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late40smom is offline late40smom Post #1  April 8,2010, 6:34pm

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Wondering the experience of others in NYC metro area or other major cities. I am getting a wide array of matches, people from all walks of life, and while some look nonresponsive quite a lot of them seem to use EH routinely/daily. Is this the experience of others in and around NYC or is it just that I am new.... is this going to end after I've been on awhile? Been on less than a month.
 
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75% of your matches are likely nonpaying members. It may be different in a location like new york ity. But isnt all that different than elsewhere.

There are some who use eharmony daily while others only use it one a week.
 
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I live in the 7th? largest metroplex I think. Let me put it this way..my radius of 30 miles covers less than half the metroplex (you can probably figure out where I live). When I first joined eH I regularly got 6-8 matches a day. I was inactive for 4 months last summer and when I re-ante'd I got a lot of matches again...but since the first of the year, I'm lucky to get 8 matches total for a week. So despite the large fish bowl, yes, you will exhaust the supply. The only good thing about it is I think I exhausted the cold cases too...a lot of my recent matches are active and new to eH...which means they aren't as jaded about the process just yet. My response rate seems better to 5 questions, but the poof factor is stronger than ever.
 
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Are you asking about the number of matches that you get? Or the number of matches that communicate? Or are you comparing the effectiveness of eHarmony for people that live in a large city versus those that live in a rural area?

The general experience is that about 95% of your matches will be non-paying members who can't respond. Most non-paying members are also non-active meaning they will not view or close you. I have been on these boards a long time and have never seen any indication that this is particularly affected by living in a very large city versus living in an ordinary big city. People in rural areas simply have a much smaller pool of people to get matches from and may have a different result. The amount of communication that you get is dependent on each individual person as there are a few people here on Advice that report very high percentages of matches responding but this is not the norm as reported by others on here.

Personally I would expect that someplace such NYC to have a lower percentage of people versus population using eHarmony than in a smaller city.

The number of matches and amount of communication is variable and somewhat cyclical. You seem to be doing very well with your experience so far based on my own experience.
 
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I was asking about number of matches you get and number that seem to be real/responsive. I wondered if large metro areas are different, or whether its that I am new so get more matches. Mr79percent's post helped with all this.

I've seen a lot on this site about a large percentage of matches (95% or 75% were mentioned in replies to my post) being nonresponsive/nonpaying. Curious where these numbers come from? I get it, that there are people who do nothing, don't respond to photo requests, etc., but I also had the experience of a match sitting in my box for weeks, no communication attempted on either side, then he wanted to communicate...

In any case, just curious where the 95% or 75% come from, point me to a previous thread if there is one...
 
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Gr8Guy's claim has always been 90%. I am surprised to see that he's now claiming 95%.

Personally, I was on eH for almost 3 years as a paid and unpaid member at various times. I always waited 2 weeks before viewing any new matches, to see if they would view me. That sounds like playing a game of "chicken", but the fact is that this is the only way to know if someone is actively on eH. You can't tell if they are paid or unpaid, but you can see if they are viewing their matches or not (by watching their match status change from "Introduction" to "1 2 3 4").

And my estimate from 3 years of experience, is that about 2/3 of my 1000+ matches, were inactive (they never viewed me).

The eH staffers that post here occasionally dispute these findings, but they have never offered any data of their own. So I'm still standing behind my estimate of 2/3 inactives.
 
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...just curious where the 95% or 75% come from...
Personal opinions... from personal experiences... that may or may not reflect the experiences of the larger population...

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I also had the experience of a match sitting in my box for weeks, no communication attempted on either side, then he wanted to communicate...
Good communications takes time and effort, and many have to balance this with busy lives. While some take a shotgun approach to communicating with new matches and may have more disposable time to do so, others prefer to communicate with two or three at a time. So it is not uncommon for new matches to not initiate communication for weeks or even months.

Occasionally a request for communication comes in that is promising, but I simply do not have the time for, and opt to put it on hold rather than close it. Some get angry and close me out , some do not.
 
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late40smom wrote :
In any case, just curious where the 95% or 75% come from, point me to a previous thread if there is one...
Purely anecdotal evidence based on the experience of users. I would estimate that 90% of my matches are not paying or active. I would have pegged it even a little higher as short as a month ago based on my match activity page, which didn't change at all for over a month. I didn't have a single match view or communicate with me and none of my matches were changing their profiles.

Also, eHarmony disputes most of the user numbers here, but outright refuses to share the percentage of paying members. Putting my tinfoil hat on for a moment, that says to me that the percentage is very high and for business purposes, they don't want the world to know that only about 1 in 10 matches will be able to communicate with you at any given time.
 
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I find the percentages people throw out to be interesting. I have a much higher than average number of matches who are active or paying I guess.

I think these numbers will change with age, gender, area, settings, etc.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
I find the percentages people throw out to be interesting. I have a much higher than average number of matches who are active or paying I guess.

I think these numbers will change with age, gender, area, settings, etc.
I concur...the last couple of weeks my numbers have really tailed off, so it makes it easier for me to tell if someone viewed even if they have anonymous set. About 10-20% seem to be daily users. About 40% are "every couple of days" checkers. The rest don't seem to be active...or they can tell before opening your profile they have have no interest.
 
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