ben2010 is offline ben2010 Post #11  May 9,2010, 12:12pm
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alicewonders wrote :
But I don't want to message them them moment we are matched.

Any suggestions to successful use of EH?
I have to ask, why not?
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alicewonders wrote :
I am a new user and confused with what Archive this match means and when it is appropriate to archive a match and if you do archive someone if you can unarchive them.

Do you archive them if you don't think there is a possibility or you see traits that you don't like?

I want to be open to meeting people but also don't want to waste time on matches that I am almost certain won't work.

I wish they had a different tab - called favourites, but I guess the point is to be messaging these people if you are interested. But I don't want to message them them moment we are matched.

Any suggestions to successful use of EH?
I wonder why you wouldn't want to message your matches when you are matched?

It is up to you how you sort your matches in the tabs provided. There isn't going to be any penalty to you or your match if you do put them in the archive tab.
 
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alicewonders wrote :
I am a new user and confused with what Archive this match means and when it is appropriate to archive a match and if you do archive someone if you can unarchive them.
Many of the veteran users are disappointed with the archive/purgatory feature because eHarmony did nothing to support it when they rolled it out.

I believe if you choose to communicate with someone, that will pop them out of purgatory.

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Do you archive them if you don't think there is a possibility or you see traits that you don't like?
I'd just outright close a match if that were the case.

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I wish they had a different tab - called favourites, but I guess the point is to be messaging these people if you are interested. But I don't want to message them them moment we are matched.
I don't understand this philosophy. If you let a match sit around, all that does is allows that match to get in touch with someone else. I'd strongly suggest you reconsider this strategy.
 
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While I am aware that a lot of people felt offended by the choices available in the "close match" section, I felt it at least let one know right off if there was something to pursue. I do not like this new format of just archiving. Aren`t we all adults after all. Personally I was never ofended by someone chosing to close a match as it made perfect sense to me as well, like someone from Illinois and I live in Canada. I mean, who would travel that far for a "maybe" type thing. I still think one should have the option to chose a reason and not leave someone hanging. Most of my friends now do not archive, they just hit delete in their email. I can see why there was not an option to write your own reason, as some people just do not have the ability to be nice, but I would never insult or hurt anyones feelings. Anyway, just my thoughts on the "archive" thing.
 
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