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nightling is offline nightling Post #1  May 1,2010, 7:27am
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The answer to one of their first-round questions is detailed in the profile already.

Ie how often do you work out ... Yeah, hey buddy, I already told ya that in the profile.
 
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nightling wrote :
The answer to one of their first-round questions is detailed in the profile already.

Ie how often do you work out ... Yeah, hey buddy, I already told ya that in the profile.
Can't say that I can find that question in the First Question list.

I send the same 5 First Questions to every match. If my match feels that my asking a question that she thinks she has covered in her profile pi$$es her off then she can close me as we obviously were not compatible.
 
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I know they havent read the profile when,

After turning off matches, taking my photo off, and deleating all the info that I can and putting in silly things (because EH wont allow you to leave it blank). I get sent a photo nudge.
 
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I've found guys mostly look at the pictures, and girls mostly read the profile. So it would be better if the girls had a billion photos up, and no real answers, and the guys just wrote novels, and didn't put any pictures up.
 
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I've found guys mostly look at the pictures, and girls mostly read the profile. So it would be better if the girls had a billion photos up, and no real answers, and the guys just wrote novels, and didn't put any pictures up.
You've "found" this? How have you "found" this?

What we've found here, is that everyone looks at the pictures. And everyone reads the profiles. Please don't reduce this to a "men to this, and women do that" statement. That's foolish.

And for what it's worth, I have had periods where I was inactive, but left my matching on. I took down my pictures, and removed most of the profile answers. And left a clear statement that I wasn't active. But I still got a few opening communications sent to me. How do you explain that?
 
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You've "found" this? How have you "found" this?
Every guy I've gone out with could tell me what I was wearing in each and every picture in my profile. And yet were surprised when I mentioned something written in my profile. Perhaps some guys do both, I haven't found one yet.

As for the girls, I have friend that have also done edating, and we all talk about heading to the words first. I admit, I read one profile I was writing an email response to, when I thought I should click on the pictures, and whoa! He was a big game hunter. There are women that is fine with, I'm not really one of them. I'm glad he included those pictures, that would have been an uncomfortable first date.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I send the same 5 First Questions to every match. If my match feels that my asking a question that she thinks she has covered in her profile pi$$es her off then she can close me as we obviously were not compatible.
Same here. It never occurred to me that any of the questions I use might already be answered in the profile.

I agree that if someone gets upset over something that minor, it's her problem, not mine.

This could also be a way of seeing if they give consistent answers- if the profile says one thing, but they say something later that conflicts with it.

Since such a small percentage of matches engage in communication, it doesn't make sense to spend much time looking at their profiles before you are interacting with each other. I just give a profile a quick glance before starting communication.

When talking to someone over time in real life, it's common to ask the same thing more than once, because we don't remember everything people tell us.
 
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melman wrote :
And for what it's worth, I have had periods where I was inactive, but left my matching on. I took down my pictures, and removed most of the profile answers. And left a clear statement that I wasn't active. But I still got a few opening communications sent to me. How do you explain that?
They subscribe to the spray and pray style of dating.
 
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Can't say that I can find that question in the First Question list.

I send the same 5 First Questions to every match. If my match feels that my asking a question that she thinks she has covered in her profile pi$$es her off then she can close me as we obviously were not compatible.
Really? You just mindlessly send the same list to everyone? Kinda disillusioned with the process perhaps?

I read the profile to make sure my usual list isn't answered and to make sure I don't want to change one or two to something specific to that person.

And let me be clear, I did not close the guy for such a minor thing. I was not upset at all. More like amused.
 
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Well, there is nothing wrong with spray and pray lol...... depending on how many and what kind of matches you get, that might be the best way to do it.

In my case, I have had around 500, in a few months and very little communication at all. Actually met 1 person out of all of this. This leads me to believe that the vast majority of my matches are junk, so I sometimes don't even bother looking at the profiles lol, I just send out first questions - the same ones to everyone - to see who is alive out there.

If I get a response, then I will put in the effort, but until then, well, I have a job, don't need another one lol.

As stated by a number of posters above, if someone was to close me out for something that minor, well they are not my type anyway, so that's a good thing.....

JMHO

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