FairOne is offline FairOne Post #1  April 22,2010, 7:58am
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So I just read in another thread that eHarmony has done away with Closed reasons. Can it be? Is this really true? If so it's the best news I've heard all day, and I"m not even an eHarmony subscriber right now!
I found the reasons so unnecessary (after all, a close is a close), and they caused some people so much angst, that I think eliminating them is a great move.
 
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confirmed.. they are gonzo!

The send final message is also history
 
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Haha!

You may THINK this is a good idea...

But just wait...

Instead of people having angst about what a Close reason really means, they will now complain about being Closed for no reason at all!

And with no way to request reopen anymore, there is nothing but brutal rejection for many with no hope for redemption.

I personally think EH just got a lot colder and a lot harsher after this change.

It will be interesting to see how much of their membership leaves because of this change.
 
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ScottK wrote :
Haha!

You may THINK this is a good idea...

But just wait...

Instead of people having angst about what a Close reason really means, they will now complain about being Closed for no reason at all!

And with no way to request reopen anymore, there is nothing but brutal rejection for many with no hope for redemption.

I personally think EH just got a lot colder and a lot harsher after this change.

It will be interesting to see how much of their membership leaves because of this change.
lol...you have a point Scott...angsty people will be angsty regardless!

But now with the Archive option (that's the thread where I read about the no closed reasons), i'm guessing people will not be as quick to close matches that may have some potential (like a decent profile but no photo posted yet, etc.) waiting instead to see if they update their profile.
For matches that had no potential anyway, I'm guessing they will get closed just like before.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
confirmed.. they are gonzo!

The send final message is also history
Almost feels like Christmas
Last edited by FairOne; April 22,2010 at 8:29am. Reason: yeah...i'm not sure why i'm so very excited about this. I've had a lot of caffeine this morning
 
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I would have rather seen a more expanded list of closed reasons. "I would prefer more recent photos" since 14 of my matches already have 5-10 year old photos and openly admit it on the caption. "It seems to me our interests are not very similar" for the enthusiast that shows it on his profile and I'm not interested. Things that make sense instead of "our fmaily backgrounds are too different". Who would have used that?

The again, we'd need one for the men "she's just not attractive enough for me" since that's what "other" means anyways
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
confirmed.. they are gonzo!

The send final message is also history
So now there is no way to request a re-open either
 
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qp106sd wrote :
I would have rather seen a more expanded list of closed reasons. "I would prefer more recent photos" since 14 of my matches already have 5-10 year old photos and openly admit it on the caption. "It seems to me our interests are not very similar" for the enthusiast that shows it on his profile and I'm not interested. Things that make sense instead of "our fmaily backgrounds are too different". Who would have used that?

The again, we'd need one for the men "she's just not attractive enough for me" since that's what "other" means anyways
Why? what good comes from any of it.. If you closed me for our interests are not similar.. What could I do with that information?.

There were only a few of the close reasons that were of any use.
 
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I would have rather seen a more expanded list of closed reasons. "I would prefer more recent photos" since 14 of my matches already have 5-10 year old photos and openly admit it on the caption. "It seems to me our interests are not very similar" for the enthusiast that shows it on his profile and I'm not interested. Things that make sense instead of "our fmaily backgrounds are too different". Who would have used that?

The again, we'd need one for the men "she's just not attractive enough for me" since that's what "other" means anyways
Maybe to you, to me "Other" meant "you are too short"
 
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Maybe to you, to me "Other" meant "you are too short"
You're both wrong. It means "I'm too intimidated by your level of education and success to contact you."
 
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