Kamek is offline Kamek Post #1  April 28,2010, 12:01am
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Ok, so I decided to start using eHarmony again, hoping that it has improved. One thing that really irritates me though is that 95% of the matches I am getting are older than I am. For a guy my age, being matched with older women pretty much means I get instantly closed or ignored. So why bother matching me with these people?

The other thing about this is, I did set my age range, but it's matching me with people outside of it. Currently, i have it set to 20-26, and it's giving me people who are 28, 29, etc. I am 24.

So my question is, is there any sort of fix or workaround for this?

I don't want to set my age range lower, because I don't want to be matched with women younger than 20 (for several reasons, and really 20 is pushing it for me), and the age range must be a total of 6 years which is also annoying.

I just don't feel like the site is making good use of my money. Any suggestions for any of this would be welcome.
 
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Do you have the importance of this set at the highest level? You may also want to relax one of your other settings the system will choose those as your flexible settings.

I think you are in the age range where there aren't a huge number of people as members. Well, compared to the 30+ age range. This may be why it is pulling people from outside your preferences.

Play with you settings a bit. Relax your distance, unless it is set world wide. Definitely relax your height, this seems to help with matching altogether when you do relax it. For me it did anyway.

Play with it a bit and see what comes up. If you don't seem to be getting the results you want (age wise) you might want to contact customer service.
 
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iamgermajesty is offline iamgermajesty Post #3  April 28,2010, 2:23am
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I'm twenty three and I get matched with guys who are 30, 31, and even higher sometimes. I've got my range set as 22-28 and the importance is between the middle and the highest.

I often get closed out by those 32 year old guys, and I close them out too because the difference is too much for me.

Do I feel like eHarmony is jipping me out of my money? Ehh not really. I don't think there are tons of eHarmony users in my country (Germany) so I'm sort of getting whatever is close to my preferences.
 
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Hi Kame,

Glad to see that AndieIsMe already recommended that you check the Importance level for your age preference. If you want our system to stay strictly within your set age range, it must be set to a High -- 6 or higher. Also, please be aware that it can take a few days for updates on your Match Settings page to take full effect.

Of course, it is ultimately your decision how to set any of your matching preferences and Importance levels, but keep in mind that you came to eHarmony to find one special match. Even if the vast majority of matches older than you close communication, don't let that keep you from having the opportunity to meet the one or two who would be interested in communicating.

So if you are comfortable receiving matches who are 2, 3, 4 years older than you, I would encourage you to either keep your Importance level in the Somewhat important range, or adjust your age range to reflect your absolute upper and lower age preference and set the importance level to High.

The larger the matching pool you provide us to find your highly-compatible matches, the more matches you are likely to receive, and the better your chances of finding your special match! So I really appreciate AndieIsMe encouraging you to review your other match settings to see if you can broaden any of them too. I second that recommendation!

To help all our members set their matching preferences so they best support their success, I wrote these two Advice articles. I hope you check them out and find them useful:

eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Personal Preferences
eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Distance

All the best.

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