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RedPoet is offline RedPoet Post #1  May 3,2010, 11:49pm
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Hey all!

Well, I've been registered on eH since November 2009, and it just dawned me on today: I haven't had a woman respond to my questions since March 25th. And I send out questions to a variety of matches, so the amount of people receiving said questions isn't an issue! However, I'm beginning to wonder if it's my profile or if something in my profile is giving other ladies the wrong impression about me. Anyways, here goes:

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Occupation: Supervisor for Tim Horton's
Age: 24
Height: 6' 3"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in ---'s life has been:

Each person is different, so it'd be unfair to say that one person has influenced me more than another. If I have to choose one, it'd have to be Bono from U2. Some of the social movements that he advocates for are really powerful, and I really respect him for that. In addition, I am a massive U2 fan, as their music also heavily inspires me (born and raised on U2, what can I say? =) ).

The three things which --- is most thankful for:

* My family: they're a great bunch of people to be around
* My friends: I wouldn't be the same without them
* My country: proud to be a Canadian, what can I say?

Three of ---'s best life-skills are:

* Being a good friend and companion
* Using humour to make friends laugh
* Cooking for my family and friends

The one thing --- wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

I'm an adventurous guy, I'm interested in trying anything in life at least once. Y'never know, you could end up really enjoying something that you otherwise wouldn't of known. =) I'm very flexible and easy-going with others. I'm very influenced by what I see: if I see an ad or a billboard, it's usually followed by a "hey, let's try that! That looks pretty cool!"

The things --- can't live without are:

* Friends
* Music
* Family
* Snowboarding
* A pen and paper

The first thing people notice about --- is:

Not only am I natural ginger, but I've been known as a giant teddy bear. =P I get the comment "I recognize you from somewhere..." more than you can imagine. My friends tell me that they can feel my presence in the room.

Some additional information --- wanted you to know is:

I'm looking for a woman to share life with, one that values honesty, loyalty, trust and love. I'm looking for someone that likes to try new things and isn't afraid of making a mistake (we are human after all). Someone that looks after themselves and has some dreams/goals in life that they wish to pursue. I'm looking for a woman to grow old with and to love me for who I am, as I will do the same for you. One that is flexible and can remain calm in an unexpected situation (ie: not screaming or freaking out over something trivial). A sense of humour is a big plus, as is the ability to laugh at themselves (I do it all the time). =)

--- typically spends his leisure time:

I like to write to express myself creatively, and sometimes I can get some inspiration from the books I read. I really enjoy cooking as well (with a solid repetoire! Oh my god, a guy that can cook!? =P). And for days where I don't feel like doing much, I sometimes watch TV or am on my computer. I really enjoy snowboarding during the winter, as well as golfing and fishing from Spring and on. I also enjoy socializing and driving around town on my scooter. Lastly, I am a volunteer at my local community center.

The last book --- read and enjoyed:

The last book I read was "Paths of Glory" by Jeffery Archer, which is a historical fiction novel about the famous British climber, George Mallory. The book goes into the history of Mallory and how he got to the position he did when faced with climbing Mount Everest. It definitely opened my eyes to a very important (and ambiguous) piece of history: there's no 100% answer whether or not he was the first man to climb Everest seeing as how he died on the journey and his body was found in 1999.

---'s friends describe him as:

* Funny
* Kind
* Generous
* Energetic


The one thing --- is most passionate about:

I am passionate about children. I love kids, and my life goal is to become an English teacher. I have a passion for the language and my literary works that encompass that. This subject is not only the biggest interest for me, but also opens up opportunities, like possibly teaching in Third World Countries as well. Another passion of mine is my health, as I'm striving to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

The most important thing --- is looking for in a person is:

Balance would be the first, I'm a diverse individual so I'd like to be with someone that I can have fun with, but also knows when to relax. Another important quality is honesty. I'm a very open and honest person, and I would like it if they'd be the same with me.
 
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DeltaKing is offline DeltaKing Post #2  May 4,2010, 7:34am
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I can't pretend to speak for women, and this is going to sound rougher than it may need to (I'm adding this part after I typed my comments), so take with a grain of salt if you want.

First, I'm going to venture that the women in your target age group probably aren't interested in having kids yet, so your "most passionate" section might be scaring some off. That plus the fact you do want kids probably makes you seem in a rush to settle down.

"Balance" says nothing about what you want in a person - it's a non-answer.

I don't know what Tim Horton's is. Your matches might not either.

Your answer to "most influential" person starts off the same. as. everyone. else... then... Bono? Really? I mean that's your business, but a celebrity being your most influential person is probably getting some giggles from the ladies. Candidly, it's not a very mature-sounding answer.

The additional information you've put in that section is unnecessary. We're all here for essentially the same reason - no need to drop a love-bomb on your match at the conclusion of your profile. You sound like a movie.

The "I wish people would notice" and "book" sections are good - try building around those.
 
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Edenshire is offline Edenshire Post #3  May 4,2010, 8:48am
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I don't think the children thing scares women off.
I am a young woman (younger than you), who doesn't want children any time soon and I think it's nice when men recognize that they would like children eventually. It's strange to me when my matches have "maybe" for this question, since that's not something I'd bent on (so there goes most compatibility). Maybe it's your picture? Try something outdoors.
And I agree with the Bono and place of employment thing.
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #4  May 4,2010, 8:49am
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I know that Tim Horton's is a Canada based donut shop chain, but if you are looking outside of Canada for matches others may not...
if you are,
I'd just say, "Manager for a bakery" or similar.

Yeah I think the Bono thing is a little strange only because generally what that question is trying to ask is, who in your personal life has had the most influence?...so unless you were on tour with him, or grew up in his presence(like in school, or Ireland) it sounds a little trite....bordering on celebrity worshiping..
Most people list a relative or a close friend and then explain why.

I got the part about kids, but you may want to expand or perhaps better define it as being passionate about "child education", maybe.

I also think the comment about women "not freaking out about something trivial" is going to be a turn off, because it sounds a bit judgmental, before the fact, as it were...
maybe say something like "looking for a woman who takes things in stride" or "one who can remain calm, no matter what life throws at us"..
the part about the book is good...
Overall, good profile.
 
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livinitupregardless is offline livinitupregardless Post #5  May 4,2010, 11:13am

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Hey I like it, even the U2 part. I'm familiar with the band, and think there's no problem citing a celebrity; it's a name many people can recognize and associate with. (As opposed to "granny")
I'm also going to say that the liking kids part is nothing but a plus. The only time any guy should be scared of addressing comfort with coommitment is when they're just looking to get laid ( which I'm assuming you're not, and I'm glad of that).
Hmm... I can't figure why you haven't been getting responses. All I can say is you've got the profile intimate enough to attract the gilr that would love being with someone like you, yet non-restricting enough so girls don't feel you'd disqualify them right off the bat. Keep trying, I'll be rooting for ya!
 
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Hi Red Poet!
I think it's pretty good overall; it has a conversational charm to it and presents a view of you as a Really Nice Guy. But then I got to the last 2 sections: most-passionate and what-I'm-looking-for, and those are weak. They're also the 2 sections that as a woman are the ones I care most about. So I'll just comment on those...

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The one thing --- is most passionate about:

I am passionate about children. I love kids, and my life goal is to become an English teacher. I have a passion for the language and my literary works that encompass that. This subject is not only the biggest interest for me, but also opens up opportunities, like possibly teaching in Third World Countries as well. Another passion of mine is my health, as I'm striving to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

This section is not well-written. It does not flow. Things that need work are:

"I am passionate about children." -- This is vague and doesn't convey much; most people like and care about children. Say what aspect of children makes you passionate. E.g. "I am passionate about nurturing the minds of children and am working towards becoming a teacher" or whatever.

"I have a passion for the language and my literary works that encompass that." -- This is unclear. Are you talking about your own writings? What does "encompass that" mean? Reword.

"opportunities in the third world -- I'm not sure that fits here. Is it a primary passion of yours? does it define who you are? Maybe it goes better in some other section? It sounds more like something you might want to do at some point, rather than a defining passion of yours.


The most important thing --- is looking for in a person is:

Balance would be the first, I'm a diverse individual so I'd like to be with someone that I can have fun with, but also knows when to relax. Another important quality is honesty. I'm a very open and honest person, and I would like it if they'd be the same with me.

[COLOR=Red]This would not give me much to work with, if I were your match. Pretty much everyone wants honesty, so that doesn't really tell me anything about you. "Balance -- being able to have fun and also relax"
 
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you're tall and you come home smelling like baked goods? women should be all over you.

I'm being serious.
 
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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #8  May 4,2010, 3:19pm
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OP: I actually think your profile is really good overall. Please don't take a recent drop in communication personally. All of my friends have noticed it since the EH system "upgrade."

Two potential things that could be turning some matches off: 1) some may not want to contemplate going to a 3rd world country; 2) the "freaking out" part although correct maybe interpreted as you dismissing her emotions.
 
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Thanks everyone for the comments! Definitely some things in here that I might not of explained the way that I wanted to, and it's giving some of the posters the wrong impression, so I can only imagine what the other matches are thinking.

The question about the person that inspired you the most, if I remember it has a clause saying "not your parents" or something to that extent, so I thought about branching off into right field a little. Seems to be 50/50 in terms of how it's viewed.

Some of the sentences that have been offered have certainly reworded what I was trying to say in a much better fashion (thanks to TheThinker and Sassafras54), so I'll go ahead and shamelessly snip their little gems and give them credit for it. And to everyone else that commented and took the time to read my profile, thank you! It's been very helpful.

So, with no further adieu, here's my updated profile:

Basic Information
Occupation: Supervisor for Tim Horton's
Age: 24
Height: 6' 3"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in ---'s life has been:

I'd choose Bono from U2. Some of the social movements that he advocates for are really powerful, and I really respect him for that. What he has done has made me view life in a different manner: to go out of my way to help others. I've been inspired to help out in my community by being a volunteer to my local community center. In addition, I am a massive U2 fan, as their music also heavily inspires me (born and raised on U2, what can I say? =) ).

The three things which --- is most thankful for:

* My family: they're a great bunch of people to be around
* My friends: I wouldn't be the same without them
* My country: proud to be a Canadian, what can I say?

Three of ---'s best life-skills are:

* Being a good friend and companion
* Using humour to make friends laugh
* Cooking for my family and friends

The one thing --- wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

I'm an adventurous guy, I'm interested in trying anything in life at least once. Y'never know, you could end up really enjoying something that you otherwise wouldn't of known. =) I'm very flexible and easy-going with others. I'm very influenced by what I see: if I see an ad or a billboard, it's usually followed by a "hey, let's try that! That looks pretty cool!"

The things --- can't live without are:

* Friends
* Music
* Family
* Snowboarding
* A pen and paper

The first thing people notice about --- is:

Not only am I natural ginger, but I've been known as a giant teddy bear. =P I get the comment "I recognize you from somewhere..." more than you can imagine. My friends tell me that they can feel my presence in the room.

Some additional information --- wanted you to know is:

I'm looking for a woman to share life with. Someone that likes to try new things and isn't afraid of making a mistake (we are human after all). Someone that looks after themselves and has some dreams/goals in life that they wish to pursue. I'm looking for a woman to grow old with and to love me for who I am, as I will do the same for you. One who can remain calm, no matter what life throws at us. A sense of humour is a big plus, as is the ability to laugh at themselves (I do it all the time). =)

--- typically spends his leisure time:

I like to write to express myself creatively, and sometimes I can get some inspiration from the books I read. I really enjoy cooking as well (with a solid repetoire! Oh my god, a guy that can cook!? =P). And for days where I don't feel like doing much, I sometimes watch TV or am on my computer. I really enjoy snowboarding during the winter, as well as golfing and fishing from Spring and on. I also enjoy socializing and driving around town on my scooter. Lastly, I am a volunteer at my local community center.

The last book --- read and enjoyed:

The last book I read was "Paths of Glory" by Jeffery Archer, which is a historical fiction novel about the famous British climber, George Mallory. The book goes into the history of Mallory and how he got to the position he did when faced with climbing Mount Everest. It definitely opened my eyes to a very important (and ambiguous) piece of history: there's no 100% answer whether or not he was the first man to climb Everest seeing as how he died on the journey and his body was found in 1999.

---'s friends describe him as:

* Funny
* Kind
* Generous
* Energetic


The one thing --- is most passionate about:

I am passionate about nurturing the minds of children and youth, and am working towards becoming a teacher. As of now, I'm a volunteer at my local community center, helping with a variety of children and youth activities. Another passion of mine is my health, as I'm striving to maintain a healthy lifestyle for myself. I have set a variety of goals for my health and am doing what I can to trim down my weight. Lastly, I have a passion for traveling. I'm very interested in seeing what the rest of the world has to offer and would like to learn more about other people and their cultures/history.

The most important thing --- is looking for in a person is:

The most important quality in another person is honesty. I'm a very open and honest person, and I would like it if my partner would be the same with me. If you aren't honest, then how would I know what to believe? The second most important would be trust. I have a firm belief that if both people can trust each other, then a more solid connection is made between the two. And lastly, my third most important would be responsibility. I would like my partner to be able to take responsibility for themselves.
 
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