New eHarmony Feature: Something to Talk About

New eHarmony Feature: Something to Talk About

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Shida19 is offline Shida19 Post #1  May 3,2010, 3:24pm
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I was so nervous when I decided to go out on my date with the person that I met on this site, But I decided to write some of the questions that were asked to me on Something to talk about.  I had a blast he thought it was fun to answer all these questions and it gave us a chance to really get to know each other.
 
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Hi Shida19,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

I’m so glad to hear that this was a helpful tool for you to get conversation and connection going with your match!

Thanks for your comment, and I just wanted to invite you to join our discussions and feel free to start topics, too. I'd be interested to hear any developments with your match!

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It is interesting to hear that someone used the Something To Talk About.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Kate wrote :
Hi Shida19,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

I’m so glad to hear that this was a helpful tool for you to get conversation and connection going with your match!

Thanks for your comment, and I just wanted to invite you to join our discussions and feel free to start topics, too. I'd be interested to hear any developments with your match!

All the best,

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Kate,
I see the other person's "something to talk about" stuff even if I haven't started talking to them and even if it is not a match. It's extra insight into the person for sure, but now (assuming they can see all of mine) I may want to change some of my answers to "no answer" to keep some mystery. I answered all of those darn things! I didn't realize they would see all of them on the right hand column. It definitely adds to a profile for sure, but I thought they would only get "like" matches. This one girl was going on and on about "The Notebook." Favorite movie, favorite song, favorite book, favorite everything haha. I know I don't have that movie anywhere near my profile because well....I'm a guy.....and it's The Notebook haha.

Is there any way to know what the other can see of your STTA answers? Is it all or just a selection and how is that selection chosen if it's not everything.

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Hi Truthaboutcupid –

Sorry for the delayed response, here! So when you say “it’s not a match”, I take it you mean according to the Something to Talk About feature? To clarify, you’re seeing eHarmony matches’ information when it doesn’t match yours?

My understanding is that it should point out through this feature when you and specific matches have certain interests in common.

As to your match sharing information about her affinity for The Notebook, I wonder if both of you chose the genre “Dramas” for types of movies you like, and then see put in more specified information? Sorry – it’s a little hard to tell without seeing your matching pages “first-hand”.

I agree that this could be helpful to get some information before communicating, as long as you don’t close the match prematurely. For example, you might ask the match why she likes “The Notebook” and does she also like movies like “The International” or “Gladiator” (for example).

As far as your idea to remove your answers – you should be able to do that by clicking on each category, “un-checking” the boxes you’ve checked, scroll down to the bottom, and click “save and continue”.
Let me know if this makes sense, in light of the specifics you’re encountering!

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PS –You don’t like The Notebook?!? LOL
 
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Kate,

When I said "match" I meant the items, not the person. You are correct about the "genre" which is probably what they are matching, not the exact movie, book, or sports team you type in. (She had Notebook under comedies...but I think she listed her top 5 movies under the same "genre" and probably didn't pay too much attention to where it was listed)

Thus, someone sent to me on eH would ONLY see items from MY STTA that matched their "genre" of interest or their answer (for example, we both like to be "right on time")? Is this correct?

1. Now, if they did not answer a question, do they still get to see my answer? My big one is "school attended." I put mine on there but I don't want them to know it unless they also shared their school. I am an equal opportunist

2. Same goes for all info that I put into STTA. If they did not answer the question, or didn't match my answer (or "genre"), then will they get to see my answers?

"If you want to know if a man likes you, he'll watch "The Bachelor" with you. If you want to know if he loves you, he'll watch "The Notebook" with you." -Truthaboutcupid, 5/5/2010
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #7  May 5,2010, 9:57am
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"So if you were matched with Kate,...."

Oh, Kate, Lori & Co. can sign up now?

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LOL! Nooo, we are not allowed to use eHarmony, Tweet37. Sorry to squash your hopes.

That’s right, Truthaboutcupid – your matches don’t see the information in your STTA unless they share the same thing in common in the main category.

For example, if you both checked "Sports", and additionally, you both checked "Basketball", both of you would see that in your STTA section.

But you follow the Lakers and she follows the Clippers – that information wouldn’t show. So you would only be shown what you have in common, not what could start a rivalry.

Hopefully, however, in light of your quote: just as someone would know you love them when you’re willing to watch The Notebook, the same would be true if you’re willing to endure a Clippers game with them…

So she listed The Notebook as a comedy?!? That sounds like a stretch. Although, I guess it would depend on what mood you’re in while watching it.

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Is there a good reason why this feature is not available outside of North America? Why aren't all your paying customers getting the same service? When quite a few of my matches are based in the US and Canada it would be nice to have the same features as them.
 
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waStedLiFe77 wrote :
Is there a good reason why this feature is not available outside of North America? Why aren't all your paying customers getting the same service? When quite a few of my matches are based in the US and Canada it would be nice to have the same features as them.
Hi waStedLiFe77,

That's an excellent question and request. I'm not sure what the answer is, but you may want to write your inquiry in our product team's thread so they get the information and know that members outside of North America would be interested in getting this feature.

Here's the thread's link:

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