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elizabeth78 is offline elizabeth78 Post #1  April 28,2010, 8:23am
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I have been on eH for a few months (5) and I haven't had but one or two communications. Mostly closed matches. Please see my profile below and see if something is stopping people from contacting me.

I try to make it clear I am not interested in jumping into a relationship, but seeking out friends and letting it lead to more if possible.

Thanks!

Basic Information

Occupation:Office Manager Age:31Height:5' 8"Wants Kids:MaybeKids at Home:Yes
Ethnicity:White, non-HispanicReligion:Christian Drinks:A few times a yearSmokes:Never


In my own words

The most influential person in Elizabeth's life has been:

My uncle and my brother have a huge influence on me. I love my uncle as if he were my real father and value his opinion. He is an honest and just man and has a peaceful nature about him. My brother is so wise and looks at life with a refreshing perspective.


The three things which Elizabeth is most thankful for:
  • Family/Friends
  • Job
  • Health and ability
Three of Elizabeth's best life-skills are:
  • Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
  • Raising and/or caring for children
  • Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing Elizabeth wishes MORE people would notice about her is:

Sincerity. In relationships or friendships, I try my best to give my all.


The things Elizabeth can't live without are:
  • My Kids
  • Family
  • Friends
  • my wonderful job ( I know crazy but I love my job)
  • having a good time

The first thing people notice about Elizabeth is:

I love to laugh and smile. I would hope they would notice my zest for life.


Some additional information Elizabeth wanted you to know is:

No additional information. I guess you need to get to know me to know me.


My interests

Elizabeth typically spends her leisure time:

I enjoy spending time with my family and friends. I love going on day trips to the Hill Country. My hobbies include photography (beginner) and crafts. My kids mean a lot to me and I enjoy being with them, but it is nice when they are staying over at a friends/family to have some down time with other adults.

The last book Elizabeth read and enjoyed:

It was a mystery book. I love reading at night to wind down the day. I like suspense to keep me interested.


According to my friends:

Elizabeth's friends describe her as:
  • Respectful
  • Funny
  • Creative
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #2  April 28,2010, 8:42am
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I think it looks pretty good except for two things which jump out at me...

"Sincerity. In relationships or friendships, I try my best to give my all."

To me, you are either sincere, or you're not.
Not much in between and it has really nothing to do with effort really...
It is a "state of being", IMO.
So that part for me is a little discombobulated...

And then there's the ever popular:

"No additional information. I guess you need to get to know me to know me."

We've seen this ad nauseam...my suggestion is to get rid of it and post something that does say more about you.
That is the whole point of your profile...information that they wouldn't know....before they meet you..

Make sense?
 
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elizabeth78 is offline elizabeth78 Post #3  April 28,2010, 9:01am
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Good points. I have changed the answers to something a little better.

What is the one thing Elizabeth wishes people would notice first has been changed to ...

Sincerity. I am very caring person and take others feelings into consideration. I have a soft heart and like bringing a smile to others face.

And the question about addtional informatino has been changed to say..

I am hoping to find a new friend and if more comes it then that is great. I would love to find someone to share my sense of adventure and be able to have fun and enjoy the good things in life.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Renee is offline eH_Advice_Host_Renee Post #4  April 28,2010, 9:26am

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Hi elizabeth78,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

First of all, I think it's great that you love your job! A great, enthusiastic Office Manager can really make a difference in the atmosphere and sucess of a business!

Speaking of businees, details, even the smallest ones can sometimes peak a match's interest or create a connection; so you might consider providing a little more info on the type of businees you work for.

For members who are parents, I think it is wonderful to share that their children are a priority in your life. But again details are really important so be more specific in the type of activities you enjoy doing together. Do you go camping? to movies (which kind)? cook together (any specialties)? And when you can spend time with adults or someone special, what activities would you enjoy doing? Going dancing? to a museum? taking a trip to the...? These details can help a match see how he might fit in with you and your family.

Photos are important! Have you posted photos that contain a photo(s) you've taken and/or some of the craftwork you do?

Glad that you took TheThinker's advice to provide an answer for the Any Additional Information quesiton. It's important to take advantage of all these questions to share your personality and lifestyle with your matches.

All the best.

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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #5  April 28,2010, 9:49am
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elizabeth78 wrote :
Good points. I have changed the answers to something a little better.

What is the one thing Elizabeth wishes people would notice first has been changed to ...

Sincerity. I am very caring person and take others feelings into consideration. I have a soft heart and like bringing a smile to others face.

And the question about addtional informatino has been changed to say..

I am hoping to find a new friend and if more comes it then that is great. I would love to find someone to share my sense of adventure and be able to have fun and enjoy the good things in life.
Big improvement!
I think Renee's suggestions are good also..provide more info of who you really are, and why you have the interests you do...
particular the photography, I love taking photos. (one of my favorite things, although I'm just a novice..)
 
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Where is your Most passionate about section and One thing you are looking for in a partner section?
 
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elizabeth78 is offline elizabeth78 Post #7  April 28,2010, 10:47am
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Okay guys I took your advice and added more information. Let me know if I said too much or if I sound "TOO BUSY" to date someone. Thanks again for the help, it really helps me to feel like I have an ad worth reading.


I added more about my job under the "what are you most passionate about"

Spending quality time with friends/family, having fun, taking pictures and being creative. I have a great job that isn't a burden to go to. I am the office manager for a Bioterrorism Responce Team. I also am serving on the Crime Stoppers Board for Brazoria County and the Parks and Recreation Board for West Columbia.

How do I spend my time...

I enjoy spending time with my family and friends. I love going on day trips to the Hill Country. My hobbies include photography (beginner) and crafts. My kids mean a lot to me and I enjoy being with them and playing on their level. My daughter plays softball so I love being out there cheering her on. It is nice when the kids are staying over at a friends/family to have some down time with other adults. I enjoy seeing a movie, going to the beach, going out to dinner, going fishing, or just a quite night at home.
 
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Hi elizabeth78

You work for a Bioterrorism Response Team, and you are active in your community --those are the kinds of details that really make you stand out and give your matches a more well-rounded feel for who you are and what's important to you. Awesome!

And the details you added about your leisure-time activities also paint a more vivid picture of your interests and lifestyle! Because I want to help you make the most of the space available, the only other thing I would suggest is to possibly delete the first sentence. Most people like to spend time with their friends and family; so sharing this doesn't really help you stand out as an individual.

If you do this, you can then share another level of interesting details regarding your hobbies, the type of movies you enjoy, the type of fishing you do, and/or additional specific activities you and your kids enjoy together!

All the best.

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mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #9  April 28,2010, 1:02pm
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It comes across as rather bland and generic to me.
 
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elizabeth78 is offline elizabeth78 Post #10  April 28,2010, 1:21pm
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Thanks for your honesty mrflyer. That is kinda what I was thinking. Nothing to stand out, but I changed a few things.
 
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