Is your EH name your real first name?

I do use my real first name (the shortened version of it - i.e. Joe instead of Joesph, Rob instead of Robert....).

Once, a few years back, I got a random phone call from some girl asking me for a date. I had no idea who she was.

When I asked who she was, she replied "Danielle".

I didn't know who she was, and she very awkwardly told me she'd "make a good girlfriend" and other such things. She didn't seem very confident, but did seem nice.

Still, I was kinda freaked out over this... so I lied and said I was already seeing someone. I kinda felt bad, but... the fact that she managed to figure out who I was and what my phone number is... that was crossing the line.

Having an uncommon name CAN set you up for being stalked or "looked into".

Not that people use it anymore, but consider this: On Myspace you can search for people using multiple criteria at once.

EHarmony gives you location, religion, height, first name, age and often a photo.

On Myspace, you can search for people of a specific height, age and religion in a specific location. You can also narrow this by ethnicity and a few other things. This will likely narrow it down to a group of people who can quickly be scanned for matches to the first name and photo.

If the "e-stalker" finds your photo, s/he could have access to additional photos, the names of your friends, your first and last name (if you choose to display it), any information you make available (screen names, email, place of business)...

If the e-stalker manages to get your first and last name, s/he could find much more information about you - such as: Facebook account, phone number, address... possibly place of employment.

It's probably very unlikely someone will go to these steps to contact someone, but it does happen - and did happen to me once.

It might be, however, incredibly common for people to "screen" matches in this manner - for additional info/pictures.