What % of Your Communications Make It to Open Communication?


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milousa is offline milousa Post #1  April 20,2010, 4:28am
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I'm sure I am not the only one who has ever gotten a request to communicate from a woman, sent responses to a set of multiple choice questions and never heard from them again.

I'm curious what percentage of people you begin communicating with ever make it to open comminication?
 
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milousa wrote :
I'm sure I am not the only one who has ever gotten a request to communicate from a woman, sent responses to a set of multiple choice questions and never heard from them again.

I'm curious what percentage of people you begin communicating with ever make it to open comminication?
Like you, the women that initiate are few and far between.

I initiate communication with almost all of my matches, including those without pictures and with incomplete profiles. Unless I see a major sign of incompatibility right away, I'll send off the five questions. Since the vast majority of matches are non-paying and therefore cannot communicate until they pay or a FCW rolls around, the number of matches I ever hear from is low. I rarely close a match during the communication process, again, unless a big red flag comes up.

Like others around here, I've been closed at every stage of the communication process.

I haven't kept actual statistics, but my WAG is of all my matches, less than 10% make it to OC.
 
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Not very many of mine got to OC. I'm female and initiated with more men than initiated with me ... and got lots of non response also.

But then ... if you went to a party and met 50 new women, how many of those would you expect to have further contact with?
 
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I'm with MicMan. The best way for you to be successful on these sites is take control of things that you can directly affect. For all the users, its to open communications. If you do not, and someone else does not, there will never be a meeting. Its better to try and fail, to not try at all.

If you open communication. There is that slight chance that they may respond. If you do not, there is NO chance they will respond.

When i was on EH, it was around 10 percent, maybe less. So if i got like 50 matches a week, at least 5 would respond, and maybe 1 will end up in something good.
 
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Since you are asking how many of my matches that communicate get as far as OC. I have never really paid that much attention to this but I would say 70% or so that begin communication will get to OC. I have noticed that the number of matches that will go through communication process to OC has dropped in the past several months.

Now a more general answer to the whole communicating matches question. Most (about 90%) of your matches are going to be non-paying members. Most non-paying members are also non-active meaning that they will never view or close you. As stated above some matches will fall away during the Guided Communication process. Then once you have gotten to OC some more will poof before ever meeting. I have noticed a dramatic increase of matches that will get to OC and then poof in the past several months also. It used to be that I would get a first date with nearly all of my matches that had begun communication.
 
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I'd say about .2% of mine.
 
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milousa wrote :
I'm sure I am not the only one who has ever gotten a request to communicate from a woman, sent responses to a set of multiple choice questions and never heard from them again.

I'm curious what percentage of people you begin communicating with ever make it to open comminication?
% of communications attempted? 1-2% I'd say (I think I had 4 people go through to open communication when I initated - three of those were FCM users) out of 150-200 women I sent questions to (and 6-700 total matches)

Out of the total number of matches I received the % was just abysmal.
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I've found the vast majority of my matches that actually communicate with me make it to OC. Roughly 80-85%. However, as a percentage of the total number of matches I've received? Closer to 5% or even less.
 
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milousa wrote :
I'm sure I am not the only one who has ever gotten a request to communicate from a woman, sent responses to a set of multiple choice questions and never heard from them again.

I'm curious what percentage of people you begin communicating with ever make it to open comminication?
I don't know the number of women who I started communication with and then ended up closed for one reason or another. But I can give you an idea of the percentages I'm working with.

To date I have had 553 matches. For the record, I think I started in February, so that's a little over two months - approaching three.

Of the 553 matches, 498 were closed be either myself or the woman. It's probably safe to say a huge percentage of those are profiles that are no longer active. This means that a full 90 percent of my matches have been closed.

Now, of the one's I'm "communicating" with (which is 50), I should probably close out about 21 of them because I haven't heard anything from them in more than two weeks. If I were to do that it would bring the total number of closed matches to 93.5 percent. It should be noted that there are five matches that are still "new" and I haven't taken time to look at yet.

So, let's take a look at the ones who would remain (and factor in the new ones for sake of argument). That means there are 34 women I'm "communicating" with on some level. Of that group I have gotten to open communication with 10. That's a little under 30 percent.

Of the 10 I've gotten to open communication with I've actually met up with five, and gone on multiple dates with three. Again, a couple of these open communication matches are new and it's not fair to make an assessment on them.

The numbers can look disappointing, but what I would say is that it just takes one. I know that seems cliche, but it's true. The question is, how do you find that "one?" And, a lot like other things in life, online dating is a numbers game. The more women you try to communicate the more chances you'll have to meet someone who you want to continue spending time with.

I've always treated dating as a learning experience. Even if a date doesn't end in a romantic relationship, I feel like I've learned something out of it that can help me in the future. So, I think the point is to maybe date a little out of what your "type" might be and maybe that leads to results.
 
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Haven't kept track, but of those that start GC, maybe 25% make it to OC.
 
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