How to tell poofers from non-members (for a month+ matches)


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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #1  April 29,2010, 3:34pm
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I've started cleaning out my matches before the next "upgrade" reduces the functionality again.

What I have noticed : some older matches got "Something to Talk About" completely filled out. So chances are they are poofers rather than non-members.
 
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That or they let their subscription expire so are now non paid members.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
That or they let their subscription expire so are now non paid members.
So they let their subscription expire after being matched with me; sounds similar to poofing in this respect.
At some point one has to decide who to nudge, who to close, and who can wait until the FCW
 
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IMHO a poofer is only someone who you were in communication with and then quit communicating without saying goodbye.

This would mean that someone that has never answered your First Questions or communicated with you in some other way is not a poofer. This would mean that they are either a non-paying member or someone who does not have enough manners to either communicate or close. In which case they are really one and the same.
 
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cal_dude wrote :
So they let their subscription expire after being matched with me; sounds similar to poofing in this respect.
At some point one has to decide who to nudge, who to close, and who can wait until the FCW
Send First Questions to everyone. The day before a FCW begins send a Nudge to all who have not been communicating. After the FCW is over close all who still have not communicated.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Send First Questions to everyone. The day before a FCW begins send a Nudge to all who have not been communicating. After the FCW is over close all who still have not communicated.
That's how I used to do it. However, I will say I never had any success at actually meeting anyone.
 
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