annother is offline annother Post #1  April 15,2010, 1:30pm
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A match just closed because he said I had not returned his contact with me. This puzzled me because I checked every day. It was only after I looked at the "closed" list that I realized there was a blue speech bubble by his name, and when I clicked on it there was a "wink."

It seems to me that any kind of contact ought to be clearer than this, and easier to respond to. Now I know it seems obvious, but I've been on eH for a few weeks now and only just figured it out.

Has anyone else experienced this or am I just a bit slow on the uptake?
 
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annother wrote :
A match just closed because he said I had not returned his contact with me. This puzzled me because I checked every day. It was only after I looked at the "closed" list that I realized there was a blue speech bubble by his name, and when I clicked on it there was a "wink."

It seems to me that any kind of contact ought to be clearer than this, and easier to respond to. Now I know it seems obvious, but I've been on eH for a few weeks now and only just figured it out.

Has anyone else experienced this or am I just a bit slow on the uptake?
Yes, and one of the reasons they are advised not to use.
That is not a form of communication. They do not go into your communicating folder after being sent those things.
The guy didnt have the nerve to start the communication with you. Dont blame yourself for not noticing those things. I missed most of the time too.
 
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annother wrote :
A match just closed because he said I had not returned his contact with me.
Good news is; you can request to reopen

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This puzzled me because I checked every day. It was only after I looked at the "closed" list that I realized there was a blue speech bubble by his name, and when I clicked on it there was a "wink." It seems to me that any kind of contact ought to be clearer than this, and easier to respond to. Now I know it seems obvious, but I've been on eH for a few weeks now and only just figured it out.
I maybe be incorrect, but I believe ice-breakers show up in your match updates tab. Not positive though. It's been awhile since I've gotten an ice-breaker.

I do know that the bubble will display next to the name in your new folder. Sometimes the blue bubble won't show up immediately as the page fully loads.

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Has anyone else experienced this or am I just a bit slow on the uptake?
You'll get used to the process in no time.
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You should have received an e-mail stating you got this "ice breaker". If not, you may want to check your notification settings.

I recently had someone send me an ice breaker as well. He then closed me three days later, not because I didn't respond, but for distance. So, why send the ice breaker in the first place?

You can always send him the "Please reconsider" closed response. He may not have thought you were a paying member.
 
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annother is offline annother Post #5  April 15,2010, 3:53pm
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Thanks for the responses everyone. It's good to know I'm not alone in this! I will look at my settings for notifications, too.

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Follow up: I checked my settings and I had asked for email notifications but had not received one. I have now cancelled the settings and re-set them.
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annother, you might need to contact customer care.

Did you send a close response?
 
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annother, you might need to contact customer care.

Did you send a close response?
No, I didn't send a close response. None of the choices for a "final message" seem appropriate.
 
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If you are truly interested in the match (which it sounds like you aren't) then sending any of the closed replies would at least knock on his door. He can't reopen if you don't send one, BTW.
 
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annother wrote :
No, I didn't send a close response. None of the choices for a "final message" seem appropriate.
I know that none of the Final Messages are "You are the back of the front" but "Other" is always appropriate
 
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Anytime someone sends an IceBreaker then the "blue speech bubble" will show up next to their name.

When they send an IceBreaker their name will be in the Match Updates on your Home tab which is the default when you first open your eHarmony page. The "blue speech bubble" will be displayed beside their name here also.

I am not sure if a match in your New tab sends an IceBreaker will then move to your Communicating tab or not. I don't believe I have ever had this happen.

Personal opinion here, but if a guy sends you an IceBreaker instead of sending you First Questions AND he is a paying member then I just have to say that he is not right bright.
 
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