Walking_Rain is offline Walking_Rain Post #1  May 26,2008, 7:35am
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I have been a subscriber for just over two weeks now. Of the 40 matches I received, 37 of them were closed by the woman who was matched. The Closing took place before any communication was initiated. OF the remaining three, two will not respond to my communication and the third is no longer interested in meeting someone on Eharmony.

I have a monthly renewal coming up and it seems there is something out of adjustment with this so-called match process. Is it normal to have so many closed matches? I have no reference point. It seems kind of discouraging but then I do not know what to expect.

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IcedThi is offline IcedThi Post #2  May 26,2008, 7:54am

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It seems awfully a lot. Even if some were not interested in you, they would just do nothing with the match.
 
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IcedThi,123106 wrote :
It seems awfully a lot. Even if some were not interested in you, they would just do nothing with the match.
It sure seems odd to me. Would you think these ladies would have some confidence in Eharmony's match system at least toleave the Match open and look it over from time to time? From reading some of the issues women have about men on Eharmony, I can honestly claim those are not mine.

Anyway, IcedThi, thanks for taking the time to respond. Good luck to you!
 
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Some women do leave the matches open in case them might take a look again. I've updated my profile in the past, and received a few contacts from people I was matched up with a while ago. But, it's really unsual for 37 of the 40 to actually make the effort to close the match. That's very discouraging, but it's only your first two weeks. See how this week goes.
 
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Yea, about 10% in my findings actually respond. If they close, most are because of distance orperusinganother relationship; so they select. About 1% - 3% select other. Still do not know what other means. The ones who do not respond probably do not care or put much time into the service. Don't take it personal. I try not too..
 
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If that many women are actively closing your match, and considering you're not in a densely populated area, you might want to ask for help with your profile. There could be something that turns them off immediately. After reading your profile here, could it be on religious grounds, since there's a high concentration (if I remember) of Roman Catholics there and they might not want a match with someone with your spiritual beliefs? Just a first guess and an idea to work from.
 
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DreamingOfAtlanits, That is a good suggestion about help with my profile. I did not know Eharmony offers that. There are a fairly wide array of religous and spiritual beliefs in this county. For example, there is a large Tibetan Buddhist community and many Tibetan refugees. There are a lot of Pagans- not devil worshipers, nature worshipers, We even have Protestants!!!

Thanks to you, Adam and Iced Thai for your thoughts. always appreciated. There is a tendency here to take all this too seriously, as in, "Am I that flawed???"
 
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Walking_Rain,123587 wrote :

DreamingOfAtlanits, That is a good suggestion about help with my profile. I did not know Eharmony offers that. There are a fairly wide array of religous and spiritual beliefs in this county. For example, there is a large Tibetan Buddhist community and many Tibetan refugees. There are a lot of Pagans- not devil worshipers, nature worshipers, We even have Protestants!!!

Thanks to you, Adam and Iced Thai for your thoughts. always appreciated. There is a tendency here to take all this too seriously, as in, "Am I that flawed???"
We should all help each other remember, this is just a dating resource, simplyONE WAY out of dozens to perhaps meet new people each week that we wouldn't have otherwise.Online datingshouldn't replace getting out there and interacting with the local population, traveling to new places or networking your way to new introductions.

I'll take excessive closings over the plethora of scammers I get any day. At least those are easier to spot in person.
 
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Walking_Rain,123587 wrote :

DreamingOfAtlanits, That is a good suggestion about help with my profile. I did not know Eharmony offers that. There are a fairly wide array of religous and spiritual beliefs in this county. For example, there is a large Tibetan Buddhist community and many Tibetan refugees. There are a lot of Pagans- not devil worshipers, nature worshipers, We even have Protestants!!!

Thanks to you, Adam and Iced Thai for your thoughts. always appreciated. There is a tendency here to take all this too seriously, as in, "Am I that flawed???"
Yes, eH does offer profile help and people on this forum will be glad to help as well.

I know what Pagan means -- I have friends that cover about as wide a range of religions as one can imagine. I was just picking that one point as an example of possible issues.

I don't think it's that you're "that flawed." It might be a case of you being different enough from most people that you're hard to match.
 
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First off all, you have a picture of yourself with an animal giving you a peck on the cheek! This could be considered cute or...?

And what age group are you being matched with?
 
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