"sexually knowledgable" as a must have - is that a red flag?


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itsanewworld is offline itsanewworld Post #1  April 22,2010, 5:50pm
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I'm new to eharmony, and a guy who has started communicating with me has "sexually knowledgeable - I must have someone who is mature and experienced as a potential sexual partner and is able to express himself/herself freely" as one of his must-haves.

That seems like a red flag to me. Is it? Or am I over-reacting? It seems to me that the only person who would include that on the list is someone who is looking for a good time, fast! But I could be wrong. Tell me if I am.
 
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You're wrong.

This is a reasonable expectation - and, if you read it, you'd notice that there is nothing in it about timing.

Maybe people - including women - have had bad experience with prudish, uptight, self-interested partners, and decided "never again."

I get one of these from about 10% of women, and I have no concern whatsoever.
 
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okay, good! It was th first time I'd seen it, and I wondered. I love sex, but I don't want to end up dating someone who has a bunch of sexual fetishes and expects it 4 times a day. for some reason, that's what that implied to me. whew!
 
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I agree with The Frog. It is one of mine for exactly the reason he states.
 
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why would expecting it 4 times a day be a problem?
 
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The MHCS are so plagued by interpretation I pretty much don't even read them during GC. Anything that I find to be questionable I will ask about in OC. It is when I have gotten an explanation of what my match meant by a particular MHCS that I then make a decision if it is a red flag or not.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The MHCS are so plagued by interpretation I pretty much don't even read them during GC. Anything that I find to be questionable I will ask about in OC. It is when I have gotten an explanation of what my match meant by a particular MHCS that I then make a decision if it is a red flag or not.
That's exactly what I do as well....until you know the perspective they are coming from, it's hard to say whether it's a legit concern - they're pretty general
 
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Rarely, rarely, rarely to I close someone at this stage and it would never be because of one MH or CS.

I have closed when I've seen enough yellow flags and now several MH/CS that might not jive.
 
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thanks for the responses! I went ahead and continued communication with this guy.
 
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Nanette wrote :
why would expecting it 4 times a day be a problem?

You want it with four different people?
 
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