kathrem is offline kathrem Post #1  December 31,2007, 10:12pm
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How come my matches seem to come in at about a 1/2 foot shorter than I? I am not a huge woman (5'8"), and I like short guys, but 5'2" is a bit too small for me. Does eharmony consider these items when they match you on your profiles?????
 
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Is it something in your profile or your preferences?
I too am about your height, but generally don't get matched to anyone below 5'6". ALthough I have seen a couple of 5'4" matches. It might be a combination of your profile and what they want as well. I hate to think I'm so superficial that I might disregard my 'true love' simply because he's 4 inches shorter than me, but honestly I don't know if I can look past it. I did decide to review matches at 5'6" and up, but even then, I just don't know. but 6 inches is a big deal. I really think that they must have something in your profile that you can set.
 
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ekmf is offline ekmf Post #3  January 1,2008, 1:31pm
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What are your match settings for height set to? Go to MY SETTINGS
 
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ekmf is offline ekmf Post #4  January 1,2008, 1:38pm
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Dang, I was in the middle of typing, and somehow it posted the above message without me clicking on "Submit Comment". Oh well, to finish my post...

... and then go to MATCH FLEXIBILITY. In my experience you have to set this to "Very Important" in oder for eHarmony to get the message. Since you implied that men shorter than you are acceptable, perhaps you could experiment by setting it to the highest "Somewhat Important" setting. Experiment and gradually upgrade the setting until you get the results you desire. Good luck.
 
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eHarmony ignores height in the matching process. It's on their FAQ, along with an explanation. Click on the "Help" link on the bottom of any eHarmony page (but not the eHarmony Advice pages) and search the FAQ for 'height'. I could post the link here but this discussion board blocks links. What eHarmony wants you to do is: close those short men with 'Other'.
 
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I have this problem too. Is there any way to tell the equation to only deliver matches x height or taller. I need guys who are 6'00" or taller, not 5'1" etc. I usually just end up automatically deleting it. Also, it knows my height, 5'10" but it never asks me to specify height that meets my criterion. I think mine says that height is very important to my preferences. When I close their profile I have to say "other" or "physical distance between us is too great."
 
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California - yeah, it's interesting - I have the same issue, but from the other side: I'm 5'7", and I've been matched with several women who are 5'10".

And I *know* that generally women like to date men at least a little taller than them.

So there's basically a SEVEN inch discrepancy between my ideal height (5'5") and hers/yours (6'0"). That's a large burden to overcome, even with a scientific matching system.

I also usually close those with "other", and I'm sure the women understand why.
 
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amyspokane is offline amyspokane Post #8  January 6,2008, 8:45pm
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I'm 5'9" and I prefer a man who is my height or taller, however I won't close a match because they are short.
 
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chrlesmd is offline chrlesmd Post #9  January 22,2008, 5:53pm
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It's something each has to decide for themselves. I've dated some women who were a little taller and some a lot shorter. I guess the whole height thing doesn't bother me as much as others. To each their own...
 
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