A question for ladies: what is your age range on EH?


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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #1  April 17,2010, 1:34pm
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With all the heated discussions going around and sometimes getting personal, I've realized I still didn't learn much about specific preferences for different age groups. This is an interesting topic when discussed objectively, and I think numbers speak louder than words So I'm curious: what age range do you target on EH: say 3 years either way, or 10, or 10 up and 8 down, or 8 up and 12 down, etc.
 
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5 years down, 10 years up. Someone I met in person could likely be a bit outside of that age range, but more than 5 years younger usually means that the guy is in a completely different stage of life which can cause problems due to different expectations. More than 10 years older and it's unlikely they want kids - which I do.
 
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I prefer to date someone within a couple years younger to a few years older. Preferably (I'm 33) I'd like between 31 and 37.

My age range is set to 30-44. I get a lot of over 42's contacting me and realistically for me, it's only a few of the 39+ that I'm interested in.

Lot's of youngers have been interested in me but I scrutinize them more carefully than I used to now that I'm getting older too, I used to be more comfortable going a bit younger.

I really prefer closer to my age but like to keep my age range set to allow a greater range and I just judge each case as it comes....I'm talking to someone now who is 41 and I like him, though he does "look" older than I'm used to I will probably meet him in person to see if it's any type of deal breaker, he appears younger to me than the 40 year old I recently went out with.

My last boyfriend was my exact age, 32 (well we broke up before I turnd 33...) and almost all of my boyfriends have been within about 2-3 years of my age. Sometimes 4-5.

I did date one person fairly seriously who was 11 years older. He was 37 and I was 26.

When I see men who are 11 years older than I am now (or much more) it's kind of scary. It's definitley a case by case basis. Some look like my dad or grandpa. Some look very good or at least like I could relate to them, as I don't consider myself an older person when it comes to being somewhat current and living in 2010.
 
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I have been using 1 down, 9 up (I am 49) because I don't usually do well with younger men. However, I will say that I have a "special friend" at the moment (no LTR potential just, ummm, playdates) who is 44 and we have great chemistry, similar energy levels, libido levels, etc. - so maybe I need to adjust my dating age guidelines accordingly.
 
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My age range is 10 years younger, 5 years older. I'm 38.

In all honesty, though, the women I meet 30 or under don't suit me well, as they mostly seem to be looking for FWB, having me pay for their good times (i.e. always pick up their bar tab), and are flaky. I don't know why I haven't changed my age settings, I guess I don't want to rule out all younger women I suppose.

I seem to be able to get on well with women my age and older. Far less gamesmanship and pretension. Much more on the table honesty and more interesting life experiences. Is it bad to say "seasoned"? I mean that as a compliment. And mature women are far better lovers, to be frank.

Sorry, not trying to disparage all young women by saying that. It's just the ones I seem to meet and stupidly get wrapped up with: bad girls. Exciting and hot ... but toxic.

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I don't recall exactly, but I think I set it at 10 years younger to maybe 8 years older (or maybe it's 6?). I'll have to think about it again if I ever reactivate matching...

Generally speaking I prefer not to have someone be too much older in order to increase the time we are likely to have together before one of us croaks...lol (and yeah; I know that I could go first, and that we can all go at any time, but the odds are high that a man 15 years older than me is not going to be around as long, much less be active and healthy).

Of course exceptions can be made on an individual basis.
 
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I'm 48 - will be 49 in June. When I was on eH my range was 45 to 60.
 
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