Very little activity on my profile after one month


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kcpath is offline kcpath Post #1  April 28,2010, 7:41pm
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I spent a lot of time creating my profile and its not grabbing anyone. I read through the profile workshops, but I think mine is in line with most of the advise offered. What next?
 
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frojo is offline frojo Post #2  April 28,2010, 8:37pm

is trying to make things a little more bearable :)

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You may need to broaden your match settings. It can be very frustrating at times, but don't give up. All the best!
 
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definitely check your settings. Age, distance, height, etc. I learned to put my height preference at the lowest importance. I seem to get better matches now. Play around with those settings until you start seeing what you want.

If you feel you are getting plenty of matches, just no responses to your 1st questions, you may need to look at your profile. That or who you are expecting to communicate with.
 
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Hi KCpath –

If you feel comfortable, you could still post your profile, because sometimes a “second pair of eyes” (or more than a second pair) could help.

Other than that – if you’re not getting activity, you might want to look into what kinds of communication types you’re initiating. For instance, are you using exclusively eHarmony Mail to send messages, exclusively Guided Communication? Have you tried to customize the questions for each match? These are just some ideas.

Then there are photos – your photo here looks great. You look very personable and you can see your features clearly. You may want to look at other photos you’ve added to make sure they are just as engaging. It also helps to have a variety with you in different environments and involved in various activities. Captions are more helpful than you’d think.

I like what Frojo and Andieisme suggested. Those are good things to look at too.

One last idea – if you haven’t taken the Relationship Questionnaire in a while, sometimes that can have a huge effect on what types of matches and communication you might get. As a last resort, you could look into taking it again (if all else fails).

Good luck and keep us posted!

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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #5  April 29,2010, 8:35pm
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Are you sitting back and waiting for them to start communication?
 
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well, yap, like most said, it takes time for matches reaching you. But somehow again, you can play around with those basic settings of yours... change those importance to less importance..there you will get more matches...

But then, please never ever blame eH's crew for sending you matches that you think totally unsuitable to you... cos you're the one amend it.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #7  April 30,2010, 11:46am
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If you are sending First Questions and not getting any responses it may just be that they are non-paying members.

If you are getting viewed but they don't respond to your First Questions then it may be that your profile needs some work.

If you are not getting very many matches then it may be that your settings need some adjustment.
 
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