too_kings is offline too_kings Post #1  April 24,2010, 1:09pm
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Say what you will,"try expanding your "comfort zone"," "just be patient", "maybe edit your profile", and my personal favorite, " maybe nobody likes you".
This site HAS gotten too big, so big in fact that they spend more time on commercials and bragging than the business they run. If you can call it that.
Also, I don't need to hear about "non-paying customers" because this enrages me more. Why should I pay for this if someone else isn't? Furthermore, the "non-paying customers" are further evidence of their neglect to the paying customer.
No new matches for me says to me that nobody is joining the site much anymore and I was the sucker. Man, Hindsight definately IS 20/20!
 
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There are some interesting (if debatable) statistics on this at blog dot ok cupid dot com.
 
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I find it interesting you correlate the size of the site to your lack of success. Wouldn't you think that more members (even some non paying ones) would make the likelihood that you are looked at and contacted more likely?

Yes, there are a lot of non paying member, this is true with EVERY e-dating site out there. If you are in certain areas of the country, the number of paying member could be higher or lower. Depending on your age, the number of members in your age bracket could be higher or lower.

You sound frustrated. We all get this way. I will suggest taking a step back from e-dating and just relax for a bit.

We all have slow days, weeks, months, etc. It happens.
 
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Hmm....they say you're supposed to under-promise and over provide. In the limited time I've been on here, I'm pretty underwhelmed with the service. I didn't want to commit to a long term subscription without seeing first what I'd get for my money. So far, it doesn't look like much, although I've paid quite a bit for the one month privilege.

I'm pretty unimpressed with the site as a whole - it's hard to navigate, I have no idea how I'm supposed to find matches other than the search link. Is there another option? I'm tired of the 'we couldn't find any matches for you' result. My search is already more broad than I'd like and I'm not getting quality results. Heck, I've had more responses - quality responses - from people who have more in common with me on one of the less reputable sites that I haven't paid any subscription on. But my preference is for a relationship, so here I am.

I think this has been my biggest waste of money in a long time and I most definitely won't be renewing my subscription.
 
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@ kalliope

I'd have to completely agree with you. I feel exactly the same, your experience is so similar to mine it's scary. What is up here? At another site I was pulling down like 30 or 40 matches per day. Here I'm lucky to get one, let alone get a reply.


I think maybe we're too young. I think this site is for the 50 somethings.
 
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Yes, your age can have something to do with it. I'm in my mid 30's, so the number of matches I receive is quite high. Someone in their early 20's will most likely receive less as well as someone in their late 60's. Each of those for their own reasons.

You only receive a certain amount of matches per day. This is so you can give each one more attention than you would on other sites that throw 25+ at you per day. Even though we all should expect our matches to be communicating with other people, they shouldn't be stretched so thin as to not be able to respond in a timely manner. And, you are only looking for one person, not 50 or so, right?

You may also consider your settings. Again, age, location, distance from you, smoking/drinking habits, religion, etc. If you are so tight on the importance of those that you can't even consider someone close, you may be on the wrong site.

I think you both, too_kings and kalliope, need to set realistic expectations.

Oh, and a final note, you may consider a profile review. The community here at eH Advice love give feedback to people who feel they aren't getting the response they want from their profile. If you post those, I'm sure you will receive some helpful advice.

This e-dating thing takes time. Not everyone is looking at the same time, so it can take a bit to match you up.
 
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Um, I'm almost 38 and old enough to know and have quite realistic expectations for what I want and who I'm looking for. My age range is early 30s to late 40s. Non smokers, someone who doesn't drink regularly. I've broadened my other preferences to those outside what I prefer and still barely any matches.

I have used dating sites on and off for quite a while and honestly, if I'm going to spend $60 for the month, I expect more than a couple of poor matches that are outside of my criteria. I don't think that is too much to ask, is it?
 
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I don't get many matches either - I've had four in the past week. But I live in Germany and while I've got my distance set as the entire country, there just aren't many eH members here.

I went with the six month payment option and don't think I'll be renewing at the end. Partially because I get so few options and partially because I've met enough people for me for now(both through eH and other avenues like real life *gasp*!).
 
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Ok, here it is. The number of matches is seriously low, period. I have gone and broadened my criteria (I too am realistic.) and still no change. Not to mention the lack of replies. There is a major flaw going on here and I have a theory.

FREE LOADERS. Not taking to task those that do take advantage of it, I 'm talking about eH offering it in the first place. Not thinking of the detriment to their clientel in an attempt to "getcha in the door".

Also, if you are not in a major city online can seem like and should be a good alternative. However, this seems to have the opposite effect because eH is charging WAY too much for so little. I guess if I were to change a few things free weekends or what-have-you would be GONE. Also, pics would be mandatory. There it is I've said my piece.
 
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Someone mentioned in another thread that sometimes the eH system can get confused about where you are and doesn't match you with people because it doesn't search in your geographic area. You might consider contacting customer care to see if there is a glitch in the system and where you live.

I happen to live nowhere near a large metro area. And, even with my distance extended to included the closest one (5+ hours) I don't get a huge amount from that particular city.

Here is the link to the contact page on this thread http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...sted-here.html (eHarmony Contact Information Posted Here!) and the toll free number (stay on cause they will answer fairly quickly) is 800-951-2023
 
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