly interesting match.
 
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Hey, I am also all about trying to meet up with someone reasonably fast, and seeing if we click...

But seriously, you don't think that joining a free site, (presumably POF), and in less than 24 hours, being asked out on 4 dates isn't all about "hooking up"?
actually no.

POF has more people in general on the site, and the ones that show up on your screen are in the order of the most active to the least. you can filter who contacts you( for instance only those looking for LTR's or marriage), and the site and messaging system is super fast and easy to navigate. it's far superior to EH.
 
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DeltaKing wrote :
How coincidental that an eH competitor's blog recently featured a post making a lot of these same arguments.

Incidentally, I don't believe in coincidences.
can you post it here?
my "spidey sense was tingling" also, to be honest.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
can you post it here?
my "spidey sense was tingling" also, to be honest.
I mentioned it in my first post at the "Disappointing Match" thread.

I'd rather not name a competitor in multiple posts, just a personal thing.
 
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DeltaKing wrote :
How coincidental that an eH competitor's blog recently featured a post making a lot of these same arguments.

Incidentally, I don't believe in coincidences.
It was the "Peace" part that brought up my spidey sense. The photo and that closing just don't add up.



I've done POF and have to say I did receive a ton of communications within the first 24 hours. But, 99.999% of them were looking for hookups. They didn't seem to care that I was very specific about who I wanted to date (conservative, country guy). The hippies and "dirty old men" still contacted me. I even had a few in their very early 20's sending me their phone numbers. When you ask for just a tiny bit more information about them they poof.... end of story. So, yeah, they were looking for hookups.

Each e-dating site has it's pros and cons when compared with another.
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DeltaKing wrote :
I mentioned it in my first post at the "Disappointing Match" thread.

I'd rather not name a competitor in multiple posts, just a personal thing.
Ok, but how bout a link to that thread?
 
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