wxman40 is offline wxman40 Post #1  April 10,2010, 5:27am
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I know that a lot of people have complained that they don't see enough matches or were told they would not be a good fit for this service but I have something of the opposite problem.

My personality profile for some reason tended to make me seem so middle of the road on everything that it has caused my inbox to flood with matches, sometimes over 10 a day. I believe that this must be a flaw in the selection methodology they are using because I am certainly more choosy than this and 70 percent of the matches they give me are not good matches based on who I am as a person and the very strong beliefs I hold about relationships. Somehow this is not measured by the profile and should really be since i consider it essential to finding someone compatible for me.


I personally believe that no one would be compatible enough for marriage with more than 3-5 percent of the people in Eharmony's pool. I guess what I am saying is that I found the profile's questions to lack topics I consider extremely important and most of the one's it did touch on I found to be somewhat shallow.
 
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You have too much faith in the matching.

You need to cull through the matches to check personally for those who are compatible, and use the questions you ask to seperate the ones you think are close to what you're looking for.
 
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What D_L said. And if you're getting deluged too much, turn off the matching until you catch up and save them for later. You'll probably need them.
 
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You get a lot of matches early on because they're being pulled from the entire existing database. Once you've exhausted that, matches have to come only from new members, or old members who've retaken the personality test or changed their preference settings or turned matching back on, so there will be a lot less.

The matching algorithm sends you people who, according to EH's personality matching theory, would get along well with you. It's up to you to apply any additional paring-down, based on things apart from personality.

Have you set your preference settings accurately?

(This thread will probably get moved to Using Eharmony...)
 
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wxman40 wrote :
I personally believe that no one would be compatible enough for marriage with more than 3-5 percent of the people in Eharmony's pool.
3-5% of millions is a lot of people.

Also I don't think even eharmony claims that all your matches will be compatible enough for marriage, just compatible. That doesn't mean you will even like each other.
 
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mrflyer wrote :
3-5% of millions is a lot of people.

Also I don't think even eharmony claims that all your matches will be compatible enough for marriage, just compatible. That doesn't mean you will even like each other.
Yeah, what he said.
 
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You don't indicate what it is that makes these matches incompatible in your mind. You may be able to filter your matches by changing your settings and making the settings Very Important.

Also if you have specific examples of where there is an incompatibility between you and your matches you may want to contact Customer Care. It may be that there is something that they can do or they may suggest that you retake the Personality Profile Questionnaire.

Speaking of the Personality Profile, have you reviewed and carefully thought about what it says about you?
Last edited by Gr8Guyn2008; April 10,2010 at 7:18pm. Reason: Added last two paragraphs.
 
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Wxman, what you're seeing is pretty normal. I have pretty selective parameters but get about 6-8 matches on a typical day.

The eH selection process is overrated in my opinion. It's like the NFL Draft: NFL scouts spend thousands of dollars and hours studying the pool of candidates but in the end it's still very much a crapshoot.

Let's just say I see a lot of first-round busts among the women that are matched with me.
 
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