Open communication - When do you ask for the phone number


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jim35 is offline jim35 Post #1  April 9,2010, 6:56pm
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I have been using EH for awile now I have come to the conclusion that if you are really interested in a match, it is best to get the phone number after a couple of communications. Main reason being, time is valuable, and a phone call is a 10x better way to see if you are compatible or not then 10 email exchanges. Also it is best to not let the attraction and suspense die down through drawn out email exchanges.

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Skip the phone calls and meet in person.
 
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I agree, get the number soon, but use the call to set up an in-person meeting.

I wouldn't agree to meet someone without talking on the phone first; that's too tempting for pranksters.
 
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Hmmm...I prefer at least one phone call, as it lets me determine if the potential date sounds like somebody I would be comfortable meeting in person. Just my personal preference....but yes, sooner rather than later.
 
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I try to set up a meeting within a week of reaching OC (assuming that the match communicates regularly in OC). After the meeting has been set up I will provide my cell phone number so that my match can contact me if there is any last minute problems with meeting. I hope (and expect) my match to also provide me with their cell phone number at the same time. Only about half do.

I am not much for talking on the phone AND I have had far better luck with the matches that I have not talked to on the phone before first meeting.
 
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Northern_Gal wrote :
Hmmm...I prefer at least one phone call, as it lets me determine if the potential date sounds like somebody I would be comfortable meeting in person. Just my personal preference....but yes, sooner rather than later.
Sure don't understand this concept. But whatever floats your boat. I rather suspect that passing judgment on someone based on how they sound on the phone is likely eliminating some potentially good matches.
 
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To be honest, I've never actually eliminated anybody that way - but I still feel more comfortable speaking with them beforehand. I think maybe it's because I get a better feel for them that way? Just my preference...can't speak for anybody else. Then again, it doesn't seem to be much of a problem as I live in a pretty remote area and there are very few matches in my area.
 
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I agree, get the number and move to a meeting . Lifes too short to spend e-mailing and waiting.
 
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Buck is offline Buck Post #9  April 10,2010, 1:29pm
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You get the number when you want to hear her voice and have something you want to talk about, and then use it without much delay. You've got it figured out. Keep rolling!
 
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