PinkPassion is offline PinkPassion Post #1  April 23,2010, 8:59am
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How long do you usually wait between communications using eHarmony?

When do you think the appropriate time to make someone wait for an answer?

Do you feel that this is an underlying action (behavior) that could be shown in a real relationship if it ever goes past the eHarmony site?

Frowns when seeing "Watiing for response". . But please know that I am a very patient lady, but wonder where the etiquette of this fine lines carries with everyone.

Looking forward to your thoughts,
 
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I think that it is appropriate to respond to any message as soon as possible. Since I am usually at my computer and have my e-mail open I will usually respond as soon as I am aware I have a new communication. Certainly with the First Questions and MHCS it only takes a few seconds to respond. As I have put my Second Questions and answers to most of the ones that I get asked into a text file it will usually only take me a few seconds to deal with sending or answering Second Questions also. I will certainly respond to any communication within 24 hours at any stage.

The only time that I would delay is if I was asked a provocative question that I felt I needed to dwell on in order to answer properly.
 
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I don't make anyone wait any pre-ordained period of time. I respond when I have time to respond. Sometimes that's the same day and sometimes, if deadlines and other obligations have to be met, it's several days.

Some people's schedules are more hectic than others, and some people manage their time better than others. Some have better technology to do so. I would frequently respond in OC using my Blackberry, which meant that any time I checked in and had a communication, I could respond. A lot of people don't do this, especially in my age range.

But, above all, you should not be sitting a waiting for a response, or building up some fantasy in your head of what this person is like until you're sitting across the table from them, talking to them. Continue to communicate with others. Give them a reasonable amount of time to respond (I usually kept matches that were in communication open for a month before closing them), and get on with your life as though they were only a small piece of it...because at this point, they are.

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DeltaKing is offline DeltaKing Post #4  April 23,2010, 9:39am
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Usually I'll answer introductions and first and second stages as soon as I can.

Third and fourth stages I usually wait at least a day in between, partly because email gives the luxury of thinking through responses before sending them and I might as well do that.... and partly because when I'm on work travel, I can't get on the site.

Everyone has their own standards though. My favorite current match takes a long time between responses, and I have no problem with that.
 
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Thank you so much for your thoughts. I agree with all of you about how simple the first few steps are and it is basically click click done.
Now how to nudge them to click click.. /wink
 
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