ineedalittlepatience is offline ineedalittlepatience Post #1  April 27,2010, 5:24pm
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OKay, i'm gonna make this short and sweet:

We went through all the Communication stages and then did Open for 2 days, back and forth, sometimes twice a day. (It was great) Then he called me... and I thought it went okay. I was a little nervous so I said some stupid things. But we talked for about an hour, then afterwards he sent me a text. And now there's nothing... it's been 3 days.

Is this normal?

Am I just a psycho? Haha!

Should I contact him? And when? And how long should I wait before I give up?

Help me out here guys, lol!
 
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It could be fine - such as a person who is free on the weekend but not during the week.

Multiple communications per day and then nothing for three days is a bad sign, but you can't really expect more, at this stage.

If he sent the last message, it is clearly your turn to communicate - why haven't you?

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You should never be waiting. By all means, write or call if you feel like it.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
It could be fine - such as a person who is free on the weekend but not during the week.

Multiple communications per day and then nothing for three days is a bad sign, but you can't really expect more, at this stage.

If he sent the last message, it is clearly your turn to communicate - why haven't you?

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You should never be waiting. By all means, write or call if you feel like it.
I just don't want him to think I'm desperate. I've chased guys away before and I'm trying to play it cool. Plus, maybe he's not even interested? Or maybe he's just super busy... or talking to other women.
 
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I think you've waited long enough, give him a call. At worst you get his voicemail (and if you get no call back you'll know where you stand) and at best you get a hold of him.

Good luck.
 
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ineedalittlepatience wrote :
I just don't want him to think I'm desperate. I've chased guys away before and I'm trying to play it cool. Plus, maybe he's not even interested? Or maybe he's just super busy... or talking to other women.

If he made the last message, you are overdue to reply!

If I had been communicating multiple times per day, and sent the last message and been ignored for three days, I'd have written that woman off - and she'd be at a disadvantage to get me interested again.

It is fine to communicate with a funny message, a flirtation, or a serious question about compatibility - none of these ideas are "desperate."

A person is fine to communicate to others until agreeing to exclusivity. Ignoring them is not a good idea; better it to remain present ... and be desirable.
 
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Do not call him! Pick up a copy of the book called "The Rules" and read it before you do anything.
 
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