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fanofsteel is offline fanofsteel Post #1  April 12,2010, 7:18pm
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I hate to sound so elitist, but when a profile is full of spelling, grammar, and punctuation errors, it really bothers me. Everyone makes a typo here and there, but when I have to re-read a sentence three times to figure out what you're trying to say, I lose interest pretty quickly.

Am I the only jerk who feels this way?
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  April 12,2010, 7:29pm
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I agree, it's not a good sign.

Just as misusing the words there / their; your / you're; etc...
 
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fanofsteel wrote :
I hate to sound so elitist, but when a profile is full of spelling, grammar, and punctuation errors, it really bothers me. Everyone makes a typo here and there, but when I have to re-read a sentence three times to figure out what you're trying to say, I lose interest pretty quickly.

Am I the only jerk who feels this way?

Hmmm... I don't consider myself a jerk, but those things DO bother me.
 
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I try not to let it bother me... But something just bothers me about it, like an itch I cannot scratch. Bad grammar, spelling, all caps- all those wee little oopsies. I know my diction and phraseology is not the best, so I *try* not to judge. I can look past it. Really, I can. Promise... This should be squarely in the category of small stuff, anyways.

But I *will* say this: A lass who expresses herself well online, with proper spelling and grammar, makes me perk up and pay attention. One who has humor and wit, who says things that ignite my interest (as in, "I want to know more about...") and who says them well has already captured a bit of my interest.

Now, one who lives up to my apparently super-picky standards and likes books as well has got more than just a foot in the door. *grin*
Last edited by Wootz; April 12,2010 at 7:33pm. Reason: I once left a misspelled word in my profile, and it drove me *nuts* when I found it.
 
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Buck is offline Buck Post #5  April 12,2010, 7:39pm
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Ya,, it"s anoying allright! Some ofem even clame to have gradiated from collage.
 
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I don't think it's being a jerk. Choosing to use good spelling and grammar shows that you care about what you're writing and impressing your reader - like you should be doing on a dating site. Choosing to use poor spelling and grammar indicates that you really don't care. I'll overlook the odd typo, but a profile that's chock full of errors raises a yellow flag for me.
 
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missalmost is offline missalmost Post #8  April 12,2010, 7:59pm
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I don't mind a few misspelled words-everyone can make mistakes. But I can't take a guy seriously who uses text messaging slang, especially in an email.
 
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I'm somewhat flexible with grammar. I'm happy if someone knows the difference between their there's and your you'res. People who know how to separate sentences into paragraphs is also a positive.

I try not to be too picky though. The other end of the spectrum lies the pretentious grammar snob. Pulling elaborate words out of your hat doesn't make you sound intelligent, it makes you sound smug.

I'd rather date someone who is economically viable, than someone with a PhD in Medieval Literature who works at Starbucks.
 
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missalmost wrote :
I can't take a guy seriously who uses text messaging slang, especially in an email.

With technology today, your match may be emailing you from a phone, rather than a full size keyboard.
 
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