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Andifer is offline Andifer Post #1  April 23,2010, 1:39pm
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Hi, thanks for looking in. Sorry if you've seen this before, I posted it in another area first but was advised it would be better placed here.

Andy, United Kingdom

Things that Andy is passionate about:

An important goal I have is to be happy & have fun in life. I'm a very positive person. Work has to be done but it's not my main focus, the better thing is living life whilst you can. I enjoy keeping fit but I'm not a health freak, I enjoy my chicken fried rice too much for that! I also like to learn, I enjoy trying new things & discussing any topic with people to broaden my knowledge. An important value I have is loyalty.. Any good relationship needs trust, honesty & respect, you can't have those if you don't have a strong loyalty to people you care about. I'm also a big animal lover & have helped numerous animal charities in my spare time.

The most important thing Andy is looking for in a person is:

Honesty. Without a good level of honesty you can't have trust and without trust you can't have a good relationship. Beyond that I guess also someone with a sense of fun who knows how to value and enjoy life. I am happy with someone who is career driven and loves to work but they also need to be able to switch off and relax from time to time, or at least be open to the idea of me helping them relax and enjoy life when they get the chance.

* About Me

Basic Information
Occupation: Photographer
Age: 32
Height: 5' 10"
Wants Kids: Maybe
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White / Caucasian
Religion: Neither religious nor spiritual
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never


In my own words

The most influential person in Andy's life has been:

I don't think I could really pick one. Influences would be wide and varied but none so strong as to stand alone. The closest person would be my best friend. He's a really nice, caring, thoughtful guy who will always think of anyone else before himself. Sometimes he's a little too selfless but I think being kind and considerate seem to be dying traits these days and I think he has been a good influence and made me into the more thoughtful and considerate person I have become over the years.

The three things which Andy is most thankful for:

* My family and friends.
* My health.
* My intelligence and education.

Three of Andy's best life-skills are:

* Using humour to make friends laugh
* Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
* Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing Andy wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

Maybe my narcissism and vanity, perhaps it would save disillusionment in the future... Or perhaps realizing when I'm joking; I do have a dry sarcastic sense of humour and it can be missed sometimes. Otherwise I think the same thing pretty much everyone does. I wish people would take time to get to know you as a person rather than basing some snap jugdement on how you look. Perhaps a little ironic coming from a photographer. But I probably know better than most that the camera can lie. Horrible people can look pretty and alluring and you can't always show someones true kindness and beauty.


The things Andy can't live without are:

* My heart
* My lungs
* My liver
* My sense of humour. Alternatively;
* Car,Sky+,music,family&friends,being active&healthy

The first thing people notice about Andy is:

I'm not really sure. Perhaps my sense of humour. Although I am very confident and comfortable with who I am so I am generally at ease in any social situation, I think people notice that as it makes me seem very laid back and easy to get on with. I'm also a happy person. For everyone sometimes it can be tough be I can usually find something to smile about in life.


Some additional information Andy wanted you to know is:

I have no idea how this profile reads but if it comes across as mildly eccentric and in parts amusing then it's probably somewhere close to the mark. I have a wide variety of interests and many talents. For example I studied astrophysics at university and have ended up as a photographer. I'm not a greatly materialistic person, Obviously you need to work to earn money to enjoy your life but I don't think you should work so hard that life passes you by. I have my own comapny and probably could make more money working for someone else but I enjoy the flexibility and freedom of being my own boss.


My interests

Andy typically spends his leisure time:

I enjoy playing sports, swimming or going to the gym. I'm not a gym rat though, I more enjoy playing sports and being fit to play then rather than just keeping fit in itself. I also do yoga. Otherwise when in a more lazy mood I enjoy eating out or I love watching movies or some TV either at home or out with some friends. I love all kinds of movies. I'm just as happy sitting down to watch Bridget or Love Actually as I am sitting down to the latest horror.

I also enjoy music & love to dance. Tap, salsa, ballroom, contemporary; I've done most at one time or another. As with films I like most kinds of music. It just depends on what mood I am in.

The last book Andy read and enjoyed:

I rarely get around to reading these days, I'd like to but I never seem to make the time. I've been trying to read The Dark Tower books by Stephen King but haven't managed it yet. So I guess that's as good an answer as I can give.
I've started listening to some audio books recently to try and get myself back into the habit. It seems to be putting me on the right lines so far...


According to my friends:

Andy's friends describe him as:

* Perceptive
* Funny
* Loyal
* Intelligent

Again any advice would be fantastic, thanks for reading.
 
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That's a great profile. I wish more men were so open.
 
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Andifer is offline Andifer Post #3  April 23,2010, 2:16pm
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Thanks. I wish I matched to more women who appreciate it.

Also, now given I sadly can't change my face, but these are the pics I'm using. I figured I should get some impartial advice on them too. Are any of them tragically no go?

Imageshack - metuxsmall.jpg
Imageshack - mesmall.jpg
Imageshack - me3small.jpg
Imageshack - mehatsmall.jpg
Imageshack - mecyrilsmall.jpg
Imageshack - newsummersmall.jpg
 
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Andifer is offline Andifer Post #4  April 24,2010, 6:11am
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4 matches closed so far today without a word of communication. I'm glad I put the effort in on my profile.
 
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Hi Andy, I'm a dude and therefore not your target audience, so take this for what it's worth. I'll be blunt, as I assume you don't need hugs to go with this assessment.

What you're passionate about is "having fun?" If you read that your match was passionate about having fun, would you find that interesting? You're passing up an opportunity to show some personality right off the bat. Most everyone likes having fun.

The most important thing you're looking for in another ("honesty"), your most influential person ("there have been too many"), the three things you're most thankful for (you say what everyone else says)... this is a very anonymous profile. Nothing about this seems distinctive yet.

The one thing you wish people would notice: You probably lose a lot of people right here who were giving you the benefit of the doubt through the first part. Narcissism and vanity... I know it's meant to be funny, but it's really awkward the way you set it up here. Consider rephrasing.

Things you can't live without: Again, a wasted opportunity. Clever answers here rarely come off as actually being clever, and women aren't really interested in reading about your internal organs. The make-up answer at the end is sort of crowded and a throwaway.

After that, I like the rest of it; it's interesting and says a lot about who you are and what you stand for. Take some of this and add it to the front of your profile, when you're first trying to grab your reader's attention.

I'm not going to look at your pictures, as I can't even pretend to be qualified to judge another dude's photos. I can at least pretend to add some value to the written words.

Good luck!
 
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Man/ woman I don't care. Advice is advice and you make some good points. I'm not sure on the most influencial as I do go on to mention my friend, but the other stuff I've had a re-jig on and I think you were right.


Andy, United Kingdom


Things that Andy is passionate about:

I like to learn. I enjoy trying new things & discussing any topic with people to broaden my knowledge. Also to get out and experience and see new things in the world. An important goal I have is to enjoy life. I'm a very positive person. I enjoy keeping fit but I'm not a health freak, I enjoy my chicken fried rice too much for that! An important value I have is loyalty.. Any good relationship needs trust, honesty & respect, you can't have those if you don't have a strong loyalty to people you care about. I'm also a big animal lover & have helped numerous animal charities in my spare time.


The most important thing Andy is looking for in a person is:

Honesty. Without it you can't have trust and without trust you can't have a good relationship. Beyond that I guess also someone with a sense of fun who knows how to value & enjoy life. I am happy with someone who is career driven and loves to work but they also need to be able to switch off and relax from time to time, or at least be open to the idea of me helping them relax & enjoy life when they get the chance. I don't have some preconcieved notion of what my ideal match should be like. You meet people who on paper should be perfect for you but you just don't click & vica versa. You can never be sure, it depends on that personal chemistry.

* About Me

Basic Information
Occupation: Photographer
Age: 32
Height: 5' 10"
Wants Kids: Maybe
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White / Caucasian
Religion: Neither religious nor spiritual
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never


In my own words


The most influential person in Andy's life has been:

I don't think I could really pick one. Influences would be wide and varied but none so strong as to stand alone. The closest person would be my best friend. He's a really nice, caring, thoughtful guy who will always think of anyone else before himself. Sometimes he's a little too selfless but I think being kind and considerate seem to be dying traits these days and I think he has been a good influence and made me into the more thoughtful and considerate person I have become over the years.


The three things which Andy is most thankful for:

* My family and friends.
* My health.
* My intelligence and education.

Three of Andy's best life-skills are:

* Using humour to make friends laugh
* Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
* Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing Andy wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

I think the same thing pretty much everyone does. I wish people would take time to get to know you as a person rather than basing some snap jugdement on how you look. Perhaps a little ironic coming from a photographer. But I probably know better than most that the camera can lie. Horrible people can look pretty and alluring and you can't always show someones true kindness and beauty. Or perhaps realizing when I'm joking; I do have a dry sarcastic sense of humour and it can be missed sometimes.


The things Andy can't live without are:

* My health. Being fit & active to enjoy my life.
* My family and friends. An obvious answer but true.
* My sense of humour. Essential to surviving life.
* Sky+ Lets me fit TV around the good stuff in life.
* Music. I love all kinds of music & like to dance.

The first thing people notice about Andy is:

I'm not really sure. Perhaps my sense of humour. Although I am very confident and comfortable with who I am so I am generally at ease in any social situation, I think people notice that as it makes me seem very laid back and easy to get on with. I'm also a happy person. For everyone sometimes it can be tough be I can usually find something to smile about in life.


Some additional information Andy wanted you to know is:

I have no idea how this profile reads but if it comes across as mildly eccentric and in parts amusing then it's probably somewhere close to the mark. I have a wide variety of interests and many talents. For example I studied astrophysics at university and have ended up as a photographer. I'm not a greatly materialistic person, Obviously you need to work to earn money to enjoy your life but I don't think you should work so hard that life passes you by. I have my own comapny and probably could make more money working for someone else but I enjoy the flexibility and freedom of being my own boss.


My interests

Andy typically spends his leisure time:

I enjoy playing sports, swimming or going to the gym. I'm not a gym rat though, I more enjoy playing sports and being fit to play then rather than just keeping fit in itself. I also do yoga. Otherwise when in a more lazy mood I enjoy eating out or I love watching movies or some TV either at home or out with some friends. I love all kinds of movies. I'm just as happy sitting down to watch Bridget or Love Actually as I am sitting down to the latest horror. I also enjoy music & love to dance. Tap, salsa, ballroom, contemporary; I've done most at one time or another. As with films I like most kinds of music. It just depends on what mood I am in.


The last book Andy read and enjoyed:

I rarely get around to reading these days, I'd like to but I never seem to make the time. I've been trying to read The Dark Tower books by Stephen King but haven't managed it yet. So I guess that's as good an answer as I can give. I've started listening to some audio books recently to try and get myself back into the habit. It seems to be putting me on the right lines so far...


According to my friends:

Andy's friends describe him as:

* Perceptive
* Funny
* Loyal
* Intelligent
 
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Andifer wrote :
Thanks. I wish I matched to more women who appreciate it.

Also, now given I sadly can't change my face, but these are the pics I'm using. I figured I should get some impartial advice on them too. Are any of them tragically no go?

Imageshack - metuxsmall.jpg
Imageshack - mesmall.jpg
Imageshack - me3small.jpg
Imageshack - mehatsmall.jpg
Imageshack - mecyrilsmall.jpg
Imageshack - newsummersmall.jpg
For a photographer, these are a poor excuse for photos. In half of them you are too distant to be seen. In the rest you look disheveled and unkempt and the snake one......won't appeal to 99.9% of women. My guess is that you are being closed without your matches even bothering to read your profile.
 
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For a photographer, these are a poor excuse for photos. In half of them you are too distant to be seen. In the rest you look disheveled and unkempt and the snake one......won't appeal to 99.9% of women. My guess is that you are being closed without your matches even bothering to read your profile.
I'm a photographer not a model, and what ever happened to men being the superficial sex?

Those images are very small versions of the actual ones, you can see me properly on the others. Maybe that is the disadvantage...
So what should I do? Sadly I'm stuck with this face, unless I just use a pic of a model I've taken...
 
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Andifer wrote :
Man/ woman I don't care. Advice is advice and you make some good points. I'm not sure on the most influencial as I do go on to mention my friend, but the other stuff I've had a re-jig on and I think you were right.
If your best friend is your most influential person, say so. Don't start with the throwaway "everyone is influential" piddling. (I used to lead with that too, it's an easy trap to fall into and sounds entirely reasonable - but after I read it for the 1000th time on someone else's profile, I realized how empty the statement is.)

I still say you need to do something with honesty; I could go on about all the problems with honesty as the most important thing, but I'll keep it short - it suggests you either haven't had a serious relationship before, or you have baggage from a previous one.
 
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Andifer wrote :
I'm a photographer not a model, and what ever happened to men being the superficial sex?

Those images are very small versions of the actual ones, you can see me properly on the others. Maybe that is the disadvantage...
So what should I do? Sadly I'm stuck with this face, unless I just use a pic of a model I've taken...
Oh come on now....I said nothing at all about your face. You are a fairly decent looking man. Your face has NOTHING to do with looking unkempt and disheveled. Also, since your photos will not appear that much bigger on EH, get better photos. This is not about looking like a model, this is about you having nice, clean, clear photos of yourself and making an effort to put your best foot forward. After all, this is the very first impression you are making to your match and right now that impression says "slob".
 
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