Profile Advice

I'm on a promotional trial with eHarmony for 3 months and just starting month 2 and haven't had any actual communication yet. I'm getting very few matches that I have any interest in whatsoever and those very few all have closed communication immediately after being matched. Just looking for some advice on cleaning up the profile:


The one thing Andre is most passionate about: I am most passionate about my interests in independence. I constantly try to find more efficient ways of doing things, then find self sustainable ways of doing them. My dream is to someday have a home that is off-grid or as close to it as possible. I am also very passionate about my dogs, I have a great passion for the breed and I love events that involve dogs.

Are you actually a survivalist? If so this is fine. Although, I think your dating pool on a site like EH will be small and you'd probably do better in other venues for meeting women.

But if not, you're giving that impression ... and a lot of women will be leery of it. There's a difference between being independent, self-sustaining, off-grid etc and wanting to live in the backwoods and not have contact with society. Can you reword this paragraph to not sound survivalist (assuming you're not)? Note the term "off-grid" can be interpreted a lot of ways, from "I generate my own electricity" to "I have no truck with them guv'ment boys". See what I mean?


The most important thing Andre is looking for in a person is: Honesty.

Actually further down you talk about a whole lot of things you want in a partner that are more descriptive of you as a person. Really --- everyone wants honesty! it doesn't say anything about you. From what you said below I think you want someone who's "an honest outdoorsy woman with ...." etc etc -- whatever qualities you care about.

And this would be a place where you could insert some romance -- make it clear you're looking for love, not just a buddy. (Assuming that's what you are looking for!) E.g. "I like my life but the one thing that's missing is a woman -- one who's outdoorsy and can share interests with me but also bring love and sweetness into my life" or whatever makes sense to you. R-O-M-A-N-C-E (sung like Aretha's r-e-s-p-e-c-t)


Basic Information

Occupation:Technical Support Age:26Height:6' 0"Wants Kids:MaybeKids at Home:No
Ethnicity:White, non-HispanicReligion:Neither religious nor spiritual Drinks:A few times a yearSmokes:Never


In my own words

The most influential person in Andre's life has been:

My sister has been influential, I look up to her and usually go to her first for any advice on general life experience and we just have a sort of connection with eachother.


The three things which Andre is most thankful for:

• Life
• Family
• Knowledge

Three of Andre's best life-skills are:

• Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
• Achieving personal goals
• Managing my finances

The one thing Andre wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

Maybe creativity...? This is interesting! Perhaps add a sentence about how you are creative.


The things Andre can't live without are:

• Food
• Water
• Shelter
• Computer
• Internet

The first thing people notice about Andre is:

That I love to share knowledge!


Some additional information Andre wanted you to know is:

I love to be adventurous and at times spontaneous.


My interests

Andre typically spends his leisure time:

I often just watch a movie. When I'm not watching movies I browse the internet always wanting to learn something new or expand on something, or find something on the house to improve.

The last book Andre read and enjoyed:

I often prefer to read things on the computer than in books. The last book I read was "The Lord of the Rings". I think just about everyone has seen the movies by now. I like the adventure.


According to my friends:

Andre's friends describe him as:

• Physically Fit
• Creative
• Hard Working
• Intelligent

Just to give an idea of some of my hobbies or interests that I should probably work in there somewhere is that I have 2 dogs and love to take them out lure coursing. I haven't done so in a while but I'm working on getting back into some of my past interests in rock wall climbing and mountain biking. Some of the choices I make in what I consider to be a good match are: 1) must be a non-smoker; 2) in terms of physical appearance, ideally I'm looking for someone who is no bigger than myself, I consider myself to be average to somewhat athletic in build, 6' tall and 160 lbs and would prefer a proportional siginificant other, I find it somewhat romantic to have the ability to carry a sig other from time to time, not the other way around; 3) education, good work ethic and motivation for self improvement; 4) having at least somewhat of an ability to participate in physical activities that I enjoy, and be able to share common interests (of which I would be open in return to some of their interests); 5) an interest in dogs is a plus but not a necessity. I typically close most matches that don't fit most of the above criteria and those that are at distances I would be less willing to travel (>100 miles, etc) unless they appear to be a strong match. The small percentage of those that have matched the above criteria have all closed communication and never sent so much as a single response. I do have a few pictures posted; one at the beach, a few recent birthday pictures and a recent Christmas picture with one of my dogs. I'll probably be adding a picture of me on my mountain bike or something and more with the dogs. I'm open to suggestions. Thanks!

I'm just starting month 2 on eH and haven't had any actual communication yet. I'm getting very few matches that I have any interest in whatsoever and those very few all have closed communication immediately after being matched. Just looking for some advice on cleaning up the profile:


The one thing Andre is most passionate about: I am most passionate about my interests in independence. I constantly try to find more efficient ways of doing things, then find self sustainable ways of doing them. My dream is to someday have a home that is off-grid or as close to it as possible. I am also very passionate about my dogs, I have a great passion for the breed and I love events that involve dogs.

"being interested in independence" can be interpreted a lot of different ways. Why do you want independence and what is "independence" to you? If you could state that, this would be a clearer paragraph. Ecological concerns? Financial freedom? or what? E.g. "I love the earth and so am passionate about finding ways to mitigate my impact on it ... I look for energy efficiency, sustainable products, ...."

Name your dogs and their breed ... it creates a clearer picture of you. "I am passionate about my collies Rover and Fido and love taking them out gamboling and to agility events."




The most important thing Andre is looking for in a person is: I am looking for a lifetime relationship, a best friend, someone to share my passions and interests with and who wants to share hers with me. I enjoy physical activities from rock wall climbing and mountain biking to relaxing and staying at home watching a movie or going for a walk. I also look for honesty, good work ethic and motivation for self improvement.

Need to work in that you don't expect her to take on all of your activities -- not that many women do all the things you have listed and you don't want to get closed because some woman says "well I bike and surf but I don't rock climb so this won't work".

Also this could be a place (or "additional info") to mention your hopes or attitudes about having kids ... this is an important issue for most people, and a lot of women in your age group already have children and are going to want to know where you stand with that.

• About Me

Basic Information

Occupation:Technical Support Age:26Height:6' 0"Wants Kids:MaybeKids at Home:No
Ethnicity:White, non-HispanicReligion:Neither religious nor spiritual Drinks:A few times a yearSmokes:Never


In my own words

The most influential person in Andre's life has been:

My sister and I are very close. I often go to her first for advice and really look up to her.


The three things which Andre is most thankful for:

• Life
• Family
• Knowledge

Three of Andre's best life-skills are:

• Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
• Achieving personal goals
• Managing my finances

The one thing Andre wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

My sense of humor. I am typically a serious person, straight and to the point. When I'm hanging around my friends and people I know I get a lot more goofy.


The things Andre can't live without are:
[LIST][*][COLOR=black][*]Family[*]Friends[*]Health[*]A very diverse planet[*]Someone to share it all with Some additional information Andre wanted you to know is:

I enjoy adventure. One day I sat down and thought about some of the things I absolutely must do at some point in my life and tried to prioritize them. Right at the top of that list is to swim with Whale Sharks. They are such amazingly large yet docile creatures and so little is understood about them and seeing them up close and in person in their natural environment would be such an exhilarating experience. I keep putting it off as I search for the right person to share the greatest of life experiences with.

Delete the last sentence. Would you really turn a woman down because she doesn't want to swim with sharks? Perhaps you could say something like "A woman who wants to swim with sharks would be a huge plus ... but it doesn't have to be literally sharks! It's more the adventuresome, love-of-life attitude I'm looking for"


My interests

Andre typically spends his leisure time:

I often just watch a movie. When I'm not watching movies I browse the internet always wanting to learn something new or expand my knowledge. I like fining finding things around the house to improve. I also enjoy getting out and finding something to do with friends, take the dogs out or the bicycle for a ride.

The last book Andre read and enjoyed:

I don't often read paper books. I much prefer reading on specific interests on the internet. I have a passion for cosmology so I am often reading editorials and watching/listening to lectures by one of my favorites Lawrence Kruass. The universe is such a mystifying thing that I enjoy trying to learn and understand it's its origins and future.


According to my friends:

Andre's friends describe him as:

• Physically Fit
• Creative
• Hard Working
• Intelligent

Just to give an idea of some of my hobbies or interests that I should probably work in there somewhere is that I have 2 dogs and love to take them out lure coursing. I haven't done so in a while but I'm working on getting back into some of my past interests in rock wall climbing and mountain biking. Some of the choices I make in what I consider to be a good match are: 1) must be a non-smoker; 2) education, good work ethic and motivation for self improvement; 3) in terms of physical appearance, ideally I'm looking for someone who is no bigger than myself, I consider myself to be average to somewhat athletic in build, 6' tall and 160 lbs and would prefer a proportional siginificant other, I find it somewhat romantic to have the ability to carry a sig other from time to time, not the other way around; 4) having at least somewhat of an ability/interest to participate in physical activities that I enjoy (I would be open to some of their interests); 5) an interest in dogs is a plus but not a necessity. I typically close a match that doesn't fit most of the above criteria and those that are at distances I would be less willing to travel (>100 miles, etc) unless they appear to be a strong match. The small percentage of those that have matched the above criteria have all closed communication and never sent so much as a single response. I do have a few pictures posted; one at the beach, a few recent birthday pictures and pictures with my dogs. I'll probably be adding a picture of me on my mountain bike or something and more with the dogs. I'm open to suggestions. Thanks!