What % of Your Communications Make It to Open Communication?


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IntelliTex6 is offline IntelliTex6 Post #61  May 3,2010, 7:33am
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I've gotten just under 1,000 matches since becoming a member. Not one has ever gotten to OC. Of course out of those 1,000 matches I've closed about 70% of them because they had no photos and maybe three of the questions answered in the intro profiles (probably free members) and the rest were closed by my matches. I've had maybe 10 get as far as Must Haves and Can't Stands but it's always been during a FCW and as soon as it ended so did the communication. I won't even respond to a communication request during a FCW anymore. I forget who said it but I think 90% of the members being free is pretty close. After 3 yrs I'm giving up my membership and heading over to Match.com and see what's going on in there. The only thing my membership has done is help pay for their commercials.
Hi Captain,

I agree with what you have to say here. I have a year's membership, already paid up, with EH so I'll be staying. I only get poor, "flexible matches" now that I have to archive and close (2 steps now). So, I have joined Match (2 weeks now). They are terrific in a lot of ways, such as emailing as a choice from the beginning and seeing in your email inbox whether your email has been read yet or the date it was read. This gives a lot of feedback and allows for more patience on my part. Of course, they have free membership time also. I have noticed that quite a few new members put their personal IM or email info. out for all to see, so I am assuming that they are just there trying it out. I don't respond outside Match because then they would be able to "capture" my email. If I don't want to communicate, this could be a future problem.

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I had a lot of matches. There was only one I initiated a communication with. This was early on, like one of the first ones. (I actually don't remember if she initiated it or I did). Not a 'flexible match'. There are many that have tried to initiate com with me since the first one. So I turned off the match thing after I figured out how to do it. We have gone to open communcation.

There is something about her that is really cool. She is cute. We have a lot in common, and in E-mail and questions, I did not hold anything back about myself. She is acceptable to the kind of life I have and my past, but there is still some e-mails to go back and forth.

Hey, maybe I did the right thing signing up for this. If anything I like the forum. It is a fresh change from all the 2A and gun forums I am on. I think we will meet up this week.

So for me it is 1 for 1.

Have a great day!!
 
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CleverName is offline CleverName Post #63  May 10,2010, 6:15am
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I'm a little picky as far as who I initiate contact with, mainly because I don't like to communicate with too many matches at once. So, I would say I only initiate (or am contacted by) about 10% of my matches. Of those, about 33% go to open communication.

If I'm at open communication with someone though, I turn off matching.
 
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I'd say that, of those who enter Guided Communication (i.e. send at least one response), about half make it into Open Communication. The other half seem to poof at Stage 3.

That sounds good until you realise that out of 400 matches in 3 months, that's 10 Open Communications (from 20ish Guided Communications that made it to Step 2). Of the rest, 20% closed me without communicating (usually before I initiated GC) and 60% are dead profiles.
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In 7 months of 2009, out of 125 total matches 110 either I closed because I didn't get a response or were closed from the other person, only 15 responded to my first questions, only 5 made it to open communication, that's about 4% , however in November 2009 I met with a match for the first time, after several dates I closed the rest of my matches and quit e-Harmony.
May 14th marks 6 months we have been together. Up until the point that I met with this match I probably would have said this whole thing was a waist of money and time, however I would never have met this woman any other way, and if somehow this doesn't work out, I will go right back to e Harmony. All it took was one, the right one !
 
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Since fall of 2009, I have had accumulated 262 closed matches due to their lack of communication after a month or more, or because they closed me, or for the usual reasons (pic, values, etc.) Of the many that I have requested communication with, 1 person reached step 3 before they stopped responding. Two women requested open communication right away, but their profiles ended up being closed soon after that and I assume they were scam artists. I like many of the girls I am matched with, some of them seem like we'd be exceptionally compatible, which is why I haven't closed them, but they simply have not responded to even the first set of questions I have sent.

So 0% of my Communications have made it to open communication. I hold my expletives in check, eharmony, I still hold faith for the free weekends.
 
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