szgorzelski is offline szgorzelski Post #1  April 23,2010, 6:15am
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I just a wink for the first time yesterday. I'm assuming this is new. I'm also assuming that this match is unsubscribed. Will they be able to read anything I send them?
 
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Nope, ice-breakers are nothing new. They have been around a long time..

Some people here will say it's a sign of an non-paying member, but that is not always the case.

Non-paying members can only use the ice-breakers to communicate.Unless it's an FCW (free communication weekend) During the FCW they do have access to GC (guided communication)
 
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I never responded to those. I figure if someone really wants to talk to me, they can use GC. Winks strike me as an odd way to communicate with a stranger who you are (presumably) wanting to get to know better.
 
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Icebreakers are harmless. I usually use them instead of nudges to ping unresponsive matches; I've had a lot of success using them that way.

I never use them as a first communication, though - there's no reason not to just send 5 questions.
 
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szgorzelski wrote :
I just a wink for the first time yesterday. I'm assuming this is new. I'm also assuming that this match is unsubscribed. Will they be able to read anything I send them?
On the one hand you are a guy and many girls think that the guy should be the one that initiates communication and therefore they may think that it is OK to send an IceBreaker but not send First Questions.

On the other hand an IceBreaker is usually considered to be an indication that the person is a non-paying member. A non-paying member cannot read anything that you send but they will be notified that you sent a communication. It also costs you nothing to send First Questions to the match if you have some interest.

As a side note, I have never had a match that sent an IceBreaker respond to my First Questions.
 
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As long as the ice breaker is one with a bit of subsatnce you are probably good with sending one. Encouraging someone to fill in their profile is usually the only thing I send. That and a photo nudge should indicate you are a paying member and want to connect.
 
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