Profile Review - Thanks in advance

Be honest, be brutal if necessary. I can take it.
The one thing Cary is most passionate about:

I am passionate about experiencing life. As the song says, "You gotta live like you're dying."I want to suck the very essence out of each and every moment, I'm all about quality of years versus the quantity. But what inspires me most is making others laugh, it is my purpose in life. I was born with the gift of humor, and I love to share it. That passion is taking its form in the book I am currently writing All fluff, no substance and one giant cliche. Absolutely every other profile says the same thing - I'm passionate about life and humor. What does that even mean really?

The most important thing Cary is looking for in a person is:

You have an open, loving heart and like me, you are living a passion filled life sharing your gifts with the world. You are a strong and independent woman capable of being vulnerable. You can run the country, or a major corporation, but you will allow me to treat you like the Goddess you are. You enjoy shopping (especially bookstores), walking, coffee houses, museums, snuggling on the couch while watching a movie, and long conversations.

The most influential person in Cary's life has been:

The most influential person in my life? I would have to say one of the "luckiest" people I have ever known, my mentor, friend, and roommate. She is a strong, successful business woman, a loving and understanding friend who embodies true abundance. Her example serves as a constant reminder of the blessings that life brings, and how to share that with the world.
This combined with what you are looking for just made me wonder if you have a major crush on your friend and since she is not interested in you that way, you are trying to find her clone.

The three things which Cary is most thankful for:

• I am grateful for each new breath I awake with every morning, because it means I get another day full of opportunities to experience something new in life.
• I am grateful for the love and respect I have for and receive from my family and friends. I am amazed every day at how much love surrounds and supports me.
• I am grateful for knowing that there is something bigger than myself not just out there, but inside me. I am grateful for understanding where I fit in this process called life, as I work on fulfilling my purpose

This also reads as a lot of pretty fluff with little substance. Personally, I hate reading overly long profiles so I would prefer brevity here. Take this with a grain of salt since that's just a personal preference.

Three of Cary's best life-skills are:

• Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings

The one thing Cary wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

I am a work of art in progress. I started out as a lump of clay years ago, but over those years many hands, more importantly my own, have formed that clay into the man he is today. While not yet complete, something beautiful is taking shape and it changes daily with the benefit of each new experience. More very pretty fluff that tells me absolutely nothing about you......

The things Cary can't live without are:

• Family. A link to the past.
• Friends. Family by choice
• Books. A guide to the future
• Art. Pure expression
• Writing for insight and growth.

The first thing people notice about Cary is:

I have been told on a number of occasions that there is a warm, inviting energy about me. I am a great communicator, but more importantly I am a great listener, someone who can quietly hold the space and allow you to just be or feel. People also notice my humor. I love to laugh and have a lot of fun. I am one of the most random people you may ever meet in your life but I promise you laughter and lots of it. This is the second time that you emphasize humor and how funny you are but I have yet to see any of that in your profile.....and you are writing a book involving humor.....????.....actually that is kind of funny....in an ironic way.....

Some additional information Cary wanted you to know is:

How perceptive I am. I love women, they are God's masterpiece, and like any work of art when I view it, I pay attention to even the smallest of details. You might think something slipped past me, or I wasn't listening. It may be a few days later, or even weeks, but I will surprise you with a thoughtful reminder. It will bring a smile to your face, and a warm soft glow in your heart as you say to yourself quietly, "He really was paying attention." Over the top pandering. Don't tell me how I'll feel or how I'll be surprised. Let me discover that should I choose to date you. I'd scrap this.


Thank you again for your time, all input is greatly appreciated.


Cary

Dancingfool... thanks for your input. It will all be taken into consideration...but let me stress one thing...LOL I do NOT have a crush on my roommate. She is like an older sister, and even the thought of something occurring between us is too creepy to even begin to imagine. :P Profiles are all about snap judgments and instant impressions. You don't have a chance to explain yourself as you did above. To avoid the problem, you could simply reword your description of your female friend. In reality though, a lot of women will actually shy away from a guy who is so heavily influenced by a female friend simply because in most cases this means having a third person in the relationship and major drama. A whole lot of women will read that as a red flag.

And here is the leisure section of my profile:
Cary typically spends his leisure time:

My leisure time is split between friends, family and myself. I enjoy an adventure and all the excitement it brings, but I also love to wind down and spend some quality time with someone special. Imagine a beautiful Sunday morning. You're sitting on the couch with a warm cup of coffee in your hands while you read your favorite book. I am sitting next to you, deep in thought working on my own book. There is some soft music playing in the background, we both look up at the same time and our eyes meet. There is no need for any words to be exchanged, just a knowing smile crosses our lips as you go back to your book, and I continue to write Bleah....more completely empty but very pretty fluff. Once again it tells me absolutely nothing at all about you other than that you like reading and writing. This makes you an extremely one dimensional boring person to be with. Your comment on adventure - expand. What is your idea of adventure? What do you do? What do you like? What interests you?

DancingFool's right - I read your profile and guessed that you're looking for someone just like your "most influential person" who also "likes you that way."

Also, family and friends aren't things. For someone who claims to be imaginative and random, your "can't live without" list is the opposite.